I need some advice..
At work, there's this married, older man that has this crush on me. He has asked me out, and I told him no, he's married and I don't date coworkers. He understood (and told me that he's planning a divorce with his wife). This was about 6 months ago.. over the summer some time..
I stopped going for lunch with him after he asked me and I turned him down, but we still talk. Not as much, and I don't stop by his office much anymore to chat (he does come down to me to say hi and chat for a few mins.). He never brought up the subject of a date again, and he truly seemed to understand and respect my wishes.
Today, he handed me a bottle of Bailey's. He knows I love Bailey's (he teased me for being a Bailey's drinker for months). I told him he shouldn't have to (and I did blush, damnit).. and he said he just wanted to give it to me, no reason at all. After thanking him, I accepted the bottle.
Now that I am out of his office and back in my cube, I am starting to regret accepting the bottle, thinking I should've given it back to him. I am wondering now that I took it, he thinks I am giving him the clear to try to ask me out again.. am I just being paranoid and just go with the flow?
He is a very nice guy.. and even if he was single, closer to my age and not a coworker, I still wouldn't go out with him. he's not my type. I do not feel harassed by him.. but I have a feeling if he does ask me again, I will feel harassed.
What do you guys think? Should I give the bottle back, telling him I don't feel comfortable (though I kinda feel it's too late, and I don't want to hurt his feelings)? Or should I wait and see what he does next? I almost feel like lying and casually say "my boyfriend..." in a random conversation.
(Edited to fix some grammar and spelling errors.. the obvious ones at least!)
At work, there's this married, older man that has this crush on me. He has asked me out, and I told him no, he's married and I don't date coworkers. He understood (and told me that he's planning a divorce with his wife). This was about 6 months ago.. over the summer some time..
I stopped going for lunch with him after he asked me and I turned him down, but we still talk. Not as much, and I don't stop by his office much anymore to chat (he does come down to me to say hi and chat for a few mins.). He never brought up the subject of a date again, and he truly seemed to understand and respect my wishes.
Today, he handed me a bottle of Bailey's. He knows I love Bailey's (he teased me for being a Bailey's drinker for months). I told him he shouldn't have to (and I did blush, damnit).. and he said he just wanted to give it to me, no reason at all. After thanking him, I accepted the bottle.
Now that I am out of his office and back in my cube, I am starting to regret accepting the bottle, thinking I should've given it back to him. I am wondering now that I took it, he thinks I am giving him the clear to try to ask me out again.. am I just being paranoid and just go with the flow?
He is a very nice guy.. and even if he was single, closer to my age and not a coworker, I still wouldn't go out with him. he's not my type. I do not feel harassed by him.. but I have a feeling if he does ask me again, I will feel harassed.
What do you guys think? Should I give the bottle back, telling him I don't feel comfortable (though I kinda feel it's too late, and I don't want to hurt his feelings)? Or should I wait and see what he does next? I almost feel like lying and casually say "my boyfriend..." in a random conversation.
(Edited to fix some grammar and spelling errors.. the obvious ones at least!)
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