|Originally posted by kateang
I'm currently recovering from a breakup as the whole board knows..I've got something which has been bugging me for a long while but I'm not sure how to go about it. What makes a woman beautiful and confident? Is it her beautiful figure, her looks or whatever she has achieved on her own? I'm big and all..like what Tybalt says, to get back at them the best is to look good.. i'm not sure how to.. kinda dumb i know.. I've always seen european ladies looking really confident and all and I'm not sure what is it that makes them look confident.. let me know guys.. teach me how to...
Oh dear it seems to me chuck that you have a confidence problem. I am sorry for the break up and the feelings that you will have experienced and I feel for you in respect of this - however, I feel that I should reply to your question from a male perspective point of view.
Men will always look at the hourglass figure in a young lady - we cannot help it - its the testosterone that does it, but that is not what gets most of us and I think that most women will agree. In this day and age, the in thing is to be wafer thin and I am afraid - its just not on. 99% of women will never have this figure and good for them. I could not take a lady to a restaraunt when all she ate was a few bits of leaves as was on a standing diet - I would feel out of place and not interested at all.
So, to answer your question, I admire and respect women 100 per cent. I work in a team with 7 of them and 4 blokes - me inc.
What makes a woman beautiful ? Its the size of her heart, its the way she smiles, looks after herself, its in her laugh and the abilty to make others laugh, its the way she holds herself and talks to others. Its the warmth of her personality, the way people feel comfortable with her prescence - I could go on but I think that now you have found yourself in all the above - you should start feeling better.
Its NOT in - the size of her breasts, the shape of her ass, its not what she has in the bank, its not the size of her house or car. Its not the tallness or shortness, its not in the way that she maybe thin, medium or large (if you excuse the expression, its not the size of her nose, shape of her mouth or the disabilty she may have or may not. Its not the glasses she wears or whatever. There again are more and I could go on and on.
You send me a recent photo of yourself to my email address of:email@example.com
and I bet I can find an immediate 50 things that I could find attractive about you. However, even without the photo and knowing what I know of you I can name 100 without trying.
So stop worrying yourself, I am honestly nothing to fall in love with, however, my wife made me cry with laughter when I first met her, shake with terror and now and then - still has this affect on me. She says we laughed together and still do. I would rather have someone who smiles with me than not have anyone at all.
Now come on, its possibly time for work. Go and wash your face, dab on a drop of the old perfume, walk into the office with your head held high and you will find the confidence is back. Trust me, if this helps you - maybe you can do the same for me as I get that way a lot and its not worth it one bit.
My love and best wishes
who would be happy / honoured to have you as a friend even from here in the UK - what ever you are like - who cares????