To the people of the forum.. - Page 2

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Originally Posted by Pookie-poo 

I can tell you from experience, no one will miss you.  Sorry to sound so negative, but here's my experience.  At one time I was a regular poster, and did the question of the day.

 

I am so very sorry for all the problems that you've been going thru.  I haven't been around much myself lately ( the new board just runs so slowly for me sometimes that I get frustrated ).  You may feel as if no one cares, but it just isn't true.  I've discovered one of the best places to vent when life gets overwhelming is right here.  There's always someone to give me a cyber-hug or pat on the back.  Even if it's only one person who responds to my occasional rant/vent, it makes me feel better.  Please don't assume no one cares. 

Again, I'm deeply sorry for your losses and for the health issues you're facing. 

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Originally Posted by Pookie-poo 

I can tell you from experience, no one will miss you.  Sorry to sound so negative, but here's my experience.  At one time I was a regular poster, and did the question of the day.

 

A little over a year ago, my sister committed suicide.  Two months later, my mother was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer.  One month later, I was diagnosed with cancer.  Life became too much to handle, and I went into hibernation.  Not one single person noticed that I was gone, nobody sent me an IM or e-mail to ask what's up, or are you okay.  Mom went through chemo/radiation.  I went through major surgery, chemo/radiation.  Mom died.  I haven't... yet.  I came back here a couple weeks ago, and posted a few replies.  It was pretty obvious that either no one remembers me, or no one particularly cares.  I'll probably just go back to lurking and reading.  Maybe post about CRF once in a while.  Or maybe I'll just re-disappear.  Actually, I guess I no longer care.

I know it seems this way at times. That no one would notice.Just this is such a large forum I imagine it is hard to keep things personal.

You sure been through some hard times. was this in the last year?

I too have expereinces with cancer in a relative and myself. 

You can PM me if you like. I will talk with you. I am new here. But old since I been here since October.
 

Wow.. I have been reading and posting here for a couple years, but I only really post pics. I guess my shyness keeps me from making connections, but I do appreciate all your kitties and stories... and I am sure that most of you are great people too   I hope that everyone understands that if you can't get in here every day, you lose track or miss some of the posts, and maybe that's what's happening...it's hard to get to them all. Life has it's ups and downs for us all, sometimes we are busier than others.... I apologize for not being able to keep up myself... between work, college, kids and now this photo project (Thanks Karen! ) I have hardly any extra time... sometimes I just hop in here real quick.

Draco- glad you decided to stay!

Pookie-poo - so sorry for all you've gone through, and are still dealing with.

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Originally Posted by morningrl 

Wow.. I have been reading and posting here for a couple years, but I only really post pics. I guess my shyness keeps me from making connections, but I do appreciate all your kitties and stories... and I am sure that most of you are great people too   I hope that everyone understands that if you can't get in here every day, you lose track or miss some of the posts, and maybe that's what's happening...it's hard to get to them all. Life has it's ups and downs for us all, sometimes we are busier than others.... I apologize for not being able to keep up myself... between work, college, kids and now this photo project (Thanks Karen! ) I have hardly any extra time... sometimes I just hop in here real quick.

 

Draco- glad you decided to stay!

 

Pookie-poo - so sorry for all you've gone through, and are still dealing with.

That is very well said!  I've been a member here for a long time and gone through periods where I have been more active than others; depending on what else is going on in my life.  A lot of great people have come and gone here during that time too.  Some come back; some don't.  It's just the way of online friendships I guess.  It's hard to know if they just got interested in something else; or if they have something going on.  Some people appreciate it more than others when you ask about things too.  I have asked after people before; and gotten the impression that at that time, they just didn't care to share or be found so to speak. 

Sorry you feel that way but this place is real clicky.

On line relationships can be tough. Ultimately, I'm not certain they last unless there is some degree of outside contact. Phone, letters, meetings, etc.

In fact, any close friends i have, I may have met on line- but we talk on the phone, eventually hang out in person etc, it is special-

But at the end of the day, it is just a forum and just the Internet.There is a huge world out there, and this is but a small part of my (personally) world. :) And ya, you can get "attached" I guess to people on line, but if I had to go without Internet, I would be OK.

And well, as far as leaving a forum- more power to anyone who wants to go. For 10+ years (and still do) I ran an on line chat/forum community- I have seen both sides of it. Too many times someone would threaten "I'm going to leave" and never leave. I finally got jaded to just tune it out. Sorry if that sounds cynical or negative, it's just reality- at least with my experience, the "I'm going to leave" people are

# 1- Actually going to leave

or more likely

# 2 - Seeking Attention.

Why seeking attention? Also in my experience, people don't announce they are leaving- they just leave. Same with suicide threats, rarely is it announced, it is just done. Announcing it is baiting to be begged not to leave, something I have never ever done is beg someone not to leave. Maybe im mean, or cynical- but I don't think so. I just don't like games.

Hope I didn't sound too mean, and to Pookie sorry for everything you['re going through. Will be sending prayers your way. If you ever feel like venting, or talking- shoot me a PM

Mel