To the people of the forum..

[pookie-poo]

I can tell you from experience, no one will miss you.  Sorry to sound so negative, but here's my experience.  At one time I was a regular poster, and did the question of the day.

A little over a year ago, my sister committed suicide.  Two months later, my mother was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer.  One month later, I was diagnosed with cancer.  Life became too much to handle, and I went into hibernation.  Not one single person noticed that I was gone, nobody sent me an IM or e-mail to ask what's up, or are you okay.  Mom went through chemo/radiation.  I went through major surgery, chemo/radiation.  Mom died.  I haven't... yet.  I came back here a couple weeks ago, and posted a few replies.  It was pretty obvious that either no one remembers me, or no one particularly cares.  I'll probably just go back to lurking and reading.  Maybe post about CRF once in a while.  Or maybe I'll just re-disappear.  Actually, I guess I no longer care.

 

[Draco]

I can tell you from experience, no one will miss you.  Sorry to sound so negative, but here's my experience.  At one time I was a regular poster, and did the question of the day.

A little over a year ago, my sister committed suicide.  Two months later, my mother was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer.  One month later, I was diagnosed with cancer.  Life became too much to handle, and I went into hibernation.  Not one single person noticed that I was gone, nobody sent me an IM or e-mail to ask what's up, or are you okay.  Mom went through chemo/radiation.  I went through major surgery, chemo/radiation.  Mom died.  I haven't... yet.  I came back here a couple weeks ago, and posted a few replies.  It was pretty obvious that either no one remembers me, or no one particularly cares.  I'll probably just go back to lurking and reading.  Maybe post about CRF once in a while.  Or maybe I'll just re-disappear.  Actually, I guess I no longer care.

I am really sorry to hear your experience, Pookie. I never met you previously, so I really can't say much in that aspect. I do hope things are looking up for you a little at least in your life.. Things are obviously rough.

 

[carolina]

I can tell you from experience, no one will miss you.  Sorry to sound so negative, but here's my experience.  At one time I was a regular poster, and did the question of the day.

A little over a year ago, my sister committed suicide.  Two months later, my mother was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer.  One month later, I was diagnosed with cancer.  Life became too much to handle, and I went into hibernation.  Not one single person noticed that I was gone, nobody sent me an IM or e-mail to ask what's up, or are you okay.  Mom went through chemo/radiation.  I went through major surgery, chemo/radiation.  Mom died.  I haven't... yet.  I came back here a couple weeks ago, and posted a few replies.  It was pretty obvious that either no one remembers me, or no one particularly cares.  I'll probably just go back to lurking and reading.  Maybe post about CRF once in a while.  Or maybe I'll just re-disappear.  Actually, I guess I no longer care.

I am so so sorry.... I am glad you came back.... RIP mom and Sister
Hope you are doing alright

 
I am really sorry to hear your experience, Pookie. I never met you previously, so I really can't say much in that aspect. I do hope things are looking up for you a little at least in your life.. Things are obviously rough.

Draco, I am glad you are staying - we do care, and we do make good friends here..... I know I have :nod: TCS is a great place to be.... Not perfect, but life is not perfect either... :lol3:

 

[sillyjilly]

I can tell you from experience, no one will miss you.  Sorry to sound so negative, but here's my experience.  At one time I was a regular poster, and did the question of the day.

A little over a year ago, my sister committed suicide.  Two months later, my mother was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer.  One month later, I was diagnosed with cancer.  Life became too much to handle, and I went into hibernation.  Not one single person noticed that I was gone, nobody sent me an IM or e-mail to ask what's up, or are you okay.  Mom went through chemo/radiation.  I went through major surgery, chemo/radiation.  Mom died.  I haven't... yet.  I came back here a couple weeks ago, and posted a few replies.  It was pretty obvious that either no one remembers me, or no one particularly cares.  I'll probably just go back to lurking and reading.  Maybe post about CRF once in a while.  Or maybe I'll just re-disappear.  Actually, I guess I no longer care.

Kelli Jo, I miss you and would miss you! Even though I myself had not been on here much in a while, I still look for posts from friends and those who I just always want to see what they are saying. I am sorry for what you are going through and what you've gone through. It's beginning to get me wondering if there is something in the water there. My step-mom that lived near you has cancer now as well and her sister had it too. I am hoping nothing but the best for you and wish that they are able to treat you and that you will be cancer free. If you ever want to talk, PM me or call (you might still have my number) You are a wonderful person and you will be missed and thought about whether you think so or not!

 

[ruthyb]

I can tell you from experience, no one will miss you.  Sorry to sound so negative, but here's my experience.  At one time I was a regular poster, and did the question of the day.

A little over a year ago, my sister committed suicide.  Two months later, my mother was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer.  One month later, I was diagnosed with cancer.  Life became too much to handle, and I went into hibernation.  Not one single person noticed that I was gone, nobody sent me an IM or e-mail to ask what's up, or are you okay.  Mom went through chemo/radiation.  I went through major surgery, chemo/radiation.  Mom died.  I haven't... yet.  I came back here a couple weeks ago, and posted a few replies.  It was pretty obvious that either no one remembers me, or no one particularly cares.  I'll probably just go back to lurking and reading.  Maybe post about CRF once in a while.  Or maybe I'll just re-disappear.  Actually, I guess I no longer care.

Oh no hun,that's awful,I am so sorry that you have had such a crappy time of it.I am not sure who you are but I always seem to notice when a member of this forum hasn't been on for a while. I really miss Cheryl (Bellaandme) and I lost her address so I couldn't send her a christmas card this year

 I feel like such a bad friend as she has had it really rough to but she has always been here for me on here along with a lot of others. I think on here,well I personally seem to get interact more with some than others and that is for the reason only that at the times when I am reguarly on here they are on here,the others probably live in different time zones and post at different times,well thats what I think anyway. I look forward to regular members posts and it took me a while when TCS changed to recognise people as no siggys anymore but now I just know who they are and I miss them when they don't post for a while. i remember when I first joined I thought no way would I remember anyones usernames let alone their real names and now I am astounded as to how many peoples real names that I know. I can only say sorry that you feel that nobody bothered or missed you when you left and had such a rough time,sometimes I have crap times in my life but I know that if I post on here people off here will be here for me and mostly I have found the members of TCS to be very loving,kind and extremely generous.x

 

[calico2222]

I can tell you from experience, no one will miss you.  Sorry to sound so negative, but here's my experience.  At one time I was a regular poster, and did the question of the day.

A little over a year ago, my sister committed suicide.  Two months later, my mother was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer.  One month later, I was diagnosed with cancer.  Life became too much to handle, and I went into hibernation.  Not one single person noticed that I was gone, nobody sent me an IM or e-mail to ask what's up, or are you okay.  Mom went through chemo/radiation.  I went through major surgery, chemo/radiation.  Mom died.  I haven't... yet.  I came back here a couple weeks ago, and posted a few replies.  It was pretty obvious that either no one remembers me, or no one particularly cares.  I'll probably just go back to lurking and reading.  Maybe post about CRF once in a while.  Or maybe I'll just re-disappear.  Actually, I guess I no longer care.

Oh honey 

 I am so sorry you had to go through all that. For what its worth, I DO remember you and I had no idea you were dealing with all that. I was away for most of spring and summer due to RL (nothing as serious as yours) and, if you posted about it, I must have missed it. I'm so sorry about your sister and your mother. That with your own health problems is more than one person should bear in a lifetime, much less in that short of period. How are you doing now?

 

[bluerexbear]

Oh my goodness!    I didn't know you before (I have a hard time remembering names on here, too...I guess because of all the kitties names there are to remember as well??  Maybe I am just old and my memory is starting to fail?)

I am so sorry for the pain you have suffered with the losses of your mom and your sister.  I pray that your battle with cancer will be won and you will go on to live many happy years!!!  God bless you!

I can tell you from experience, no one will miss you.  Sorry to sound so negative, but here's my experience.  At one time I was a regular poster, and did the question of the day.

A little over a year ago, my sister committed suicide.  Two months later, my mother was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer.  One month later, I was diagnosed with cancer.  Life became too much to handle, and I went into hibernation.  Not one single person noticed that I was gone, nobody sent me an IM or e-mail to ask what's up, or are you okay.  Mom went through chemo/radiation.  I went through major surgery, chemo/radiation.  Mom died.  I haven't... yet.  I came back here a couple weeks ago, and posted a few replies.  It was pretty obvious that either no one remembers me, or no one particularly cares.  I'll probably just go back to lurking and reading.  Maybe post about CRF once in a while.  Or maybe I'll just re-disappear.  Actually, I guess I no longer care.

 

[meuzettesmom]

Finding that connection with people and feel you are valudated is important.

Many days I too don't feel if I leave nobody would miss me.

BUT you just don't know what kind of impact you have on another people who reads your stuff.

Maybe not very many speak to you, or me.

We are here, I'll be friends with anyone willing.

This is a very relaxed forum.

Some I been on have not been. So many rules and toes to step on. Heck I am accident prone.

It wouldn't take much to say something stupid without knowing it.

Draco I personally am glad you are here too.

 

[Draco]

GROUP HUG!!!

 

[ldg]

Kelli Jo, something must have happened with the platform transfer, because I think about you all the time and how you're doing. Sometimes people just take a break from TCS for whatever reason,, and those of us still here feel uncomfortable "intruding." I knew you were going through a difficult time after what happened with your sister. I sent a PM and never got a reply. You hadn't been around, and I thought maybe you'd just walked away and didn't have email notification of PMs or something... and the site lost a lot of people in the transfer because so many got frustrated with problems/issues. I then thought maybe that had happened to you. It's really a bummer. And just yesterday, I said :censor:, I'm PMing her again. I looked on your profile - and saw you were back and posting! I've not been on TCS as much as I was for a while, and I'm mostly in nutrition and health these days, so I thought I'd just not been seeing your posts.

So you are definitely missed. And when people disappear, it's not that people don't necessarily notice - sometimes it's that we don't want to intrude. ESPECIALLY if we know there have been personal, unhappy things going on. :heart3: You told us about the tumor in your mom's lung.. then never provided any updates. I figured you didn't want to talk about it.

It's like the health forum - when there's a thread on a kitty, and the kitty passes, the mods lock the thread down SO quickly, people never get the chance to say anything. If the person isn't up to posting in the bridge forum right away, they're just off there alone with their grief, because no one feels comfortable sending a PM. Should we say something? Shouldn't we? Is it just bringing up pain? :dk:

So it is definitely NOT that people don't notice. It's that when you disappear we often don't know if we should reach out or not.

I'm SO sorry to hear about you mom and your battle with cancer.

:heart3: :heart3:

 

[libby74]

I can tell you from experience, no one will miss you.  Sorry to sound so negative, but here's my experience.  At one time I was a regular poster, and did the question of the day.

I am so very sorry for all the problems that you've been going thru.  I haven't been around much myself lately ( the new board just runs so slowly for me sometimes that I get frustrated ).  You may feel as if no one cares, but it just isn't true.  I've discovered one of the best places to vent when life gets overwhelming is right here.  There's always someone to give me a cyber-hug or pat on the back.  Even if it's only one person who responds to my occasional rant/vent, it makes me feel better.  Please don't assume no one cares. 

Again, I'm deeply sorry for your losses and for the health issues you're facing. 

 

[meuzettesmom]

I can tell you from experience, no one will miss you.  Sorry to sound so negative, but here's my experience.  At one time I was a regular poster, and did the question of the day.

A little over a year ago, my sister committed suicide.  Two months later, my mother was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer.  One month later, I was diagnosed with cancer.  Life became too much to handle, and I went into hibernation.  Not one single person noticed that I was gone, nobody sent me an IM or e-mail to ask what's up, or are you okay.  Mom went through chemo/radiation.  I went through major surgery, chemo/radiation.  Mom died.  I haven't... yet.  I came back here a couple weeks ago, and posted a few replies.  It was pretty obvious that either no one remembers me, or no one particularly cares.  I'll probably just go back to lurking and reading.  Maybe post about CRF once in a while.  Or maybe I'll just re-disappear.  Actually, I guess I no longer care.

I know it seems this way at times. That no one would notice.Just this is such a large forum I imagine it is hard to keep things personal.

You sure been through some hard times. was this in the last year?

I too have expereinces with cancer in a relative and myself. 

You can PM me if you like. I will talk with you. I am new here. But old since I been here since October.
 

 

[morningrl]

Wow.. I have been reading and posting here for a couple years, but I only really post pics. I guess my shyness keeps me from making connections, but I do appreciate all your kitties and stories... and I am sure that most of you are great people too

  I hope that everyone understands that if you can't get in here every day, you lose track or miss some of the posts, and maybe that's what's happening...it's hard to get to them all. Life has it's ups and downs for us all, sometimes we are busier than others.... I apologize for not being able to keep up myself... between work, college, kids and now this photo project (Thanks Karen!

) I have hardly any extra time... sometimes I just hop in here real quick.

Draco- glad you decided to stay!

Pookie-poo - so sorry for all you've gone through, and are still dealing with.

 

[MoochNNoodles]

Wow.. I have been reading and posting here for a couple years, but I only really post pics. I guess my shyness keeps me from making connections, but I do appreciate all your kitties and stories... and I am sure that most of you are great people too

  I hope that everyone understands that if you can't get in here every day, you lose track or miss some of the posts, and maybe that's what's happening...it's hard to get to them all. Life has it's ups and downs for us all, sometimes we are busier than others.... I apologize for not being able to keep up myself... between work, college, kids and now this photo project (Thanks Karen!

) I have hardly any extra time... sometimes I just hop in here real quick.

Draco- glad you decided to stay!

Pookie-poo - so sorry for all you've gone through, and are still dealing with.

That is very well said!  I've been a member here for a long time and gone through periods where I have been more active than others; depending on what else is going on in my life.  A lot of great people have come and gone here during that time too.  Some come back; some don't.  It's just the way of online friendships I guess.  It's hard to know if they just got interested in something else; or if they have something going on.  Some people appreciate it more than others when you ask about things too.  I have asked after people before; and gotten the impression that at that time, they just didn't care to share or be found so to speak. 

 

[zohdee]

Sorry you feel that way but this place is real clicky.

 

[nebula]

On line relationships can be tough. Ultimately, I'm not certain they last unless there is some degree of outside contact. Phone, letters, meetings, etc.

In fact, any close friends i have, I may have met on line- but we talk on the phone, eventually hang out in person etc, it is special-

But at the end of the day, it is just a forum and just the Internet.There is a huge world out there, and this is but a small part of my (personally) world. And ya, you can get "attached" I guess to people on line, but if I had to go without Internet, I would be OK.

And well, as far as leaving a forum- more power to anyone who wants to go. For 10+ years (and still do) I ran an on line chat/forum community- I have seen both sides of it. Too many times someone would threaten "I'm going to leave" and never leave. I finally got jaded to just tune it out. Sorry if that sounds cynical or negative, it's just reality- at least with my experience, the "I'm going to leave" people are

# 1- Actually going to leave

or more likely

# 2 - Seeking Attention.

Why seeking attention? Also in my experience, people don't announce they are leaving- they just leave. Same with suicide threats, rarely is it announced, it is just done. Announcing it is baiting to be begged not to leave, something I have never ever done is beg someone not to leave. Maybe im mean, or cynical- but I don't think so. I just don't like games.

Hope I didn't sound too mean, and to Pookie sorry for everything you['re going through. Will be sending prayers your way. If you ever feel like venting, or talking- shoot me a PM

Mel