To the people of the forum..

Don't you dare leave! We love you AND your two precious, adorable furbabies!

Awww I am so glad that you aren't leaving,we would miss you.xx

Draco, add me to the list of people who would really miss you and your posts if you left. I'm glad you decided to stay.

you must be kidding right?...

























... I´m kidding......Hope your social director have been helpful sometime...

I'm so glad you decided to stick around! You WOULD be missed if you leave, because it's the members (and the mods, of course) that make this group what it is. I've been on other forums were people were down right nasty to each other, and if you weren't in their little "clique" you were either ignored or harrassed (sound like high school?). Here, we laugh and cry with each other, we disagree at times but we get over it. Sometimes RL pulls me away for a while, but I always come back "home" because, even though I've never met anyone here in person, this group feels like family.

 

**now I got the warm fuzzies  **

Go ahead and be "sappy" I love "sappy" GLAD you are going to stick to us and stay on the site!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Count me among those who don't want you to leave!  While there's no way to really get to know everyone who's a member here, I feel as if I've made some wonderful friends here.  And while I don't get to the site as often as I'd like sometimes, I couldn't just leave.

Glad you're staying, sweetie!

What makes this site great is the variety of members. Everyone has something to contribute. And if people who don't always agree with the others leave, the site will deteriorate. We need a broad spectrum of views, age and experience. As long as we respect each other and our wonderful mods do their job to keep it that way, then TCS is a force to be reckoned with in the world. So I am very glad you have decided to stay - TCS would be poorer without you.

I'm so glad that you have decided to stay!.

 

TCS is such a great place!.  I know myself, my friends here have seen me through my happiest and saddest times

I'm glad to hear you're not leaving! Seriously, I've loved having your presence on the site. Plus Monet and Picasso are beautiful cats!

And we wouldn't miss just YOU - we'd miss the BEAUTIFUL Monet and Miss Cassie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My advice to any member that feels left out is to post pictures up of your fur kids on a regular basis, because it's because of them you do get noticed 

Sometimes I post and get hardly any replies and yeah it does sometimes get to me but then I realise that I am in the UK and most of you are in the US so when I am posting you are probably ZZZZZZZZZZZZ.x

I am in the US and I post things sometimes that do not get replies. I sometimes feel like no one will miss me too, but I know that is incorrect. At least I hope so! But what I am getting at is almost everyone feels left out sometimes.

 

I would miss you catkiki!
Sometimes I post things that get hardly any responses, too. I just assure myself it's not only me!

I'm not a big poster much anymore due to being extra busy, but I do come and read a lot, and even though i don't respond to all posts that doesn't mean that I don't value each and everyone! So, even if there are not a lot of responses to your posts, don't think that means that no one cares what you are saying! We all like all of us!

Believe me....... We WOULD notice and miss you. TCS is just a wonderful community of diverse personalities and it is such a joy to be amongst each and everyone of you

I am glad you decided to stay. 

Of course we would miss you! 

 

I can tell you from experience, no one will miss you.  Sorry to sound so negative, but here's my experience.  At one time I was a regular poster, and did the question of the day.

 

A little over a year ago, my sister committed suicide.  Two months later, my mother was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer.  One month later, I was diagnosed with cancer.  Life became too much to handle, and I went into hibernation.  Not one single person noticed that I was gone, nobody sent me an IM or e-mail to ask what's up, or are you okay.  Mom went through chemo/radiation.  I went through major surgery, chemo/radiation.  Mom died.  I haven't... yet.  I came back here a couple weeks ago, and posted a few replies.  It was pretty obvious that either no one remembers me, or no one particularly cares.  I'll probably just go back to lurking and reading.  Maybe post about CRF once in a while.  Or maybe I'll just re-disappear.  Actually, I guess I no longer care.

I am so so sorry.... I am glad you came back.... RIP mom and Sister
Hope you are doing alright


Draco, I am glad you are staying - we do care, and we do make good friends here..... I know I have TCS is a great place to be.... Not perfect, but life is not perfect either...

Kelli Jo, I miss you and would miss you! Even though I myself had not been on here much in a while, I still look for posts from friends and those who I just always want to see what they are saying. I am sorry for what you are going through and what you've gone through. It's beginning to get me wondering if there is something in the water there. My step-mom that lived near you has cancer now as well and her sister had it too. I am hoping nothing but the best for you and wish that they are able to treat you and that you will be cancer free. If you ever want to talk, PM me or call (you might still have my number) You are a wonderful person and you will be missed and thought about whether you think so or not!

Oh no hun,that's awful,I am so sorry that you have had such a crappy time of it.I am not sure who you are but I always seem to notice when a member of this forum hasn't been on for a while. I really miss Cheryl (Bellaandme) and I lost her address so I couldn't send her a christmas card this year I feel like such a bad friend as she has had it really rough to but she has always been here for me on here along with a lot of others. I think on here,well I personally seem to get interact more with some than others and that is for the reason only that at the times when I am reguarly on here they are on here,the others probably live in different time zones and post at different times,well thats what I think anyway. I look forward to regular members posts and it took me a while when TCS changed to recognise people as no siggys anymore but now I just know who they are and I miss them when they don't post for a while. i remember when I first joined I thought no way would I remember anyones usernames let alone their real names and now I am astounded as to how many peoples real names that I know. I can only say sorry that you feel that nobody bothered or missed you when you left and had such a rough time,sometimes I have crap times in my life but I know that if I post on here people off here will be here for me and mostly I have found the members of TCS to be very loving,kind and extremely generous.x

Oh honey  I am so sorry you had to go through all that. For what its worth, I DO remember you and I had no idea you were dealing with all that. I was away for most of spring and summer due to RL (nothing as serious as yours) and, if you posted about it, I must have missed it. I'm so sorry about your sister and your mother. That with your own health problems is more than one person should bear in a lifetime, much less in that short of period. How are you doing now?

 

 

 

Oh my goodness!  :(  I didn't know you before (I have a hard time remembering names on here, too...I guess because of all the kitties names there are to remember as well??  Maybe I am just old and my memory is starting to fail?)

 

I am so sorry for the pain you have suffered with the losses of your mom and your sister.  I pray that your battle with cancer will be won and you will go on to live many happy years!!!  God bless you!

 

Finding that connection with people and feel you are valudated is important.

Many days I too don't feel if I leave nobody would miss me.

BUT you just don't know what kind of impact you have on another people who reads your stuff.

Maybe not very many speak to you, or me.

We are here, I'll be friends with anyone willing.

This is a very relaxed forum.

Some I been on have not been. So many rules and toes to step on. Heck I am accident prone.

It wouldn't take much to say something stupid without knowing it.

Draco I personally am glad you are here too.

Kelli Jo, something must have happened with the platform transfer, because I think about you all the time and how you're doing. Sometimes people just take a break from TCS for whatever reason,, and those of us still here feel uncomfortable "intruding." I knew you were going through a difficult time after what happened with your sister. I sent a PM and never got a reply. You hadn't been around, and I thought maybe you'd just walked away and didn't have email notification of PMs or something... and the site lost a lot of people in the transfer because so many got frustrated with problems/issues. I then thought maybe that had happened to you. It's really a bummer. And just yesterday, I said , I'm PMing her again. I looked on your profile - and saw you were back and posting! I've not been on TCS as much as I was for a while, and I'm mostly in nutrition and health these days, so I thought I'd just not been seeing your posts.

So you are definitely missed. And when people disappear, it's not that people don't necessarily notice - sometimes it's that we don't want to intrude. ESPECIALLY if we know there have been personal, unhappy things going on. You told us about the tumor in your mom's lung.. then never provided any updates. I figured you didn't want to talk about it.

It's like the health forum - when there's a thread on a kitty, and the kitty passes, the mods lock the thread down SO quickly, people never get the chance to say anything. If the person isn't up to posting in the bridge forum right away, they're just off there alone with their grief, because no one feels comfortable sending a PM. Should we say something? Shouldn't we? Is it just bringing up pain?

So it is definitely NOT that people don't notice. It's that when you disappear we often don't know if we should reach out or not.

I'm SO sorry to hear about you mom and your battle with cancer.