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My two cats can't seem to coexist peacefully. After 6 months of trying numerous ways to calm and integrate them, we had to physically segregate them. Keeping them apart is a real pain in the butt and I'd like to try integrating them again but could use suggestions.
Here's the full timeline and background:
January 2007: Brought female into the house. She was about 1.5 years old. Previously feral for a little while then fostered somewhere. Very sweet and gentle calico / maine coone mix. No problems with humans whatsoever.
March 2007: Brought male into the house. Very athletic and wary American short hair. He was 9 months old and feral until the adoption group got him off the street. He's high strung and hides a lot. I first introduced him to one room only. After a couple of weeks of spending time with him in there, I opened the door and allowed him and the female to see each other. She hissed and blustered. He got scared and attacked her.
Next month or two: They slowly integrated and got along basically okay. Sat in same room. Slept on same bed. No great love between them but things seemed okay. Occasional minor swatting and growling but nothing bad.
This devolved into regular fights. Everything would seem fine, and then we'd hear "MRROOOOW-OW-OW!!!" from the other room. We'd run in to find hair everywhere and the cats facing off. Usually the female got the worst of it. It was usually her hair on the floor. We found his claws embedded in her skin once or twice.
We tried feeding them together, spending time soothing them together. We gave them separate cat boxes. We tried Feliway plugins and Rescue Remedy drops all designed to soothe them. We played with each of them. And they would spend most of their time coexisting peacefully. Then after weeks of peace we'd come home and find her face all bloody and cut up from fighting. She never seemed to do any damage to him.
After six months of trying to smooth things out, these sudden fights became too difficult to bear. We installed a door that separates our house into two halves. And they have not mixed since.
Now they just sniff each other under the crack of that door, and occasionally reach under it to take swipes at each other. Sometimes we open the central door to let them see each other. She hisses, he starts to run at her, we slam the door.
Can these cats ever get along? We are afraid to even try since the male has actually harmed the female in the past.
Would appreciate any advice. We love them too much to give up either one. But it sucks having to split our house and keep them separate. We may move at some point to a house which isn't so easy to divide. And I don't know what we will do then...
Thanks!
My two cats can't seem to coexist peacefully. After 6 months of trying numerous ways to calm and integrate them, we had to physically segregate them. Keeping them apart is a real pain in the butt and I'd like to try integrating them again but could use suggestions.
Here's the full timeline and background:
January 2007: Brought female into the house. She was about 1.5 years old. Previously feral for a little while then fostered somewhere. Very sweet and gentle calico / maine coone mix. No problems with humans whatsoever.
March 2007: Brought male into the house. Very athletic and wary American short hair. He was 9 months old and feral until the adoption group got him off the street. He's high strung and hides a lot. I first introduced him to one room only. After a couple of weeks of spending time with him in there, I opened the door and allowed him and the female to see each other. She hissed and blustered. He got scared and attacked her.
Next month or two: They slowly integrated and got along basically okay. Sat in same room. Slept on same bed. No great love between them but things seemed okay. Occasional minor swatting and growling but nothing bad.
This devolved into regular fights. Everything would seem fine, and then we'd hear "MRROOOOW-OW-OW!!!" from the other room. We'd run in to find hair everywhere and the cats facing off. Usually the female got the worst of it. It was usually her hair on the floor. We found his claws embedded in her skin once or twice.
We tried feeding them together, spending time soothing them together. We gave them separate cat boxes. We tried Feliway plugins and Rescue Remedy drops all designed to soothe them. We played with each of them. And they would spend most of their time coexisting peacefully. Then after weeks of peace we'd come home and find her face all bloody and cut up from fighting. She never seemed to do any damage to him.
After six months of trying to smooth things out, these sudden fights became too difficult to bear. We installed a door that separates our house into two halves. And they have not mixed since.
Now they just sniff each other under the crack of that door, and occasionally reach under it to take swipes at each other. Sometimes we open the central door to let them see each other. She hisses, he starts to run at her, we slam the door.
Can these cats ever get along? We are afraid to even try since the male has actually harmed the female in the past.
Would appreciate any advice. We love them too much to give up either one. But it sucks having to split our house and keep them separate. We may move at some point to a house which isn't so easy to divide. And I don't know what we will do then...
Thanks!