My husband and I live in NYC and have been talking for years about moving to South Carolina.
We found a town we love and visited a few times, met some great people, saw a few houses that could work for us.
I've always just had this caveat that I want to stay in NYC until after I have a baby.
My family lives here and I'm a labor and delivery nurse so I know all the doctors and nurses here.
But lately I've been itching to move sooner.
I'm not happy at my job here, and am not having success with finding a new one, the cold weather is bringing me down and the crowds and noise of NYC wears me out.
I think we'll both be much happier in SC.
My husband works from home so he can do it anywhere.
We're trying to get pregnant, but no luck so far (only been like 2 months...) but if we put our lives on hold until after I have a baby we could stay here another year or more, unhappy.
If we start the process of moving down there now, there are a few options - if I'm already pregnant at the time of the move we could stay with my parents for a months here in NY around the time I'm due, so I can still have the baby at the hospital where I work.
Or I could just deliver down there and my parents would come visit.
My husband likes the idea of moving before a baby enters the picture and he argues that it'll be physically easier and less stressful to move before having a baby than after.
I agree there's some truth to that.
It'd be nice to be settled in a house before bringing a baby home.
I'm just bad with change.... It's something we both really want but it makes me anxious.
I worry I won't be able to handle the stress of moving combined with the stress of having a baby at the same time.
It's also hard because I'm close with my mom, but she can be very opinionated and overbearing.
She obviously wants me to stay here as long as possible and I don't think she'll be supportive if we announce we're moving now.
But I also think that BECAUSE she's overbearing it'd be good for my husband and I to get some space from her and create our own lives as a family and we see that taking place in SC.
Such a hard decision....
And there's nothing pushing us out of our comfort zone except each other.
We found a town we love and visited a few times, met some great people, saw a few houses that could work for us.
I've always just had this caveat that I want to stay in NYC until after I have a baby.
My family lives here and I'm a labor and delivery nurse so I know all the doctors and nurses here.
But lately I've been itching to move sooner.
I'm not happy at my job here, and am not having success with finding a new one, the cold weather is bringing me down and the crowds and noise of NYC wears me out.
I think we'll both be much happier in SC.
My husband works from home so he can do it anywhere.
We're trying to get pregnant, but no luck so far (only been like 2 months...) but if we put our lives on hold until after I have a baby we could stay here another year or more, unhappy.
If we start the process of moving down there now, there are a few options - if I'm already pregnant at the time of the move we could stay with my parents for a months here in NY around the time I'm due, so I can still have the baby at the hospital where I work.
Or I could just deliver down there and my parents would come visit.
My husband likes the idea of moving before a baby enters the picture and he argues that it'll be physically easier and less stressful to move before having a baby than after.
I agree there's some truth to that.
It'd be nice to be settled in a house before bringing a baby home.
I'm just bad with change.... It's something we both really want but it makes me anxious.
I worry I won't be able to handle the stress of moving combined with the stress of having a baby at the same time.
It's also hard because I'm close with my mom, but she can be very opinionated and overbearing.
She obviously wants me to stay here as long as possible and I don't think she'll be supportive if we announce we're moving now.
But I also think that BECAUSE she's overbearing it'd be good for my husband and I to get some space from her and create our own lives as a family and we see that taking place in SC.
Such a hard decision....
And there's nothing pushing us out of our comfort zone except each other.