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post #31 of 47
11/8/11 at 11:09am

Sending you many good vibes.gifand hope all is well very soon.

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post #32 of 47
11/8/11 at 12:22pm
Thread Starter 
Thank you heartpump.gif

Its been rough seeing what other people, who have no idea who I am or know how experienced I am , say about me because I am a female in a male-dominated sport. Luckily those same friends that were there have been standing up for me against those comments and setting stories straight. If it weren't for them all offering their ears, hugs, kind words, and reminding me that I could not have acted any differently in the situation, I would be in a much worse spot mentally. I also do realize that I don't need to worry about what people who know nothing about me have to say, but it has also upset myself and some of my friends that people would be so rude and inconsiderate when two families are aching over this tragedy.

I come from a background of racing (though I am the only drag racer in the family), and even though we all know the extreme risk going in, you never really think it will happen to you. It has really opened everyone's eyes to the reality of it. Especially considering the vehicles involved were not fast race cars, but daily driven street cars. We all go out to the track to keep it legal and off the street where risk is greater, but it is still a dangerous sport no matter how many precautions one takes.
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post #33 of 47
11/8/11 at 5:40pm

Oh no! That's so horrible. I'm very sorry to hear what you've been through.vibes.gif vibes.gif

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post #34 of 47
11/8/11 at 5:49pm

Take care of yourself.  One can always second-guess your actions.  I did this for years after my parents were in a serious auto accident.

It of course didn't change the outcome.

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post #35 of 47
11/8/11 at 8:32pm

Oh hon, many hugs.gifhugs.gifhugs.gif and vibes.gifvibes.gifvibes.gifgoing out to you. I can't even imagine what you are going though. 

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post #36 of 47
11/9/11 at 3:33am

Big hugs Tara.

 

While I dont know how you are feeling I do understand everything you are saying. DF and his cousin drag race also. They compete in the non street cars on a legal drag strip and its scary every time we would go because you never knew what could happen. Even the most experianced driver can have issues.

 

If you ever need to talk Im only a pm away!

 

 

:hugs:

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post #37 of 47
11/9/11 at 5:20am

Tara, I'm so sorry. I cannot even begin to imagine how you're feeling.

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post #38 of 47
11/9/11 at 9:32am
What a terrible thing to happen - dealing witht he aftermath of awful events is always very hard, even worse when you are directly involved. But you know, and those you care about know, what really happened and that you were not to blame. No one else matters. But we all question our own actions even when we are not in any way responsible, and it must be very hard. Many many vibes to help you get through this.
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post #39 of 47
11/9/11 at 10:04am
Just sending more vibes to you today vibes.gifvibes.gifvibes.gifvibes.gif Just checked back in to see how you are doing hugs.gifhugs.gifhugs.gif
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post #40 of 47
11/9/11 at 3:19pm

I've never really had a problem with my cats being up all night. I turn my cats' schedule to my own by keeping the awake all day long and playing with them lots. If I see them sleeping during the day, I wake them up and play with them really hard. If they try to sneak off for a nap.....wakey wakey! Playtime!  One full day of that gets them onto my own sleep wake schedule.

 

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post #41 of 47
11/9/11 at 5:02pm
Thread Starter 
Thank you all for the continued vibes!

Rob took me to the performance shop a couple friends own last night, so I could just be around some positive friends and talk with people. We discussed building my race Camaro and all that (they cant wait), talked a little about Sunday's horrible events. I was almost brought to tears in amazement of how wonderful these friends I have are with the help they are offering me with my car and by staying positive and making sure I do too. Even someone I met for the first time last night was offering to help me fix the body damage when we are ready (I had seen him around the track in past years, but he goes to a different one now)

It'll be a step by step thing, but I'm working through it and trying my best to remain positive. The kitties seem very aware their meowmy is in a rough spot. Hoshi usually bolts out the door the minute I unlock it, but he has been just laying there looking at me instead of trying to run out.

I am having a hard time making myself eat regularly. I have only eaten lunch on Monday, Tuesday, today, and tonight I ate a little for dinner as well but nothing like I normally do. Just not hungry right now. I have other friends offering to take me out to spend time with me and make sure I eat, and I'm thankful for them and their offers.
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post #42 of 47
11/9/11 at 7:48pm
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Originally Posted by jennyranson View Post

What a terrible thing to happen - dealing witht he aftermath of awful events is always very hard, even worse when you are directly involved. But you know, and those you care about know, what really happened and that you were not to blame. No one else matters. But we all question our own actions even when we are not in any way responsible, and it must be very hard. Many many vibes to help you get through this.

SO well said! heartpump.gif

I'm really glad Rob got you out, around supportive people. heartpump.gifhugs.gif And I totally understand you don't feel much like eating, but please do try! And take your friends up on their offers. Letting yourself waste away won't help. frown.gifhugs.gifvibes.gifvibes.gifvibes.gifvibes.gifvibes.gif
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post #43 of 47
11/10/11 at 7:52am

Sweetie, I'm so sorry you're going thru this.  Logically, you know this isn't your fault, but that doesn't stop you from feeling guilty.  Wish I could give you a big (((hug))) and a shoulder to lean on.  Please take care of yourself.  heart.gif

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post #44 of 47
11/10/11 at 7:58am
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Originally Posted by libby74 View Post

Sweetie, I'm so sorry you're going thru this.  Logically, you know this isn't your fault, but that doesn't stop you from feeling guilty.  Wish I could give you a big (((hug))) and a shoulder to lean on.  Please take care of yourself.  heart.gif

yeah.gif I second what Libby just said. Be kind to yourself and take care hugs.gifhugs.gifhugs.gif You will get through this agree.gif Many people care wavey.gif
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post #45 of 47
11/10/11 at 8:38am
hugs.gif and vibes.gif
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post #46 of 47
11/10/11 at 9:22am

I'm so sorry about all of this and thankful you are still with us.  The truth of life is that while this has caused you to pause a bit, the rest of life goes on at the fast pace it always has.  People who don't think say things that would be different if they really gave thought about it.  Lean on your support system.  It sounds like a great one.

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post #47 of 47
11/10/11 at 11:08am

Oh Tara! How awful for you and everyone else. I'm so so so sorry that ignorant, unfeeling people are being so cruel! Lots of vibes!vibes.gifhugs.gif

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