Work/Household Status Survey- Male vs Female Members

Ok, got this idea from a thread on IMO, called Marriage.... There seems to be a lot of discussion about men and women on the work place, as of who is the main breadwinner nowadays, who in general works or not; I got curious about our TCS members
Go ahead and choose all the answers that fit your situation- this is a multiple question poll - feel free to add comments too!

I live with my parents or rather they live with me. They're not in the best of health so it is better and safer for them to stay with their only "child".

I am a stay at home mom. Or housewife. Whichever. However its a choice that we both made that makes us both happy. I prefer to not work because I have hard time equally dividing time between house work and actual work. I will over work myself to death and dont like it or myself when I work. It became a mutual decision where we would rather live on a tighter budget and me not work than potentially spend the rest of our lives fighting over stupid stuff. I like being at home it makes me happy.....plus Im still in control of the money LOL

Hubby and I have been unemployed since January, we live off of odd jobs and the grace of his parents

We have been married for over 40 years (most of the time quite happily   ). I was 16 and Rick was 19 and yes, I was pregnant when we got married. In order for us to buy our house, I had to go to work....I was probably 19 or so. And I've been working ever since.

When I started working at International Paper, my income increased and I started earning more than Rick. I quit there to do my internship for college and got my present job as a Land Use Planner for my county. I still make more than Rick. It doesn't bother either one of us....it used to bother Rick in the beginning (about 30 years ago), but I told him to stop being stupid....money is money. And it all goes into the same checking and savings accounts. That's just the way it is.

Rick takes care of the budgets, he pays the bills, and he does a fantastic job. I sign my check and give it to him and then I get an "allowance".

I suppose I'd like to be a SAHW. Or maybe retired. But in the long run, that might last a year or so. And then I'd be looking for something. I'm just not the kind of person who'd be happy at home all the time.

Dana and I have been living together 3 and a half years and for the first 3 years, I made substantially more than he did, but since his promotion, he makes more than I do now. I couldn't care less who makes what or more though. We're happy, we're stable and e both work hard.

I am a woman, I work full time but DH makes more than I do. He has a Masters degree where I have a college diploma.

I am a stay-at-home Mom. Which means I've never ever been busier in my entire life!  I get paid in hugs and kisses....and boogers.  Some days I think it would be easier to drop my DD off at daycare and let them deal with tantrums and what not; but when that little person clings to me because she sees someone new....well that's just an amazing feeling.  To know Mama is her security and to be there for so many of her firsts!  It's hard but good.

DH and I always agreed on me staying home with our kids.  Then when I was pregnant we really looked at it.  Between the cost of daycare and me not having a job that offered benefits (like insurance or even sick time!) well it really just didn't make sense for me to go back to work.  At least not that job.  While this is the hardest job I've ever had; I have a hard time seeing myself going back to a 9-5 job anytime in the near future.  Even when they are in elementary school.  The big thing that might push me back to work is if it will let my kids go to a Christian school. But then I need to consider transporting them to and from every day.  We will see.

I am married to a wonderful man who accepts my kitty addiction and sometimes even helps me feed it, though he would never admit it

As of the week of the 18th I will work my last day and become a stay at home wife. My health issues have made it difficult for me to continue to work and my kitties need me at home.

I forgot to check I am married on the poll. I am laid off right now, but in a month I should be starting school as long as my funding comes through. Since all I get is unemployment right now, my husband brings in more money.

LOL I forgot to check that I am married.  Oh well.... wish I could go back and do it. DH is a good guy......... most of the time

I live with my boyfriend and our incomes have rotated. There was a time where he was the main breadwinner and at the moment I am. But -- we both work very hard to bring home to bacon to live a wonderful life. Also, to spoil our precious kitties.

A year ago I was working full-time, actually two jobs. Dressage horse trainer and dog-walking. I am taking a break from horses and just doing a few dog walks a week now. So I guess right now, I am a stay-at-home meowmy and part-time dog walker :bigwink:

Feralvr said:

A year ago I was working full-time, actually two jobs. Dressage horse trainer and dog-walking. I am taking a break from horses and just doing a few dog walks a week now. So I guess right now, I am a stay-at-home meowmy and part-time dog walker

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I used to be a Western Pleasure, Halter and Cutting Horse trainer. Very nice to see another horse lover. I had to give it up because of my health but I so loved doing it.

DH and I are actually trained in the same field and used to make about the same. The big difference was that, due to our graduation dates,  I managed to get in permanent and he was working on contract. So when the economy started getting creative a few years back he decided (with my full support) to re-train in a different field. When he's done his apprenticeship we'll be back at about the same range but I now know why all his colleagues say that the only way you finish the first half of your apprenticeship is by living with your parents or having a spouse with a solid job. Honestly, I suspect we'll be more stable financially if we're not both dependent on the same sector...at least I hope so.

I'm the first man to vote! I'm working full time, living on my own.

I'm a woman and am primary breadwinner between my fiancee and I. I have an unusually job where I work as a nanny every other week and am off every other week, but I'm lucky that I'm very well compensated for my work and don't have to work during my off week. To entertain myself during my non-work though I maintain a shop at etsy- evakatharina.etsy.com - just for fun as a hobby.

My fiancee is currently applying to mfa programs, after which hopefully he will eventually become a college professor and once we're settled and financially stable I would like to stay at home with the pets and maybe a kid eventually :bigwink: .

Been married for close to 22 years and was the primary bread earner until I got laid off 2 years ago.  Found a job for a while but the physical labor was killing me so I quit.  He makes a lot more than I do these days.

We're totally in role reversal right now.  I had the personality where it was assumed that I would keep a corporate job to earn most of our income and pay for our health insurance while he dabbled in self fulfilling jobs.  Now he's stuck in the corporate job to pay our bills and health care while I'm trying to grow a small business I started 8 years ago.  It's nice to grow old and be able to change old habits.

We never had issues with me being the primary bread earner all those years.  He's a bit more stressed than I am about the role reversal.

I am female, live with my boyfriend/fiancee/husband (we're common law but never know what to call each other, lol). I bring in more money than he does, but he's also only working part time right now. He was fired from his job shortly after we got together, worked some odd jobs for about a year and finally got the part time job he has now. I work full time, but I'm also looking at changing positions - I'm currently in retail and absolutely hate it (because of where I'm working, I haven't had a raise in years and make barely above minimum wage). I'm looking at (applying to) a vet's office as a receptionist full time while someone is on maternity leave for a year, and will hopefully get the product demonstrator position that I have an interview for on Wednesday. If I get the receptionist's job, when the contract is up, I'll have my experience in a vet's office and will be able to go through for either vet tech or animal care. If I get the job that I have the interview for on Wednesday, there is a lot of opportunity for growth in the company as well. 

Mike is still looking for another job, if he were able to get on in his field, he'd make a lot more than I do. There are a few companies that have his resume and when they're ready to hire again he'll have the job, but it's just waiting for someone to get fired/quit. 

Gary and I have been partners in business since we got married. I checked that we both earn about the same, but really, we both earn whatever we get. We work from home (mostly) which is a luxury. We do primarily contract work and publish stock/economic/stock market research/recommendations.