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post #1 of 27
Thread Starter 
Hello.

Just wanted to vent.

I'll keep 'low' on this because this person could be out there.

There is a lady in our cat fancy who breeds birman cats and recently she has been phoning the cops and saying that I'm home alone without my mom and stuff, in other words she's trying to get me taken away from my mom, I'm quite scared because whatever groups i'm on beit a cat or a dog group she seems to be there... I'm quite scared.. and I think she's trying to get "proof" i'm home alone... even tho my mom loves me very much and wouldn't do that.

The legal age to be without an adult at home is 14 , i'm 14 in 7 months.

Should I just cool it? I'm very angry she wouldn't even think of doing this, I'm refusing to answer her calls and emails( yes she lives very close and buys me lovely stuff )

sorry guys just wanted to vent, because im extremely

sam
post #2 of 27
hey Sam,

This one is a toughie, because it is obvious you are a lot more maturer than some kids your age. But if legally you could get in trouble, do you have a kind neighbor who could look in on you every so often? That might help?

I wish you luck, you seem to have more challenges than most people I know, and I guess it wouldn't fly to tell the police that you have 20 plus cyber aunties all over the world who keep tabs on you electronically!
post #3 of 27
I thought you were living with your Nana?
post #4 of 27
I don't know the system where you are at, but your neighbor shouldnt be so nosey about you alls living situation, since she isn't family anyway...I wouldn't worry too much..how would she find proof?? sorry she has you so worried..((hugs))
post #5 of 27
Thread Starter 
Hey Maryanne- Mums ALWAYS here the only time she leaves is maybe to pop down the road ( dairys in the same road but mum has a hip injury) to get a can of drink or something, I reckon and alot of other people that she's just trying to be nasty and im actually really scared.

we are not really on side with our neigbours coz our dogs bark alot

Thanks MA, I understand.

Hey Sicy, I live with Mum, Sunday, Monday & Tuesday Nights and the afternoons and stay at Nana's the other nights.
post #6 of 27
Wow, that's really sad. With everything you've been through, the last thing you need is to have to worry about being separated from your Mom. I would hope whoever it is would realize that!

My Mom was gone a lot working when I was in my early teens, and I turned out just fine. She raised me to be responsible (and from most of the things you've posted you sound like a very responsible young lady), and gave me lots of love.

Unfortunately I couldn't offer advice on what to do...people are so strange now, it's hard to know what to say. Have you tried to talk to your Mom about it?

Just be careful how much personal info you reveal - that's always very important, in any situation!

Take care of yourself, Sam - sending prayers for you & your family.
post #7 of 27
Thread Starter 
Hey Kathy.

It's not my neigbour it's a lady who breeds cats that lives maybe 10 minutes away.

Thanks.
post #8 of 27
ohh ok,,sorry I misunderstood...didn't read properly.....anyway, she still should just mind her own beez wax!
post #9 of 27
Thread Starter 
Hello Tess-

She has basically forced me to stop posting on some groups because I feel scared she's going to ask me where are you, what are you doing? and stuff..

Thanks hun, it's difficult because she knows my number and my house and she's also good friends with my Nana ...

I may not get along with mum sometimes but I don't wanna get taken away from her.

I don't think that Nana realises how much trouble this lady has caused, Mum was told by a friend of hers Kay( and also Kay's like a Nana to me) and mum and I talked about it, I promised I wouldn't corrospond anymore.

you guys make me feel so much better
post #10 of 27
Quote:
Originally posted by WellingtonCats
Hey Sicy, I live with Mum, Sunday, Monday & Tuesday Nights and the afternoons and stay at Nana's the other nights.
Oh..

Well I dont think its any of your neighbors business.
post #11 of 27
Thread Starter 
No apology needed Kathy!

I agree, she should stick to her own lil world and keep out of my nice one

Hugs!
post #12 of 27
I'm amazed that the legal age to be left home alone is 14! Here it's 6! When I was 10-12 both my parents were working and I was a latchkey kid. I didn't need to be minded 24/7... doesn't sound to me like you do either.
post #13 of 27
Thread Starter 
Wow 6! I don't think I'm the type that's needs to be minded 24/7 either but unfortuatly it's law.. 7 months and I'll have more resposibilty.

All my friends are older than me and since they're 14+ they can babysit....
post #14 of 27
I was babysitting by the age of 12. I don't see why she's sticking her nose into things when you haven't caused any trouble and you haven't had anything happen.
post #15 of 27
Wow.... she is an odd one indeed. It doesn't seem to me like she has any reason to be wanting to do something like that. Plus...what satisfaction is she expecting to gain after causing problems for you? *sheesh* Looks like she's the one that needs to do some growing up here.

AT 14, you are more than capable of staying alone for some time. Over here, the legal age to stay by yourself for a few hours per day is 12.

I just don't understand her motives.... And to end up on the same groups as you all the time? That is just way too chilling. She gives me the creeps and I don't even know the lady. That's like borderline stalking.

Have you tried talking to her and finding out exactly what her problem is? Or maybe having your mom talk to her?

Have the cops contacted your mom since she calls them? Maybe she can clear up the problem?

Good luck! I really hope she doesn't stir trouble where there doesn't seem to be any.

(((hugs)))
post #16 of 27
I wouldn't stop going to the sites she goes to. If she asks about you and who is with you give her the standard reply. I'm sorry I don't give out that information and you shouldn't ask me to.
post #17 of 27
Thread Starter 
Hello- As far as I know the ONLY group I have privacy at is here.. I'm very lucky!

I love this group and would hate for her to join.

She totally freaks me out now , She has visited my site and there's a link to TCS here so she might just join oh well...

I might try and talk to her at the next cat show and just ask her to "cool it", The lady has been calling a place, SIPS? i think and they have ben saying that don't have enough evidence( or something along those lines, mum told me today)

Mum said if she trys to ring again she wil l ask her to lay off and is getting a Restraint put on her.

Thanks, Erika , Ghys & Teresa.

I like your style Teresa that's exactly what i'll do.

post #18 of 27
post #19 of 27
As a parent I'm not sure why she would inquire but I think I would be a concerned 'neighbor' also if I saw someone's daughter or son walking home in the late afternoon. Just not to that degree. With my neighbor's I've figured out their mother's schedule and always try to look out for their youngest daughter to make sure she gets off the bus safely, in case of pedophilers, we have about 35 in our zipcode, two living within a mile of an elementary school . Anyway, I second DragonLady's advice also, it isn't her business to interfere to that level by calling CPS or whatever it is that she is calling to get your mother in trouble.

I was a latchkey kid also at a young age, my parents told everyone around them my schedule for those who stayed at home.

Hang in there sweetie and lots of hugs to you!
post #20 of 27
35 pedofiles isn't too bad, we have over 200 within a 1 square mile radius where we live and man who used to be friend of our neighbor's was just arrested for raping a child (our neighbor was horrified). Needless to say, our son does not go outside our apartment without one of us. His Mom doesn't care, but we do.

If the legal agency says there's no proof then you probably don't have to worry, but I would highly recommend a restraining order if she keeps bothering you. That's more illegal than your Mom running down to the corner when you're 13.
post #21 of 27
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I might try and talk to her at the next cat show and just ask her to "cool it", The lady has been calling a place, SIPS? i think and they have ben saying that don't have enough evidence( or something along those lines, mum told me today)
You are thinking of CYPS - they call it SIPS LOL, I know we talked via PM, but my mum is a social worker in Chch, and they would need evidence to prove that you are home alone.
My advice to you is, be careful what you say, especially to this woman. She sounds like a bitter woman - could she be jealous of your cats?

Hugs Sam!
post #22 of 27
She sounds creepy! I would avoid her as much as possible. Good luck Sam!
post #23 of 27
Why would this lady want to do this to you and your mother? It doesn't sound to me, that you're being left alone. Here is the USA, I think you can babysit at 13.

Anyway, I'd stay away from that lady until you turn 14. If it means staying away from the groups fro 7 months, then I'd do that. Just don't let this lady know any of your business.
post #24 of 27
Thread Starter 
Thanks Guys.

Wow,30 pedaphiles.... , Scary!
We have one about 20 minute drive away who has "striked" about 8 times and they are not putting him in jail it's disgusting.

LOL! Thanks Kellye... well twas' something 'long those lines

Thanks everyone!

Maybe she is jelous of my beautiful cats ..lol
post #25 of 27
How weird is she?
Some people have so little to do with their lives!
if she came onto the boards we could tell her off and she couldn't call the cops on us!!
Thing is if your mom doesn't leave you alone for hours on end then you have nothing to worry about, she on the other hand is another one who's coming back as a dung beetle!
post #26 of 27
Quote:
Originally posted by WellingtonCats
Hello.

There is a lady in our cat fancy who breeds birman cats and recently she has been phoning the cops and saying that I'm home alone without my mom and stuff, in other words she's trying to get me taken away from my mom, I'm quite scared because whatever groups i'm on beit a cat or a dog group she seems to be there... I'm quite scared.. and I think she's trying to get "proof" i'm home alone... even tho my mom loves me very much and wouldn't do that.
sam
Sam-
It sounds like this nosy lady needs to get a life and butt out of yours. I would have your mom report her for stalking you!

How does she know that you are alone?
You really should not disclose that information to anyone. . . just say that your mom can't come to the phone, door, etc. . . . that she's taking a nap or is in the bathroom. . . .

My daughter started babysitting when she was 11!
My son started staying home afterschool when he was 10!
It all depends on the maturity of the child. You sound very mature for your age.
I find it hard to believe that anyone would take you away from your mother that easily.
My ex husband's new wife (whom my children despise) used to try to use these same malicious threats against me. . . telling my ex that she was going to report me, blah blah blah.

I think the local police have better things to worry about.
Many kids are left alone after school and during vacation breaks. Not too many parents are able to stay at home with their children these days (for financial reasons).

Laurie
post #27 of 27
Thread Starter 
Hey Catherine & Laurie.

Thanks for yoour replies.
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