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It just gets worse for me

post #1 of 18
Thread Starter 
I just got the news that my stepfather to whom I was close to died this afternoon.

I cannot take anymore - I really cant

post #2 of 18
Oh gosh Kev!!! This is a lot for you to deal with all at once, I am sorry Take a long walk, get some fresh air and clear your head. Stop and think about the things that are important to you and the things that will get you through this. I know it seems like everything bad is happening at once. It can ONLY get better from here.

I will be thinking about you...
post #3 of 18
Oh Kev I am so sorry. This has been a difficult week for you.
Hang in there, and like Sicy said, take a walk, take a deep breath, hug your wife and son and tell them how much you love them.

I too, am thinking of you.

post #4 of 18
I'm so sorry
post #5 of 18
I am so sorry! Just saw this now. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
post #6 of 18
Thread Starter 
I have just come back from going over to my mothers house. I had to go, I really did and dont regret it. Things will never be the same between us, but blood is thicker than water. I had no idea what to say so I just held her.
Its been a vey bad day for me - the worst as long as I can recall in my time.
Thanks for everything you people have said. I think rather than burden you any further as I guess you are all fed up with me, I am gonna fade away into the background for a while. Just want to hide and close my eyes for a long time and I want my cat back so badly.

post #7 of 18
Oh my god, Kev. What a rough time for you ! I am so sorry.
I really think that you must feel so alone right now. Please
remember that we are here for you. No one is fed up with you.
That is what this site is all about. We support each other.

Hang in there, Kev

Peace, Love, and Happiness, Always


When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow-
You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out -
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell just how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far.
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit-
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit


My thoughts are with you Kev !!!
post #8 of 18
Hugs and prayers for you kev, please don't fade away into the background, I think that I speak for everyone here when I say this--if we didn't hear from you for awhile, we'd all be worried that something terrible had happened to you. Just remember, if you need us, we're here for you.
I don't know how everyone else feels, but I've become very attatched to you during the short time I've been here, and I do worry about you !
post #9 of 18
Kev, I just had to pop in here and tell you you have my heart and my sympathy. This has been a truly horrific day for you, and I just can't even imagine the pain you are in right now. (((((HUGS))))))

KittenKrazy beat me to it, but let me assure you, we are certainly not tired of hearing from you! TCS is a family, and we are here for the silly posts, the jokes, the pictures. But more importantly, we are here for you in the bad times, too. We are here for the tears, for the pain, for the screaming anger. We are here to support each other in good times and bad, no matter what. Kev, you are most definitely part of TCS family, and we care about YOU!

Take care of yourself, and please let us be here for you when you need a friend, a smile, a hug, a shoulder to cry on. We will be.
post #10 of 18
Kev, do whatever you have to do to make it through this time. Please don't make one of us do a trace on you and call in the police. I can't really say anything to make you feel better. I've been there, but please try to remember that it will come out better and you will feel better. Concentrate on all the good stuff in your life right now: your wife, your kids, Brandy, etc. Focus on that. They all need you and we need you.
post #11 of 18
Kev,I agree with everyone hang in there we are here!!((HUGS))
post #12 of 18
Oh my, Kev. I'm so sorry. Life just isn't going well for you right now, to say the least. I am keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Please don't feel like you're annoying us; that's part of what this site is about. We're all here for eachother, and everyone needs a shoulder to cry on sometimes. If you need a break to grieve, we all understand, but please don't feel like you have to leave for fear of burdening us, if you want to stay.

post #13 of 18
Kev -

You poor thing.
Life seems to work this way for some odd reason. . . . when you are already feeling like you can't take any more, something else happens.

Like I said earlier. . . . . cry!!! Hug those that you love. Talk about your losses. . . . remember and cherish the good times. The pain will ease over time. . .

Please don't fade into the background. We all care dearly about you and will never get sick of you.

Do take care of yourself. Your wife, baby and remaining cat need you!

P.S. - Want to know something? I want my cat back too!! - it will be one month tomorrow since he died. . . .

post #14 of 18
Please hang in there Kev, you'll make it through. You will. I'm so sorry to hear of your stepfather's passing.

Like everyone else who've already written everything I wished to write to you, I've also grown very attached to you, and always look forward to seeing you here. Big giant hugs.
post #15 of 18
What they said, Kev. It's been a rotten time for you, but we're here to listen, as well as to laugh. Don't disappear, please. We want to know how you're doing. OK?
post #16 of 18
Oh Kev!I'm so sorry a man of such great distincition is going thru a time as rouch as this.

I pray that you be safe and sound and that no more nasties happen to you, R.I.P

A Hug for every second of the day!

post #17 of 18
Kev - I just had to add I'm so sorry life is dealing you this crap right now. Take strength in those around you - your wife and son, and also your Mother, who has, after all just lost her husband and will need a lot of emotional support also.

Although I don't know you personally, your humourous and frank posts make me feel as if you are part of the family here, and as such, along with everyone else there is support here for you if you need it. Please feel free to use that support whenever you want - don't just fade away. Nobody here will judge you - just let your feelings out and keep talking to anybody that will listen. It will, in time help the healing process.

Now, enough amateur psychology. Take really good care of yourself over the coming days and please let us know how you are getting on.
post #18 of 18

I'm sorry that things are tough on you now. I've been through such a stage and thanks to the board, it has made me feel a whole lot better. Please dun fade into the background. We all do care and love you. We wish for you to get better and stronger. Give yourself some time alone to get over it but in the meantime, do let us know what is going on. I'm kinda far away and I can't be of much help but if you need any kind of help via email, i'm here for you. Always. Mail me:
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