So sad.

Well, I'll give you guys the short version...

Two years ago this November, I met the greatest guy ever. He was in the Navy ROTC program at the university. We dated for a little over a year. He graduated in the summer and left for more Navy school mid-November (2010). Thinking ahead to how much I wouldn't see him after all of his school, I made the most heartwrenching decision of my life and broke up with him.

We reconnected slowly, first just talking as friends and gradually building to almost what we used to have. He came back to Minneapolis (where he's from) for about a month this past September and we saw each other pretty much every week. It was as if nothing had ever changed between us.

He left to go to prototype in Albany this morning after spending the weekend with me here. Now comes the title -- I am almost as much of a wreck as I was when he left for school a year ago. He has made it clear that we'll see each other again and this was definitely not goodbye. We will still talk as often as possible. I want to be with him so badly, but there are so many factors to it.

I know people will mean well, but I really don't want to hear "if it's meant to be, it will be." I really dislike that phrase. Sounds very defeatist.

I have a lot of things to think about, but right now, my heart just hurts.

Oh honey, , when someone you can about isn't in your life every day its hard. It's understandable that your heart is hurting. Being a military spouse or GF/BF is so hard at times. My best friend is married to a major in the air force and he will be gone for months at a time and it never gets easier for her.

Long distance relationships are difficult, they take a lot of work and a lot of trust on both sides, but they ARE possible. It sounds like you two have a connection that can survive the miles between you if you work on it. Still, I know that doesn't make it any easier right now.

No, if you want it to be, it can be. A little pushing is sometimes needed to get us guys to do what we really want to do and should do.

(Some very wise researchers have said that cats and women are what civilized men and made modern society possible.)

Long distance relationships are tough, but not impossible. I hate to use this phrase, but abscence makes the heart grow fonder. I know people, (and I am sure there are people right here on TCS) who are living proof. There is nothing I can say to help make you feel better about missing him, except that I hope for a reunion as soon as possible.

You said Albany. Nuke prototype by any chance? If it is BTDT.

And you can make it work if you both want to. But I'll give it to you straight-military life as a girlfriend or spouse isn't easy

Cheryl

Thank you all very much for your kind words. I love TCS.

And Sneaky, yes, he's a nuclear submariner. Seven or eight years enlisted before going ROTC. I don't know what BTDT stands for, though. I'm an Army vet, so Navy terms are still very vague to me.

"Been There, Done That"

Heh, guess it isn't a Navy term after all. Thanks for the clarification.