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My wife is going to kill me !!

post #1 of 16
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We have a feral mommy kitty who had given birth a little while back. She had moved her kittens from the empty house behind me to somewhere else.

I had been placing food out for them, I would see her come by for awhile, but never any of her kittens. Then I did not see her for awhile. Every time she would come by, I would sit outside and talk to her. She wouldn't let me get too close to her. I did notice that she did have her ear clipped, So someone must have taken her to the spca and had her fixed recently.

But the other day she was meowing and actually came over to me. She ate food while I was standing next to her. Then today She let me pet her. I was also able to pick her up. I tried to pick her up and bring her inside, but I got about half way to the house when she jumped out of my arms.

My wife is going to kill me because we already have six cats that I have brought inside.
post #2 of 16
So what's one more outside? Wonderful to know someone else is caring for them too!
post #3 of 16
I have the opposite problem , My Husband Is Gonna Kill Me . I am now up to six cats indoors and four regular outdoor TNRd ferals. So I think you have a new outside kitty to care for. You are lucky in that she is already spayed and friendly. Good luck with the wife
post #4 of 16
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Originally Posted by bszaronos View Post
I did notice that she did have her ear clipped, So someone must have taken her to the spca and had her fixed recently.
Lets hope they took her together with her kittens. Took in the kittens for fostering and adoption, but released her.
Such is quite common in many TNR-groups.


ps. IF you do take in her, do the vet-check up and some quarantine routine. But as your residents are themselves ex-homeless, you prob dont need to overdo the quarantine. The homeless who did survive are more tough then most...
But otherwise, she will do just fine as your outside cat, as the other said.


Good luck!
post #5 of 16
That's great. You have a good heart What's the difference between 6 and 7
post #6 of 16
My husband has been near killing me many times over. He's threatened to take the animals to the animal shelter and me to the homeless shelter but once he gets to know our new foster he changes his mind and dotes on them worse than I do. He wasn't too happy when I brought home a kitten this spring when we were really full but within a couple of weeks she was sleeping on his pillow and he's spend half an hour playing with her before bedtime. She liked to attack his feet and hands under the covers which he also thought was a blast. Men are so easily amused

Before we had any cats and before I started fostering cats (only fostered dogs) he claimed to hate cats. According to him the only good cat was a dead cat and if I ever brought one of those horrible creatures home we'd both be out the door. He thought that cats were sneaky and conniving and way to independent to have as pets. But once I brought home the second litter we fostered one of them, a little fluffy black girl, took a liking to him and followed him around wherever he went. You could just tell that he melted. We ended up keeping her and three more fosters over the years and my husband is now a reformed cat hater. You should hear him when he's cuddling with the cats at bed time; "Oh, where is daddy's pretty little girl. You're such a sweetie baby", all in baby voice. I thought about recording him and threaten to play it for his friends next time he's being difficult

Your wife won't kill you. She may be angry at first but she'll get over it. One cat more or less doesn't make that much of a difference in the scheme of things. I currently have nine cats and I hardly notice that I have that many. The only time I realize how many there are is at feeding time when they are all in the same room at the same time.
It sounds like this cat is tame too. I've had several outside cats that I thought were feral first because they wouldn't come near me and just hissed when I looked at them. But after a couple of months or so they finally realized that I wasn't going to hurt them and they would come up to be petted. After that they would come around really quickly and I could pick them up and hold them like any tame cat. I would suggest that you take it slowly though and don't pick her up again for a while. Just sit on the ground and pet her. When you do pick her up again just do it for a short time and set her down so that she realizes that nothing bad is going to happen. After a while she should be comfortable enough to let you carry her home or you could put her in a large carrier and take her home that way. Since she's friendly she may be adoptable and you could take her in as a foster. Maybe your wife would prefer that to having another permanent cat. You can break the news to her over a nice, romantic home made dinner
Please make sure that the kittens are okay too. She may just be hiding them.

Good luck and thanks for caring for this baby.
post #7 of 16
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It has been about 3 months since the kittens were born, and I have not seen any sign of them. She was doing the short little meows, like she is looking for her kittens.

I have set my trap for her. I tried to pick her up and bring her in the house, but I only got about half way when she jumped out.

So I will try to capture her and bring her into the basement, that way she will have some alone time from the rest of the animals. Plus she will get the smell of the house on her and get use to using the litter box.

I guess we will see how mad the wife gets =^.^=
post #8 of 16
I am sure things will work out with your wife ..... She will understand how BIG your heart is and just join in..... That's what my hubby does, he gives in and joins in on the fun and ends up loving the cats just as much as I do. ( well.... not really as much as I do.....)

I am concerned about the kittens. I really hope mom cat isn't keeping them somewhere. But that would be odd for you not to see them following her to your place. At 12 weeks of age, though, she may still demand they stay close to the nest. I didn't even see my feral kittens until they probably were already four - five months old. Even then, they were very keen on people coming around and could hide in seconds flat. Please keep watch out for them, they are still way too young to fend for themselves if you think they are only three months old. Also, the mom cat will still have swollen nipples because the kittens will still be nursing even at three months, feral kittens nurse a long time. When I trapped Dixie (mother of the three black six month old feral kittens) last December, she still had some milk. I am sure those kittens were still nursing on her to survive the harsh winter.

Much luck with all of this!!!!
post #9 of 16
Thread Starter 
She sleeps in the empty yard of the house behind me. I have seen no kittens, and her nipples are not popping out.

I was able to call her over and i was able to feed her by hand. She was very cute and careful. There is a fence between her and I. I have a couple slats pulled away. She did jump on top of the fence and I was able to pull her off and put her into a dog crate. ( I tried using a trap, but she had closed it while she was half way inside. ) She jumped around very much while she was inside the dog crate, but then found the smallest of openings and jumped out while I was walking back into the house. So I have closed all the openings and will have to wait until she jumps back ontop of the fence again, where I can grab her.

Meanwhile my wife has told me to definitely not bring the cat inside the house.
post #10 of 16
OH NO..... . Now she might be a bit more fearful about seeing you with the crate. She will get over the scare though. I am sure you are right then, about the kittens. Odd that you never did see them again. And, of course, your wife said "do not bring in that cat"!!!! I have heard that line before too
post #11 of 16
Thread Starter 
She is inside !!!

I came outside this mourning around 8:30 and was able to grab her and put her in the dog crate. I let her sit in the crate with it in the middle of the den for a little while. My dogs and the rest of the cats got to see her until everyone was calm. I then took her into the bathroom and showed her the litter box and food. She ate and then went to the bathroom. I opened the door and the puppies came in and gave her kisses. She didn't hiss at them or run away. After they were done she walked out of the bathroom and checked out the other room and then went into the bedroom and under the bed.

She has been under the bed for almost all day, we got her to come out and she snuggled up to the wife and we put a collar on her and brought her back into the bathroom where she ate some more and then walked back into the bedroom and under the bed.
post #12 of 16
Thread Starter 
She found the treats =^.^=
LL
post #13 of 16
I think congratulations are on order . She looks so pretty, a tortie???? Sounds like you have a new cat. And even better, your wife didn't kill you Good job in rescuing her
post #14 of 16
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Originally Posted by Feralvr View Post
I think congratulations are on order . She looks so pretty, a tortie???? Sounds like you have a new cat. And even better, your wife didn't kill you Good job in rescuing her
No kill perhaps because also the wife got her a new darling? As almost the first the cat did in the house was to go to the wife and snuggle.

Another possiblility is of course your wife does love you somewhat.


Congrats and Good luck!
post #15 of 16
Thread Starter 
Looks like the wife gave in.

Tiger is adjusting to the house very well.
She has even jumped in bed with us. Last night I got out of bed and came back to find her curled up in my spot. So I slid in and snuggled up and we went to sleep.
LL
post #16 of 16
YAY Look how quickly Tiger settled into her new home and right into your (and your wife's ) hearts.. She is a really pretty tabby . Obviously not a feral cat but a lost stray. She sure is one lucky girl .
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