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A Extra Affectionate Kitten or separation anxiety

post #1 of 8
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Tuesday my boyfriend and I went to the local humane society to look at the new facility and ended up falling in love and bringing home a 5 month old fix male kitten. At the humane society, we spent probably a good hour in the "kitty-city" where they kept several kittens of the same age group. He was very affectionate in the shelter setting, even with all the other kittens there. All he wanted to do was lay on my lap, he would occasionally go elsewhere, mainly because I think he was getting tired of competeing for lap space with the other 6 kittens wanting on our laps. Anyways, Tuesdays and Wednesdays are our days off for both my boyfriend and I. During those two days, the kitten, which we named Chacho, was just as affectionate as he was at the shelter, however, now with an entire 2 bedroom apartment to roam, he now follows my boyfriend and I around constantly. He was a vocal kitten at the shelter but now if he feels like he's being ignored, he complains. When I'm fixing food in the kitchen, he's at my feet meowing. When he's trying to get comfortable on my lap, he coos and mews. When I'm sleeping in bed, he trys to bury his head in places like my neck, elbow, and armpit. Today during a pre-work nap, I woke up to him attempting to nurse on my ear. He does go off on his own, but for very short periods of time and usually to see what the other person is doing or to eat or use the litterbox. Both my boyfriend and I work late shifts. He works until 12:30am, sometimes later and I work a night shift from 11pm to 7 am. Tonight is the first time that Chacho will be on his own for any length of time.

I know I'm jumping the gun, and that there may not be any problems but I'm just curious what other people with cat experience thinks of the current situation. Do you think that Chacho is just a very affectionate kitten or if it could be separation anxiety? I know until we find out how he reacts to our homecoming and its hard to tell especially when since we first saw him in the shelter, he's been nothing but affectionate, snuggly and vocal. Would appreciate feedback and opinions. I've dealt with cats that has had separation anxiety and know how to at least help lessen the anxiety but its a little harder to pinpoint separation anxiety in a new kitten.
post #2 of 8
Awww bless his little heart. It sounds like he's so grateful that you and your boyfriend have given him a loving home

Not sure if this would work for you, but another kitten as a playmate might be what he needs to distract him?. I know when l just had Rosie it helped when l added Sophie.

Lots of members would love to have an affectionate kitten like your little boy though

If you get a minute, post some pictures in Fur Pics of your new addition?
post #3 of 8
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Thanks for the response. I was worrying for no reason, I got home and the only thing awry was the kitchen trashcan was knocked over and it didn't even look like he got into the trash. By the way the trash bag looked, he thought the excess bag sticking out from under the lid was a fun toy. Yesterday he seemed to be a little more independent...only just a little.

If it wasn't for the pet deposit $200 for one pet, goes to 3 for 2 pets and then the additional charge added on to the rent each month per pet, we probably would've came home with his brother too. They were doing a special on him and his brother, you buy one, get the other free but the price jump from one to two pets is a little more than what we can afford. Plus I don't mind having a cat that follows me around like a dog and wants affection constantly. I was just worried that he would be too attached and would go crazy when left alone but I was just being paranoid.

I had to be away from the apartment for a few hours after my boyfriend went to work today. I had left the T.V. on for white noise and when I got back home he was sitting on the couch staring at the t.v. So he's been a good boy and he's starting to recognize when we're scolding him for being on something he's not suppose to so that's great too. He's realizing that if he wants to be at "our level" when we're sitting that the table eating, that he needs to sit on his little cat tree, not the table, which is great. That's been the hardest thing to deal with, but he's slowly getting the hang of it.

I could ramble on and on about my little guy, so I'll stop XD

EDIT: Here's some pictures
http://i1216.photobucket.com/albums/...-48-30_699.jpg
http://i1216.photobucket.com/albums/...-49-57_767.jpg
post #4 of 8
Sometimes, newly-adopted cats are over-affectionate because they don't know that you're "listening" to them, so they have to "yell". As time goes on, these cats tend to settle down because they begin to realize they do not have to be so pushy to get your attention, nor do they need to worry that they will lose your affection.
post #5 of 8
Oh my goodness he's as cute as a button!!!!

You've got a loving little boy there from the sound of things.

Just looking at his collar in the first picture. Is it quite loose?. The reason l ask is because he might get his mouth caught in it when he's grooming himself, and i'd hate that to happen if your both at work You should be able to get two of your fingers under it
post #6 of 8
I bet you had to lean away to get proper pictures because he kept trying to snuggle while you had the camera pointed at him

Rosie, the collar looks tight enough to me--that loop there is where it goes back through the clasp, I think. Personally I prefer boomerang tags (they clip directly to the collar rather than dangling), which prevent the cat from detaching the tag while it's grooming itself.
post #7 of 8
There are many theories about the original cat domestication. No, follow me on this, it does have a bearing!

Some theorists believe that the cats that wandered into Egyption villages and took up the important job of protecting the grain storage houses self-selected as those cats who were the least independent of their species, and, as time went by, they continued that self selection. Our cats, over the centuries, have become genetically those least likely to leave the colony, the most likely to stay around "mama," who, in their mind, is us!

Therefore, a cat who really enjoys human company is just expressing some of the most desirable genes in the cat inventory. They can't help it; they're programmed to love someone.

However, TheMBCat, keep in mind that to some extent, a cat has all the morals and conscience of a teenager. He WILL do what he wants to, when you're not looking. And, at that age, they want to explore everything.
post #8 of 8
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Callista & Rosie: I usually make sure that I can fit a few fingers under his collar. I did have it pretty loose that first day because in my experience with cats and collars, they seem to get use to the collar a little quicker if you let it be pretty loose the first time you put it on them. I supervised him the first day really there wasn't much supervising because he was sleeping on me 99% of the time. I think, to a cat who's never wore a collar, it must feel like they're being strangled (even it they're not.) I have a similar feeling each time I wear a turtle neck XD Anyways, I've tightened the collar up a little bit, its still relatively loose but not to the point I have to worry about him getting stuck in his mouth or getting it stuck under his arm. In some pictures it still looks pretty loose but that's mainly because he as a very long neck and it just sits lower down so it looks like its hanging a lot.

Blanche: Oh yes, he's def. a teenager and loves to test boundaries. He usually blantantly ignores boundaries if milk is envolved. I pretty much have to stand when I drink milk or eat ceral. If I sit, he's all over me. Yesterday, he was trying to squeeze his head through the gap between my index and middle finger of the hand I was using to block him to get to my bowl. Then he got super fustrated because he couldn't fit so he just had his nose pushing through the gap, complaining the whole time.
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