ok.. I want to see if I can improve things a bit with Monet..
Many of you know that Monet is my #1 kitty for 2 years until Picasso came into the picture a month ago.
While they aren't the best of friends, Monet tolerates her, plays with her and even grooms her. They even eat out of the same food bowl together at the same time. He won't let her on the bed at night still, and he won't let her snuggle with him for naps. I'd say things are going very well, considering it's only been a month. I want to try to improve things a bit more.
I do my best to make it a point to greet Monet first, play with him first and such. When he gives his demanding meows, I jump and give him the attention he wants. He gets his treats first, and I do my best to give him his meals first too. However.. if Picasso is near, Monet keeps the petting short. If she approaches, he'd get up and walk away, even if I ignore her entirely and keep my hands on him. To play with him to the fullest with Da Bird, I have to put Picasso in the bedroom since he won't play much with her running around.
I can't help the fact that she wants to be near me and him (she LOVES Monet, nuzzling him at every chance she gets!), but he doesn't quite want her full love yet. tonight was the first time in weeks he hissed and slapped at her while I was giving him attention, he even vocalized his mood to me. His anger was short lived as we left him alone on the bed for a while.. he went back to normal when we returned a bit later. (PMSing kitty??)
Monet was never a lap cat, he never liked to snuggle much (he has to be in the mood which is very rare) while I read and he always kept any cuddles short. Except at night, he'd crawl on my chest and wants some loving for a few minutes. But now, I can see he gets jealous when Picasso wants the lap snuggles and loving.. I can't refuse her that and I don't want to. (She's not around on the bed at night, when Monet wants his snuggles)
Is there any way I can improve his relationship with me and her together? Any way I can continue to tell him that he's my number one baby, even when Picasso runs over to us for attention? I don't want him to walk away every time she approaches anymore. I want him to accept her more, even let her snuggle with him. Any advice.. or just continue to wait it out?
Many of you know that Monet is my #1 kitty for 2 years until Picasso came into the picture a month ago.
While they aren't the best of friends, Monet tolerates her, plays with her and even grooms her. They even eat out of the same food bowl together at the same time. He won't let her on the bed at night still, and he won't let her snuggle with him for naps. I'd say things are going very well, considering it's only been a month. I want to try to improve things a bit more.
I do my best to make it a point to greet Monet first, play with him first and such. When he gives his demanding meows, I jump and give him the attention he wants. He gets his treats first, and I do my best to give him his meals first too. However.. if Picasso is near, Monet keeps the petting short. If she approaches, he'd get up and walk away, even if I ignore her entirely and keep my hands on him. To play with him to the fullest with Da Bird, I have to put Picasso in the bedroom since he won't play much with her running around.
I can't help the fact that she wants to be near me and him (she LOVES Monet, nuzzling him at every chance she gets!), but he doesn't quite want her full love yet. tonight was the first time in weeks he hissed and slapped at her while I was giving him attention, he even vocalized his mood to me. His anger was short lived as we left him alone on the bed for a while.. he went back to normal when we returned a bit later. (PMSing kitty??)
Monet was never a lap cat, he never liked to snuggle much (he has to be in the mood which is very rare) while I read and he always kept any cuddles short. Except at night, he'd crawl on my chest and wants some loving for a few minutes. But now, I can see he gets jealous when Picasso wants the lap snuggles and loving.. I can't refuse her that and I don't want to. (She's not around on the bed at night, when Monet wants his snuggles)
Is there any way I can improve his relationship with me and her together? Any way I can continue to tell him that he's my number one baby, even when Picasso runs over to us for attention? I don't want him to walk away every time she approaches anymore. I want him to accept her more, even let her snuggle with him. Any advice.. or just continue to wait it out?
