is this neglect or am i just too cat crazy?

There's a guy in my townhouse building with a very cute calico kitty Tabitha. She is the sweetest thing, just purrs, purrs, purrs around everything (including but not limited to just me).

He's an alright guy I guess, nice enough to have a beer with once in a while, plus I have cats and he has a cat so we talk about cats (among ordinary day to day stuff). I have some concerns with how he treats this kitty though, so I'm going to tell you guys a few things, and you lt me know if this qualifies as negligence.

Tabitha is 4 and in her first home (he is 2nd home she's had) she was indoor/outdoor. We live in a hustle and bustle city with many cars so I worry, especially since he often lets her out, then goes to work (only to let her in again when he gets home that night, if she's around when he gets home). He lets her out as a punishement sometimes because she did something wrong or p!ssed him off in some way. A few weeks ago, we had a massive heat wave, he let her out at about 4am, and then we didn't see her for about 3 days. I had to help him look for her. We never found her but she eventually came home. More often than not, when he let's her outside, no food or water is provided. I usually bring out water for her.

He went away for the weekend and I was suppose to feed her, but he accidentally locked his door, so I couldn't get in to freshen water or provide any food (he did provide food prior to leaving). When I called him and told him that the door was locked and that the manager could drop by and unlock it, he said don't worry about it, Tabitha will probably be fine.

Anytime he has a guy over, the cat gets the boot, without any food/water supplied outside. He just opens the front building door and "out you go!"

Although Tabitha is an indoor/outdoor, she is not up to date on any vaccinations (whether they be for rabies or outdoor parasites). He has had her since April and it doesn't seem like a vet appt is in the near future.

Yesterday, Tabitha almost got ran over by a car. This group of people rang my buzzer with tabby in tow because 1G wasn't answering, and they were shook up. He didn't answer because he was at work. I left a message on his voicemail explaining what had nearly happened, his response via text: HAHA my cat is so stupid sometimes.

How do I know all of this? We're friends so he tells he what he does because he doesn't see anything wrong with how he treats. it makes being friends difficult for me.

Am I being too worry-wort or sensntive about Tabitha or is he doing soemthing wrong?

Yes I know it could be worse, he could beat her or intentionally withhold food (instead of what he does do, which is not think of providing it) but it bothers me to no end.

i usually do when i know she's out there (unless we're talking about the times he puts her out at 4am, i only know about those after the fact, when's he tells me what he's been up to).

in the past I've tried explaining cat care in a way that doesn't seem like I'm judging him or I'll put it back on myself and volunteer to do things. I have mentioned in passing a low cost pet clinic, usually met with a "when I get around to it" look.

its this. He bought Tabitha on a whim, he had recently moved out on his own for the first time and when to Petco to look around one day. And then he saw Tabby near the backend of the store (where the usual adoptables are) and he made the decision right then and there.

Now I'll admit that getting my third cat was a whim purchase as well (well not a purchase, I adopted from someone who was fostering her, they found her) but my first thoughts, my first priorities are their happiness and comfort, even over my own sometimes. But yes, buying Tabby, was no different then him buying an IPOD. Its just something he can listen to (or cuddle when he'd feeling vulnerable) and then put back on the shelf, (or kick out for the night) when he's finished.

When she's let out, I sometimes hope that she'll peel her collar off and find a new home, a better one filled with love. I have a friend that wants me to call the ASPCA, but I don't know what the heck they'd do. Our APL just had a mass cat giveaway with the fee waived. Thats how many cats need homes. While it bothers me, Tabby's home life is just not bad enough to be taken away. Plus she's almost 4, so is she gonna get adopted, or will she just sit in a cage and be lonely.

there might be a way but she's indoor/outdoor and not up to date on her shots. My girls are indoors only so they don't have any of the shots protecting against outside parasites/etc, wouldn't that make them vulnerable if Tabby had something?