Okay, so this kind of has something to do with cats. You see, a friend of my boyfriends... we will call her Natasha... she has the sister of my Coal. We decided to have a kitty play date tonight!
We were all super excited to see if they would remember each other, and reunite with ease, due to the hard start they had in life.
When Asher (the kitty) and Natasha arrived, Coal, my kitty, was not pleased at all. Normally, he is very loving! He is an active kitty, and can play in an aggressive manner, but in general, he is a fun loving sweet cat.
Coal was hissing at Asher and Natasha. Natasha is the self-proclaimed kitty expert. She kept trying to approach him. I tried telling her that by approaching him in his domain makes him feel threatened. If she would just leave him be, he may eventually come to her. I expressed the need to remember that we had brought another cat into his domain!!!
Nathasha didn't listen, and continued to approach him periodically. I picked Coal up and held him while she talked to him. Coal kept hissing at her, and I said maybe it's best to just let him go. She didn't listen, and she took a step closer and tried to touch him. Coal lashed and scratched her nose. You could see that one of his claws punctured her skin on her nose. We immediately put peroxide on the end of some q-tips and applied it to the puncture.
Asher stayed in the kitchen with us all night. Thus, Coal roamed else where. Anytime Coal would come into the kitchen, Natasha would tell Asher, "You can totally take him. You're twice his size! Stand your ground, let him know who is boss!" She kept making comments about how her cat could kick my cats ass. She said that Asher was stronger, faster, and sleeker. What she fails to realize is, Coal is a climber and her can run like the wind. She has never seen him run, so to say that her cat is faster is just arrogant. What she also doesn't realize is that the only advantage her cat has over mine is weight.
I tried showing her pictures of how to tell the different weight classifications, and her cat is morbidly obese! All she feeds her cat is dry food. She is, also, still giving her cat formula twice a day. We have tried to convince her that dry food should not be her main courses in her diet, but rather snacks to help keep her full. Wet food is better for a cat. She knows it all, though.
Another thing she failed to realize was that Coal was acting like a cat naturally acts. He was protecting his domain and letting them know we are his humans and this is his house! He is the man here! Asher, reacted the way she would in nature, as well. This is, indeed, your domain, and I respect that. I don't want to fight, this is your kingdom. You are the man... here.
What I don't understand, is the constant comparison. Why does she feel the need to say her cat is faster, and stronger and blah blah blah.... and most importantly, why would she keep making the comment her cat can totally kick my cats ass? Are we cat fighters now? Should we keep letting them antagonize each other to the point of them fighting? Is that really a normal mentality for someone to have?
She was really upsetting me. I started comparing them in my own head after a while... which I'm sure you've gathered in this post. I would love some insight on how to handle situations like this... because I was ready to explode! I was ready to bring up all sorts of web sites showing her how UNHEALTHY her cat really is. She mentioned that Asher isn't very playful, that she just chills a lot. I wanted to just not bite my tongue and say, "That's because she doesn't have the energy to play because she's morbidly obese." But of course, I bit my tongue.
We were all super excited to see if they would remember each other, and reunite with ease, due to the hard start they had in life.
When Asher (the kitty) and Natasha arrived, Coal, my kitty, was not pleased at all. Normally, he is very loving! He is an active kitty, and can play in an aggressive manner, but in general, he is a fun loving sweet cat.
Coal was hissing at Asher and Natasha. Natasha is the self-proclaimed kitty expert. She kept trying to approach him. I tried telling her that by approaching him in his domain makes him feel threatened. If she would just leave him be, he may eventually come to her. I expressed the need to remember that we had brought another cat into his domain!!!
Nathasha didn't listen, and continued to approach him periodically. I picked Coal up and held him while she talked to him. Coal kept hissing at her, and I said maybe it's best to just let him go. She didn't listen, and she took a step closer and tried to touch him. Coal lashed and scratched her nose. You could see that one of his claws punctured her skin on her nose. We immediately put peroxide on the end of some q-tips and applied it to the puncture.
Asher stayed in the kitchen with us all night. Thus, Coal roamed else where. Anytime Coal would come into the kitchen, Natasha would tell Asher, "You can totally take him. You're twice his size! Stand your ground, let him know who is boss!" She kept making comments about how her cat could kick my cats ass. She said that Asher was stronger, faster, and sleeker. What she fails to realize is, Coal is a climber and her can run like the wind. She has never seen him run, so to say that her cat is faster is just arrogant. What she also doesn't realize is that the only advantage her cat has over mine is weight.
I tried showing her pictures of how to tell the different weight classifications, and her cat is morbidly obese! All she feeds her cat is dry food. She is, also, still giving her cat formula twice a day. We have tried to convince her that dry food should not be her main courses in her diet, but rather snacks to help keep her full. Wet food is better for a cat. She knows it all, though.
Another thing she failed to realize was that Coal was acting like a cat naturally acts. He was protecting his domain and letting them know we are his humans and this is his house! He is the man here! Asher, reacted the way she would in nature, as well. This is, indeed, your domain, and I respect that. I don't want to fight, this is your kingdom. You are the man... here.
What I don't understand, is the constant comparison. Why does she feel the need to say her cat is faster, and stronger and blah blah blah.... and most importantly, why would she keep making the comment her cat can totally kick my cats ass? Are we cat fighters now? Should we keep letting them antagonize each other to the point of them fighting? Is that really a normal mentality for someone to have?
She was really upsetting me. I started comparing them in my own head after a while... which I'm sure you've gathered in this post. I would love some insight on how to handle situations like this... because I was ready to explode! I was ready to bring up all sorts of web sites showing her how UNHEALTHY her cat really is. She mentioned that Asher isn't very playful, that she just chills a lot. I wanted to just not bite my tongue and say, "That's because she doesn't have the energy to play because she's morbidly obese." But of course, I bit my tongue.
