What is the proper 2011 etiquette for thank you notes for wedding showers?
Hand-written for sure. I'd rather not get a note than get a form thank-you note! The only exception would be if the word or phrase "thank you" is printed (as in decoration) and a hand-written note were added.Originally Posted by Crazyforinfo
Hand written or preprinted messages?
Originally Posted by Crazyforinfo
I thought maybe I was getting old. My BIL is getting married to someone I used to like. It's when the whole wedding planning started that I really don't care for her anymore. I got a generic preprinted poem/thank you card. My husband IS ONE OF THREE BEST MEN and we get a preprinted card.
They're cute when they're Christmas cards with the little "Happy holidays from X family!" over on the side. But unsigned? No text at all? That is weird!Originally Posted by AbbysMom
It's been a preprinted photo that says thank you, but no name of who it is from. OK, I can identify the child in the photo, but they didn't even put a return address, their name or personalize it at all.
I have no problem with the Christmas ones. At least those have a name on them.Originally Posted by parsleysage
They're cute when they're Christmas cards with the little "Happy holidays from X family!" over on the side. But unsigned? No text at all? That is weird!
I have a feeling I did this before.Originally Posted by AbbysMom
I have no problem with the Christmas ones. At least those have a name on them.
Geez, sounds to me like someone is going overboard and reminds me of brides who want all the hoop-lah but none of the responsibility.Originally Posted by Crazyforinfo
This wedding is such a mess. First I wasn't asked to be in the wedding. We didn't hang out but it's just us 4 on holidays and get togethers with the MIL. My MIL and Step MIL asked her point blank why I wasn't included and she refuses to reply. I mean nothing! Just a blank stare. She has 15+ girls in the wedding! Two of my husbands cousins that she sees as much as me. One doesn't live in the state but a plane ride away. That ticked DH off. There are three no sorry two best men b/c my BIL can't make a decision. He dismissed one for defending his mother who is dying of cancer after the BIL made a snide comment to our Step MIL(the one dying).
Come on really!
Did I mention the Bach party is in Fort Lauderdale and then another party to Atlantic City a few weeks before the wedding? Or that 75 people will be at the rehearsal dinner?Originally Posted by gemlady
Geez, sounds to me like someone is going overboard and reminds me of brides who want all the hoop-lah but none of the responsibility.
Notes should be handwritten and sent in a timely fashion. As mentioned, we who take time to gift would appreciate if the recipient took the time and effort to acknowledge the gift.
That marriage won't last. It's already off to a rocky start.Originally Posted by Crazyforinfo
This wedding is such a mess. First I wasn't asked to be in the wedding. We didn't hang out but it's just us 4 on holidays and get togethers with the MIL. My MIL and Step MIL asked her point blank why I wasn't included and she refuses to reply. I mean nothing! Just a blank stare. She has 15+ girls in the wedding! Two of my husbands cousins that she sees as much as me. One doesn't live in the state but a plane ride away. That ticked DH off. There are three no sorry two best men b/c my BIL can't make a decision. He dismissed one for defending his mother who is dying of cancer after the BIL made a snide comment to our Step MIL(the one dying).
Come on really!
I have a feeling I did this before.But I only sent the cards to the grandparents.
For my wedding I went with the girls and let them pick their dresses, in the color of my wedding (Kelly green). heck-the dresses were theirs, why would I force them to get something ridiculously expensive when I only paid 700 for my big white foo foo dress? (Considering the lace and detail on my dress, and the layers of pure foof matter, 700 was cheap!)Originally Posted by Natalie_ca
That marriage won't last. It's already off to a rocky start.
Some years ago in the mid 1980's I was asked to be in my cousin's wedding as a bridesmaid.
His fiance called one day and asked if I would be available on a particular Saturday to go with them to pick out bridesmaid dresses. I said I would be available.
Two days later I get a call from her saying that the Saturday appointment is off and that she has already picked out the dresses (!!). When I saw them I nearly threw up! It was an above the knee dress and they were the ugliest shade of tiel. The material was tafeta and they had a huge bussel (bow) at the top of the butt with a cowel type front.
I was about a size 16 back then, and when I turned side ways, between the boob bump, the stomach bump and the bussel butt bump, let's just say it wasn't a pretty sight!
The dresses were also outrageously expensive, something like $175.00! Despite my misgivings about the dress I went to the bridal shop and paid for my dress.
A few days later she calls me again saying that she found the perfect paif of slippers for the dress, and that they needed to be dyed the tiel colour. The slippers were $100.00 and the dye job was going to be $150.00 per pair!
She was also having navy blue parasols (who puts navy with ugly tiel?!!) and that she was going to pay for those in addition to the flowers.
Not long after the slipper incident she calls me again and tells me that we'll have to pay for our own parasols and flowers. I had already sunk $425.00 into her wedding. She knew I was working at a low paying job and just barely able to support myself, yet despite what she said in the beginning about keeping costs in line, she wanted carte blanche on my bank account.
I told her that I wasn't in a position to pay out anymore money than I already had. And that there was still the hair appointment that I had to pay for (she wanted everyone to have their hair done the same way).
She was really upset about that, and I reminded her of what she said about keeping the costs down.
A couple of days later my cousin called me. He told me that they wanted to have a social (It's a Manitoba thing where you buy tickets to go to a huge hall party with a DJ and a liquor bar. The money raised helps the bride and groom pay for their wedding). The best man typically puts the wedding social on.
However, the best man was unemployed so my cousin asked me to front the money for the social. That would have been hall rental, liquor bill, tickets, food, DJ etc. When I refused I was told I wasn't a good sport and that I was trying to ruin their wedding.
I was promptly uninvited from attending their wedding.
A couple days later his fiance called me again and asked me to take the dress back to the bridal shop so that her replacement bride's maid could pick it up. I told her that the dress had been altered to fit me and that the shop would not refund my money and that I wasn't taking anything anywhere until I was paid for it up front. She kept telling me that the girl would pay me after the wedding social. I told them to forget it.
I got paid for the dress (cash), upon her picking it up.
That was the last time I ever said yes to being involved in someone's wedding beyond that of a guest.
Well, fiddle-de-dee! I do deeeclare!Originally Posted by resqchick
Parasols?I'm sure they were, um, pretty.