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Please help!! Loss of cat

post #1 of 20
8/3/11 at 2:43am
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Hi there, i hope someone can help because i feel worse than i have ever felt in my life after having my lovely cat harvey put to sleep on the early hours of sunday morning. He developed saddle thrombosis. He started to breath fast earlier on in the week, on the wedneday night, i monitered him, he slept with me and in the morning he was fine, eating him food, running about, i still took him to vet on the morning to double check. He gave him a thorough check, everything was fine, and then he checked his heart and he said it was beating all over the place. I organised to take him back in on the monday to have an ECG. But saturday night came and he started breathing fast again, i sat with him and stroked him, he was purring, but breathing very fast, he seemed restless, that is when i called emergency vet, i was waiting for my lift to the vets which took around 15 minutes, then he started panting and foaming from the mouth a little, the purring turned into more of a rattle. We got to vets and he said his legs had stopped working, they were cold, i was in bits, he said he could try surgery, but by this time he was crying and was clearly distressed. I opted to take him from the pain and put him to sleep. Oh god it was the worst thing ever. I keep blaming myself now, he had a irregular heartbeat when he was little this was after he broke his leg, but vets wasnt concerned at the time. I havent had the best 3 years anyway after splitting with ex, i blame myself for not following up on that irregular heartbeat. Could i have given him aspirin to thin his blood. I feel so bad. He obviously had heart disease, could medication have fixed it or just prolonged his life by months? I am just glad i was there with him through all the pain. If it happened when i was out, god it doesnt bear thinking about. Any feedback would be good. Thanks
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post #2 of 20
8/3/11 at 3:02am
Oh gosh i am so sorry.

I had to have my dalmatian put to sleep 6 weeks ago and i burst into tears yesterday when i saw one being walked.

You have nothing to be sorry for. Life sometimes takes over but from what i have read you loved your cat so much.

Animals can live with all sorts and they have happy and pain free days.

The vet wasnt concerned about an irregular heartbeat so why should you have been. When your pet needed you, you were there and you loved and cared for your cat right until the end. And when pain became intense you made the bravest decision of all.

No one could have guessed this would happen its just pure bad luck. Im so sorry wish i could just give you a hug.
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post #3 of 20
8/3/11 at 3:14am
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I just hope it gets easier. I never felt like this ever.

Thankyou for your reply. It is much appreciated.
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post #4 of 20
8/3/11 at 3:20am
No one knows how to feel.

You just have to get through each day minute by minute.

We have been blessed with kittens and the first one born my daughter got so excited and said mum look its a dalmatian puppy.
The cat is white with black spots and splodges.

Just know in your heart you did everything you could. Let yourself grieve your cat was part of your life and your family.

I doubt you could of loved your cat more than you did.
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post #5 of 20
8/3/11 at 3:26am
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Thats the thing. I know live alone, he was like my child if you know what i mean. I had a routine, feeding, playing, preparing for bed. Now its all gone and my life seems empty. I could never go through this again, so i dont think i will ever have any more pets.

Im really sorry to hear about your dalmation, but maybe your new kitty dalmation will bring you as much love. And they really are loving animals.
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post #6 of 20
8/3/11 at 7:31am
I am so sorry to hear your story. Losing one of our furbabies is the worst thing ever and we all know how you feel. But you must not beat youself up over it, though I know it is the first reaction we have. What else could we have done? Why did we not do such and such? But you did do all you could and you were there with him through to the end. You will never forget him, and for a long time you will cry over memories, but time heals a lot of things, and one day you will be be able to talk about him and remember the good times without the tears coming. Though I still cry sometimes for my Napoleon whom I lost suddenly 5 years ago. And maybe one day another cat will tug at your heart and you will find a new friend who will not be a replacement, but willl be loved for their own sake. Many hugs that you get through this bad time.
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post #7 of 20
8/3/11 at 8:29am
I know how you feel about it. Our little lover Truman had the same thing, and we were out of town when it first attacked him. He had permanent nerve damage in one leg by the time we got home. He never recovered fully, and passed away less than a month later.

It's easy to beat yourself up, but there's no reason to; you're not a vet, and you had no way of knowing what was wrong. In fact, had you taken him to the vet at the first sign, the vet might not have been able to change the outcome.

But grieving is normal, guilt is normal, and we've all been there and felt it.
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post #8 of 20
8/3/11 at 8:32am
I am so very sorry for your loss. You did everything you could, everything medically available to you - and you gave him all your love. You loved him enough to give him release from pain, when you knew the heartache to come for you.

It's natural to grieve - don't let anyone tell you anything different. Please reach out to this site whenever you want to talk about your baby - sometimes our real life friends and relatives just don't understand as much as we hope they would.
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post #9 of 20
8/3/11 at 10:05am
My advice would be to not even think about another cat just yet anyway. Maybe in time it will happen but heck you need that time to grieve.

And i have tried not to connect the dalmatian kitty to my dog because even now its very raw. She likes to throw a hissy fit a real Diva. So cute tho.
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post #10 of 20
8/3/11 at 10:21am
Alot of us have been there....and shared the feelings you are having now....I don't think you could have done anything more....I also felt never ever ever again would I have pets..the heartbreak of losing them is very hard..But with time I decided to open my arms to other pets cats mostly because there are so many that need the help..Just take all the time needed...I'm still dealing with a recent loss...it does get better ..I know it doesn't feel like it will but trust me it does get better...
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post #11 of 20
8/3/11 at 11:12am
I am so sorry for your loss. You did a very sacrificial and loving thing for your kitty. We had to have our Callie put to sleep in December and it still hurts. I miss her like crazy and I still find myself tearing up when I think of her, but I have so many wonderful memories of her. Callie had CRF and we could've given her fluids daily, but it wouldn't have extended her life for long and it would have been extremely stressful on her, so we chose to just love on her and treasure each day we had with her. I can't focus on what we could've done, though. I have to focus on the love she gave me, the lessons I learned from her, and the joy and laughter she brought to my life. That's how I choose to remember her.
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post #12 of 20
8/3/11 at 10:26pm
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I just wanted to thank everyone for there comments. Some family members just dont understand. I thank everyone for there support and i am really sorry myself to hear about some peoples losses on here to.

I'm just thinking about the good times i had with little harvey, he did make me laugh sometimes. Love you Harvey, may you rest in peace.xxx
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post #13 of 20
8/4/11 at 5:06am
As much as you love your family members just ignore them. I get the he was just a dog all the time from people.

Just take each day as it comes and i do hope ur heart is healed one day.
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post #14 of 20
8/4/11 at 7:03am
I am so very, very sorry for your huge loss. I know how you feel. And really there was nothing you could have done to save your cat. Heart disease/failure is just as you described. I lost a cat last summer to the same thing and we all do blame ourselves for the what if's and the I should's. Be good to yourself in this time of grief. I am praying that someday you will be able to love another cat. You sound like such a loving cat owner and caretaker and we need LOTS of those in this world.
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post #15 of 20
8/4/11 at 7:29am
I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is and I have no words of wisdom to try to make you feel better. Just take it a day at a time. My thoughts are with you.
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post #16 of 20
8/4/11 at 4:54pm
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post #17 of 20
8/5/11 at 3:25pm
I am so sorry you are going through this.

The healing process takes TIME but it does get better.
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post #18 of 20
8/5/11 at 8:49pm
I am sorry for your loss too but really wanted to say that you should not blame yourself, it is not your fault!!
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post #19 of 20
8/10/11 at 7:50am
I am so sorry for your tragic loss. It happened so quick and I know that bears on your mind...but trust me, quick is better than slow. My sweet Sissy kitty withered away slowly from cancer and it was so hard to watch her get sicker. When I finally made the decision to let her go, it was absolutely the hardest thing I have ever had to do. It has been a year now and it does get easier...but I still think of her often and I still cry for her sometimes. I am not sure I will ever feel the same again, but the pain does lessen with time.
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post #20 of 20
8/10/11 at 8:09am
I am very sorry for your loss. You absolutely did the right thing in helping Harvey out of the pain.

I hope that you will not close your heart to the possibility of loving another kitty some day. There are so many in need of wonderful humans like you!

Take good care.

Cally
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