Hi everyone .. I hope I have picked the best place to vent about this. I need to get this off my mind and I know most of you, if not all, will understand where I am coming from. I apologize in advance for the long post.
I just got home from the vet's office. Last week my 19 year old cat Sammy was put to sleep. Five days later my 8 year old cat Baby Kitty came down with a high fever and stopped eating/drinking on his own. I spent the weekend feeding him with a syringe to make sure he did not develop Fatty Liver Disease before I could get him to the vet yesterday morning. Turns out it was some kind of "bug" (bacteria). After receiving an antibiotic shot yesterday he is back to his old self (thankfully!). I spent the weekend trying to come to terms with the very real possibility of losing my last "baby". It tore me up inside.
My cats have always been my children (I don't have any human children, I prefer cats). When I was younger I felt embarrassed when my Mom would tell people that I lived for my cats. I wanted to have a life and not be known as a sheltered antisocial with cats as my only friends. But as time has gone by (I am 35 now) I take pride in the love and the bond I share with my cats. They are my best friends and my top priority. For me, there is nothing wrong with this. They make me happy and I love sharing life with them.
My (ex)boyfriend whom I still live with has been taking me to the vet and I am very grateful for this, as I do not drive. But my issue, the reason I am here venting, is because my (ex)boyfriend does not believe in maintaining the health of "pets". While in the vet clinic he was rolling his eyes and telling me that people are ridiculous for bringing their pets in for every little thing. A woman in the room next to us had a chihuahua with diarrhea and my (ex)boyfriend thought this was a petty issue. I tried to explain to him that diarrhea can lead to dehydration, can be a sign of a more serious underlying problem, etc. but he just shook his head in disgust at people's "stupidity" of blowing money on animals.
This is not the first time he has judged responsible animal lovers for paying money to maintain their pet's health. He claims to be an animal lover but he is of the old school belief that animals come and animals go. Let nature take it's course and find something more "important" to spend your money on.
I don't mean to sound heartless towards his right to have his own beliefs but when he says things and gives off vibes that animals are not worth caring for financially it not only reminds me of why I broke up with him (differences in practically all opinions and beliefs) but it makes me sick to my stomach. He does not bond with animals at all. To the contrary, he has a short fuse when it comes to animals .. such as shooting the outdoor cats with plastic BB pellets when they try raiding the bird feeder or kicking the (outdoor) cats when they get in his way. He once chased a cat clear across the house hitting it with a broom when the cat sneaked in through a hole in the screen door. He wanted to teach the cat a lesson for entering the house. I was not home at the time but he texted me saying that Fluffy done went and got him all kinds of mad. He curbs his behavior towards the outdoor animals when in my presence because he does not want to look bad but I see the resentment he has towards them (he has a few outdoor dogs as well).
I called him out on it once and told him my instincts are very keen. He went and told everyone that he could not believe his own girlfriend could think he would hurt an animal, because he loves animals after all. His own chihuahua will protect and defend anyone that shows it love, growling at my ex when he tries to get near the dog when it is in the company of someone who shows it affection. There are reasons why a man's own dog will turn against him and look upon him with extremely intimidated eyes.
I was raised around guys who treat dogs and cats with such disregard, sometimes taking their frustrations out on the animals for simple things that they are bound to do such as too much barking or killing chipmunks. I know a heartless person when I see one and I know my ex views animals with contempt when they get on his nerves in the slightest of ways.
I once sold everything I owned .. nice stereo equipment, television, my huge movie collection .. just to raise up $500 to get Sammy emergency stomach surgery. This $500 turned out to buy Sammy 14 more years of life. Not to mention it bought me 14 years of companionship, love and making my own little world a happier place. I wish my ex could see that animals ARE worth every single dime that people put into them.
Of course, my ex has blown thousands of dollars on video consoles, video games, computer games (he is a gaming addict and admits it) not to mention he has put thousands into his truck to "pimp" it out. These video games and vehicles do not give love back. They are mere pieces of man made material but I do not make him feel like it is a waste. I realize these are his passions in life, these are the things that make him happy.
As I sit here feeling a world of stress and fear lifted off my heart knowing my Baby Kitty will overcome this current illness I feel deeply grateful and blessed to have him in my life. He brings an innocent pure love to my heart just the same as children bring to their mothers. *I* know Baby is worth every single penny I invest in keeping him happy and healthy.
I just wish my ex could at the very least stop belittling people for embracing animals as another form of children. In the end he is the one missing out on a kind of love that my life just never would have been as fulfilling had I never experienced. I do not appreciate his criticisms but what can I do? Every time I have tried discussing it with him he claims "don't get me wrong, I love animals .. I just don't see the sense in blowing money on them".
Has anyone here ever had someone like this in their life? I don't even know why his opinion gets under my skin but it does. I despise ignorance and when someone views us as stupid or ridiculous for maintaining our pets' wellbeing it just eats me up inside.
To everyone reading this: If your partner shares your devotion towards taking good care of pets please stop for a moment and count your blessings.
I wish I lived with someone who understood where I am coming from.
I just got home from the vet's office. Last week my 19 year old cat Sammy was put to sleep. Five days later my 8 year old cat Baby Kitty came down with a high fever and stopped eating/drinking on his own. I spent the weekend feeding him with a syringe to make sure he did not develop Fatty Liver Disease before I could get him to the vet yesterday morning. Turns out it was some kind of "bug" (bacteria). After receiving an antibiotic shot yesterday he is back to his old self (thankfully!). I spent the weekend trying to come to terms with the very real possibility of losing my last "baby". It tore me up inside.
My cats have always been my children (I don't have any human children, I prefer cats). When I was younger I felt embarrassed when my Mom would tell people that I lived for my cats. I wanted to have a life and not be known as a sheltered antisocial with cats as my only friends. But as time has gone by (I am 35 now) I take pride in the love and the bond I share with my cats. They are my best friends and my top priority. For me, there is nothing wrong with this. They make me happy and I love sharing life with them.
My (ex)boyfriend whom I still live with has been taking me to the vet and I am very grateful for this, as I do not drive. But my issue, the reason I am here venting, is because my (ex)boyfriend does not believe in maintaining the health of "pets". While in the vet clinic he was rolling his eyes and telling me that people are ridiculous for bringing their pets in for every little thing. A woman in the room next to us had a chihuahua with diarrhea and my (ex)boyfriend thought this was a petty issue. I tried to explain to him that diarrhea can lead to dehydration, can be a sign of a more serious underlying problem, etc. but he just shook his head in disgust at people's "stupidity" of blowing money on animals.
This is not the first time he has judged responsible animal lovers for paying money to maintain their pet's health. He claims to be an animal lover but he is of the old school belief that animals come and animals go. Let nature take it's course and find something more "important" to spend your money on.
I don't mean to sound heartless towards his right to have his own beliefs but when he says things and gives off vibes that animals are not worth caring for financially it not only reminds me of why I broke up with him (differences in practically all opinions and beliefs) but it makes me sick to my stomach. He does not bond with animals at all. To the contrary, he has a short fuse when it comes to animals .. such as shooting the outdoor cats with plastic BB pellets when they try raiding the bird feeder or kicking the (outdoor) cats when they get in his way. He once chased a cat clear across the house hitting it with a broom when the cat sneaked in through a hole in the screen door. He wanted to teach the cat a lesson for entering the house. I was not home at the time but he texted me saying that Fluffy done went and got him all kinds of mad. He curbs his behavior towards the outdoor animals when in my presence because he does not want to look bad but I see the resentment he has towards them (he has a few outdoor dogs as well).
I called him out on it once and told him my instincts are very keen. He went and told everyone that he could not believe his own girlfriend could think he would hurt an animal, because he loves animals after all. His own chihuahua will protect and defend anyone that shows it love, growling at my ex when he tries to get near the dog when it is in the company of someone who shows it affection. There are reasons why a man's own dog will turn against him and look upon him with extremely intimidated eyes.
I was raised around guys who treat dogs and cats with such disregard, sometimes taking their frustrations out on the animals for simple things that they are bound to do such as too much barking or killing chipmunks. I know a heartless person when I see one and I know my ex views animals with contempt when they get on his nerves in the slightest of ways.
I once sold everything I owned .. nice stereo equipment, television, my huge movie collection .. just to raise up $500 to get Sammy emergency stomach surgery. This $500 turned out to buy Sammy 14 more years of life. Not to mention it bought me 14 years of companionship, love and making my own little world a happier place. I wish my ex could see that animals ARE worth every single dime that people put into them.
Of course, my ex has blown thousands of dollars on video consoles, video games, computer games (he is a gaming addict and admits it) not to mention he has put thousands into his truck to "pimp" it out. These video games and vehicles do not give love back. They are mere pieces of man made material but I do not make him feel like it is a waste. I realize these are his passions in life, these are the things that make him happy.
As I sit here feeling a world of stress and fear lifted off my heart knowing my Baby Kitty will overcome this current illness I feel deeply grateful and blessed to have him in my life. He brings an innocent pure love to my heart just the same as children bring to their mothers. *I* know Baby is worth every single penny I invest in keeping him happy and healthy.
I just wish my ex could at the very least stop belittling people for embracing animals as another form of children. In the end he is the one missing out on a kind of love that my life just never would have been as fulfilling had I never experienced. I do not appreciate his criticisms but what can I do? Every time I have tried discussing it with him he claims "don't get me wrong, I love animals .. I just don't see the sense in blowing money on them".
Has anyone here ever had someone like this in their life? I don't even know why his opinion gets under my skin but it does. I despise ignorance and when someone views us as stupid or ridiculous for maintaining our pets' wellbeing it just eats me up inside.
To everyone reading this: If your partner shares your devotion towards taking good care of pets please stop for a moment and count your blessings.
I wish I lived with someone who understood where I am coming from.