Hi, I've lurked at this forum for a while, but have signed up to ask for help because I'm at my wits end.
Two weeks ago I adopted a cat from a shelter. She is 12 months old, and had been spayed a few days before I adopted her. She was apparently found on the streets, and is small for her size and quite timid.
I brought her into a house which already had two cats in it, and have been doing the "introducing new cat into household thing", you know, separate room, then slow introductions, lalala.
New Cat, Dru, is really not coping well at all.
So far I am yet to see her walk ANYWHERE, willingly, of her own volition, except for when I've placed her in front of food, water or the litter box, and she hasn't felt like using the facilities, and has instead scurried away and hidden behind or under furniture.
For the first 24 hours when I left her alone in a room with food, drink and amenities, she didn't use them. She did her business on the floor. Once when she did a poop she didn't even move away from it, just sat there amongst it until I lifted her away and cleaned it up.
Fortunately she later proved she does know how to use a litter box after all, but so far she only eats, drinks or goes to the toilet when I lift her up, carry her to the amenities, and place her down in front of them.
So thus the first week went, her in her room, me coming in to check on her, and hold her in front of her food/water bowls and litter box to see if she needed to use them. At no other times did she seem to move. At all. When I picked her up and placed her elsewhere, she didn't return to her previous spot, she just kind of lolled where I'd put her, looking up at me. I took to moving her around from time to time, like you move a pot plant to catch the sun. It was getting spooky.
My mother (I'm in my 20s) who is a veteran multiple cat owner suggested tough love might be the only way to go. So I opened up the door to the rest of the house, moved the litter box and food/water bowls to where the other two cats have their amenities, and left her to it.
She didn't come out of "her" room for another 12 hours. I caved and carried her to eat, drink and relieve herself, and she did. I then put her on the sofa in the living room, for a change of scenery. The other two cats couldn't care less about her - they had a sniff and then went back to what they do, no hostilities of any kind.
The second week, up until now, it's been the same. She doesn't seem to move unless it's me shifting her, and I am yet to see her actually walk from point A to point B. I went back to work three days ago (I was on leave) and I'm assuming that she's eating and drinking because she hasn't dropped dead, and I haven't found messes anywhere so again I assume she's using the litter boxes.
The way she just sort of lolls and languishes wherever you put her is starting to freak me out. In a way it would be better if she hissed and carried on if you tried to touch her, but she doesn't. She lets you pick her up and stroke her and place her elsewhere, or on your lap, and then she just stays there, limp. Occasionally she flinches when you touch her, but most of the time she actually does seem relaxed enough and she actually purrs when you stroke her, rub her ears, tickle her chin, etc.
At the shelter she was normal enough - walked up to the bars, purred, mewed, seemed friendly and confident enough. The warning bells began ringing when she didn't utter a single sound during a 40-minute car trip.
She's due at the vet this weekend for her booster vaccination shots, so I will be consulting their opinion. But I would love it if anyone out here has also encountered a cat who isn't so much timid as in completely lacking in any kind of motivation whatsoever, and if you have any advice.
I live alone and work full time. When visitors come, she doesn't bolt for cover, she just stays wherever she happens to be and lets them stroke her and admire her beauty (she's a long-haired silver tabby) so she seems okay with people.
Help? Please?
Two weeks ago I adopted a cat from a shelter. She is 12 months old, and had been spayed a few days before I adopted her. She was apparently found on the streets, and is small for her size and quite timid.
I brought her into a house which already had two cats in it, and have been doing the "introducing new cat into household thing", you know, separate room, then slow introductions, lalala.
New Cat, Dru, is really not coping well at all.
So far I am yet to see her walk ANYWHERE, willingly, of her own volition, except for when I've placed her in front of food, water or the litter box, and she hasn't felt like using the facilities, and has instead scurried away and hidden behind or under furniture.
For the first 24 hours when I left her alone in a room with food, drink and amenities, she didn't use them. She did her business on the floor. Once when she did a poop she didn't even move away from it, just sat there amongst it until I lifted her away and cleaned it up.
Fortunately she later proved she does know how to use a litter box after all, but so far she only eats, drinks or goes to the toilet when I lift her up, carry her to the amenities, and place her down in front of them.
So thus the first week went, her in her room, me coming in to check on her, and hold her in front of her food/water bowls and litter box to see if she needed to use them. At no other times did she seem to move. At all. When I picked her up and placed her elsewhere, she didn't return to her previous spot, she just kind of lolled where I'd put her, looking up at me. I took to moving her around from time to time, like you move a pot plant to catch the sun. It was getting spooky.
My mother (I'm in my 20s) who is a veteran multiple cat owner suggested tough love might be the only way to go. So I opened up the door to the rest of the house, moved the litter box and food/water bowls to where the other two cats have their amenities, and left her to it.
She didn't come out of "her" room for another 12 hours. I caved and carried her to eat, drink and relieve herself, and she did. I then put her on the sofa in the living room, for a change of scenery. The other two cats couldn't care less about her - they had a sniff and then went back to what they do, no hostilities of any kind.
The second week, up until now, it's been the same. She doesn't seem to move unless it's me shifting her, and I am yet to see her actually walk from point A to point B. I went back to work three days ago (I was on leave) and I'm assuming that she's eating and drinking because she hasn't dropped dead, and I haven't found messes anywhere so again I assume she's using the litter boxes.
The way she just sort of lolls and languishes wherever you put her is starting to freak me out. In a way it would be better if she hissed and carried on if you tried to touch her, but she doesn't. She lets you pick her up and stroke her and place her elsewhere, or on your lap, and then she just stays there, limp. Occasionally she flinches when you touch her, but most of the time she actually does seem relaxed enough and she actually purrs when you stroke her, rub her ears, tickle her chin, etc.
At the shelter she was normal enough - walked up to the bars, purred, mewed, seemed friendly and confident enough. The warning bells began ringing when she didn't utter a single sound during a 40-minute car trip.
She's due at the vet this weekend for her booster vaccination shots, so I will be consulting their opinion. But I would love it if anyone out here has also encountered a cat who isn't so much timid as in completely lacking in any kind of motivation whatsoever, and if you have any advice.
I live alone and work full time. When visitors come, she doesn't bolt for cover, she just stays wherever she happens to be and lets them stroke her and admire her beauty (she's a long-haired silver tabby) so she seems okay with people.
Help? Please?








...just will take some time.




She needs to learn that she is safe, that love is good, that play is fun. If she's off the streets - or abandoned and on her own for some time - she never learned this or experienced it so long ago she needs to re-learn it. 





With the additional information you provided, I agree with Carolina! 
