Bridal Shower Question

I've been invited to a bridal shower that I won't be attending. After searching for over an hour for several items on the future bride's registry, I purchased a gift card. My question is: do I send the card with someone I know will be attending, or is it ok to mail it to the bride's home? I understand this is to be a pretty upscale event, and I don't want to look like a total hick who doesn't know the proper etiquette.

I would mail it if your questioning the etiquette. But if it were for anyone I know (because we aren't that classy apparently! ) I would do whatever is easiest for me. hehe

I should think the bride would be glad to receive the gift however you choose to send it! I was unable to attend my cousin's fiance's bridal shower (I was in Japan at the time) so I sent my gift with my mom. If it's just a gift card, it may actually be nice to get it in the mail with a little 'thinking of you' card or something.

I think you're right---I'll mail it so that she receives it a day or 2 before the shower, with a short note explaining why I won't be attending.
Thanks!

I'd send it to the bride's home, after the shower (the shower may be a surprise). People can forget or mis-place gifts.

Also, for the wedding, etiquette says that wedding gifts should be sent to the bride's mother's home (this dates from the days when women still lived "at home" before marriage!). As very few brides-to-be still live with Mom, sending the wedding gifts to the bride-to-be's home is ok. Taking them to the reception/wedding is not proper etiquette, yet it's done all the time. I still remember my annoying, know-it-all SIL being upset as I had no gift table at my wedding. She made one without my consent. She has a history of being tacky at family weddings--before that, she sent her son's step-daughter around to collect money at their reception "for the bride". She also was behind the very tacky scheme of raffling off a gift basket at the same wedding; the "proceeds" were supposed to go toward the couple's Hawaiian honeymoon. Since the wedding was in NJ, and they honeymooned in Cape May, I guess they didn't get many takers!

Sorry to go on...wedding etiquette gets me hot and bothered!!!

I'd mail it.