Roommate is heinous - VENT

The title says it all. I am this close to macing my roommate because she's a hypocritical snot with a victim complex

I've always had to tiptoe around her on eggshells because her moods swing back and forth. For a few days she acts fine and then she won't talk to me for some reason, like I've done something wrong. Little bickering has gotten to the point where she get's at me out for pathetic reasons, and now she's focusing on Allen and how I'm 'accomodating' him over her.

The table and chairs in the kitchen are hers, and all of a sudden she's making a big fuss because she's got him a few times laying on it looking out the window. She also says his back claws have scratched the wood and that her parents will be annoyed. I looked her in the eye and said I couldn't give a **** if her parents were mad, but fine, I moved the table away from the window and got a thick tablecloth.

Nope, not good enough. Her ultimatum is that Allen has to stay locked in my room while I'm at work (all day), and at night while I'm asleep. He's only allowed out when I can "supervise" him. We've been snapping at each other through text this morning and she's veily threatening to call the landlord, since we're not supposed to have any animals whatsoever. I MOVE OUT IN 3 WEEKS TO MY NEW APARTMENT.

Heinous and hypocritical. I've decided that Allen will stay at my parents 2.5 hours away and they will bring him down with the moving truck the last weekend of July. She has such a skewed view on life and is such a snotty brat. Good riddance.

I am glad you are moving out. You don't need to room with someone like that.

Aw, after everything your poor kitty went through! I'm glad your'e moving.

Sorry you are having to live with someone with such mood swings. Sounds like she could have depression issues.

I think this is more than about your cat sitting on her table. I think she is using your poor kitty as a scapegoat for her misplaced anger. Is she upset you are moving out? Does she have someone else moving in to help offset the expenses after you move out?

I agree, I really don't think it has anything to do with the table.

You and Allen will be soooooooooo much happier in your own place, hang in there hopefully these last few weeks fly by for you!

I agree about the misplaced anger, but I think you're very wise to get your cat out of the environment to your parents as soon as possible!

Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

Sorry you are having to live with someone with such mood swings. Sounds like she could have depression issues.

I think this is more than about your cat sitting on her table. I think she is using your poor kitty as a scapegoat for her misplaced anger. Is she upset you are moving out? Does she have someone else moving in to help offset the expenses after you move out?

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We are both leaving the apartment, me because I graduated in June and she's starting her fifth.

Honestly, I think it is about the table. She's just that kind of neurotic individual who thinks her way (or the way she was raised) is the only way to do things. She and I got into a row because I, unlike her, do not believe it is necessary to rinse EVERY SINGLE SPECK OF FOOD off dishes or silverware before placing it in the dishwasher. IT'S A DISHWASHER.

She calls me blatantly disrespectful for ridiculous little things and I just can't stand her anymore. God help her if she tries to talk to me about anything.

I'm debating calling my new apartment and seeing if there's any way I can bump up the move-in date. My parents can't move my furniture down until the last weekend of this month, but I'd sleep on the floor with a blanket if it means getting away from her sooner.

Glad you are moving on. She does sound like she has something going on; be it depression, bi-polar disorder, or some other kind of illness. I hope you are both a lot happier soon.

Originally Posted by AllenBoy

Honestly, I think it is about the table. She's just that kind of neurotic pissy-pants individual who thinks her way (or the way she was raised) is the only way to do things. She and I got into a row because I, unlike her, do not believe it is necessary to rinse EVERY SINGLE SPECK OF FOOD off dishes or silverware before placing it in the dishwasher. IT'S A DISHWASHER.

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Lol I have had way too many dishwashers that are better used as over-sized drying racks than actual dishwashers. I could understand her need to rinse the dishes off first if she's had the same experience.

Not saying I agree with everything else you've said she's done but that one was understandable to me.

I've been having this dispute about rinsing dishes with my daughter since like forever. Yes, I'm anal about it.

It's good that you are leaving. Nobody needs that kind of stress in their lives.

Originally Posted by AllenBoy

The title says it all. I am this close to macing my roommate because she's a hypocritical snot with a victim complex

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Pepper spray is actually far more effective than mace.

That's good you're leaving. You and Allen will be a lot happier soon.

Originally Posted by odiakkoh

Lol I have had way too many dishwashers that are better used as over-sized drying racks than actual dishwashers. I could understand her need to rinse the dishes off first if she's had the same experience.

Not saying I agree with everything else you've said she's done but that one was understandable to me.

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Not to turn this into a dishwasher debate, , but I have to agree with the OP on this one. If you're going to scrub the plate, just add some soap and then rinse it off already! Unless there is baked-on stuff or you've left the plates sitting around for days (not that I have EVER done that, ), the mix of detergent and spray from the water will loosen everything up and clean it nicely. Don't create work for yourself - doing the dishes already sucks! lol!

I know what its like to live with difficult people. My roommate criticizes my cleaning ALL the time. Funny thing, she almost never cleans! My mother is a total neat-freak, I've been a dishwasher and worked in a motel as a housekeeper. I know how to clean and clean very well. She tries to tell me I leave grease on the dishes (which I don't) but she leaves half her meals on her dishes.

Living with someone you really do not care for is so frustrating. Good thing you're leaving soon. Good riddance to her!

I have a relative who is obsessive like that. She vacuums several times a day and if you leave your water glass on the counter, it is whisked away, washed and dried and back in the cabinet within minutes. She is painfully clean and tidy.

The table thing, though... our cats are not allowed on the table or kitchen counters. I don't want them on the areas where I prepare or serve food. (They have lots of other places.) I get upset when our furniture gets scratched (and dinged) but I do get over it pretty quickly. If it's an heirloom or special piece, though, it's more difficult to let it go, especially if you are already fighting with the person.

Good choice to temporarily board your cat with the folks, don't want her taking anything out on him!

I think the dishwasher thing is a generational thing caused by how dishwashers have changed. You needed to rinse with older dishwashers because the food bits would end up on the bottom of the dishwashers. The newer dishwashers are set up to get rid of the food down the drain. I still lightly rinse my dishes because I live alone and the dishwasher sometimes takes a week to completely fill up before I run it.