(Another long post... sowwy! 
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I'm trying not to get too caught up in Joni plans since it's 10 days until she's home so I'm sort of torturing myself, but I did want to ask your advice since this is brand spankin' new for me!
Should I follow the normal, slow introduction process? Keep them apart, transfer scents, meet through a door, supervised intro for a few minutes, and so on over several days? Or, since they're kittens, do you think I can skip ahead a bit and begin with supervised "checking each other out" time?
I'm going to try and get a vet appointment Friday afternoon after I get her so I can take her home and get things rolling. If I can't get one, she'll be apart from them at least her first night since she's been living with an indoor/outdoor dog and I also (not to be judgmental, but...) don't know the circumstances she grew up in at her mama's house before my friend got her. She's had no shots just yet. I just want to make sure everything's okay and my boys will stay healthy after she comes in.
Once they're introduced, how should I proceed with things like litterbox, mealtime, playtime?
At night, she'll stay in the bedroom with me until I feel like things are okay between them, but as selfish as it sounds, when S&G first arrived and they were in the safe room aka my bedroom, I ended up sleeping on the couch and barely clocked 3 or 4 hours of sleep for three nights straight. I'm more than willing to do anything needed, but it will just suck to have kittens bugging me and attacking my face no matter where I try to sleep!
In my bed, it'll be Joni, out on the couch, it'll be the boys!
If we play with a wand toy, will it be okay to have them all three play together? Should she get a separate feeding station at first?
Do you think I'll be able to tell, sort of intuitively, if they accept her? What behaviors should I look for, either positive or negative? I was thinking about grooming, but it's not always a sign of affection and can be a sign of domination - so I'm not sure if that will be reliable. Even with my bosom buddy boys, it's hard to tell sometimes if the fighting/wrestling is play, so I'm worried I won't be able to gauge if I should intervene.
Clearly, my mind is "going a mile an hour" as Michael Scott would say
So much for not getting caught up. 
Any advice you could provide, as well as "calm yo'sef, woman!" vibes, would be awesome. 
Thanks as always!
-Anna & kittens
)I'm trying not to get too caught up in Joni plans since it's 10 days until she's home so I'm sort of torturing myself, but I did want to ask your advice since this is brand spankin' new for me!
Should I follow the normal, slow introduction process? Keep them apart, transfer scents, meet through a door, supervised intro for a few minutes, and so on over several days? Or, since they're kittens, do you think I can skip ahead a bit and begin with supervised "checking each other out" time?
I'm going to try and get a vet appointment Friday afternoon after I get her so I can take her home and get things rolling. If I can't get one, she'll be apart from them at least her first night since she's been living with an indoor/outdoor dog and I also (not to be judgmental, but...) don't know the circumstances she grew up in at her mama's house before my friend got her. She's had no shots just yet. I just want to make sure everything's okay and my boys will stay healthy after she comes in.
Once they're introduced, how should I proceed with things like litterbox, mealtime, playtime?
At night, she'll stay in the bedroom with me until I feel like things are okay between them, but as selfish as it sounds, when S&G first arrived and they were in the safe room aka my bedroom, I ended up sleeping on the couch and barely clocked 3 or 4 hours of sleep for three nights straight. I'm more than willing to do anything needed, but it will just suck to have kittens bugging me and attacking my face no matter where I try to sleep!
In my bed, it'll be Joni, out on the couch, it'll be the boys!If we play with a wand toy, will it be okay to have them all three play together? Should she get a separate feeding station at first?
Do you think I'll be able to tell, sort of intuitively, if they accept her? What behaviors should I look for, either positive or negative? I was thinking about grooming, but it's not always a sign of affection and can be a sign of domination - so I'm not sure if that will be reliable. Even with my bosom buddy boys, it's hard to tell sometimes if the fighting/wrestling is play, so I'm worried I won't be able to gauge if I should intervene.
Clearly, my mind is "going a mile an hour" as Michael Scott would say
So much for not getting caught up. Any advice you could provide, as well as "calm yo'sef, woman!" vibes, would be awesome. Thanks as always!
-Anna & kittens
Anyway, so they'll be apart at first.
