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My Dear Friend Tommy Lost His Battle With Cancer

post #1 of 28
7/3/11 at 4:27pm
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We just got the call. He passed away about 11 this morning. I am too shaken up to talk about it right now.

Rest peacefully, my dear friend. I will miss you horribly.
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post #2 of 28
7/3/11 at 4:38pm
I am so very sorry! I know how hard it is to watch someone die from cancer. As hard as it is - at least he isn't suffering any longer. He was very blessed to have had you as a friend in his life!

Just try to take things a day at a time....eventually, the pain will ease when you are ready to do so.
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post #3 of 28
7/3/11 at 4:52pm
I am so sorry to read of Tommy's passing, but I'm so glad you got to see him before he passed away.
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post #4 of 28
7/3/11 at 4:58pm
I'm so sorry. May you know peace in time, and find comfort in your memories of him.
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post #5 of 28
7/3/11 at 5:22pm
Aww! So sorry to hear. Now he's cancer free, but still losing a friend must be heartbreaking.
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post #6 of 28
7/3/11 at 5:35pm
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I am just sitting here bawling my eyes out. I can't believe that he's gone. I knew when I saw him that he wasn't gonna be here much longer, but I hadn't expected that it would be this soon. I was planning on seeing him at least one more time, in spite of the pain it caused me to see him that way. But now hes' gone and I can't. I started thinking about all the times we spent together, like our special trip down to Galveston that we all took together, and how much fun we had. I'm wishing I would have spent more time with him before he became sick: now it's too late. I'm really gonna regret not spending that time with him now...

I'm sorry for babbling, y'all. This has affected me more than i thought it would. He was so dear to me.

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post #7 of 28
7/3/11 at 6:13pm
*hugs* Losing a dear friend is not easy. Just remember that he is no longer in pain, and that while you cannot physically touch him, he will always be a part of your heart. In time when you remember him, you will smile and only remember the good things.
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post #8 of 28
7/3/11 at 6:34pm
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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca View Post
*hugs* Losing a dear friend is not easy. Just remember that he is no longer in pain, and that while you cannot physically touch him, he will always be a part of your heart. In time when you remember him, you will smile and only remember the good things.
I am so sorry you lost Tommy, he will always be apart of your heart
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post #9 of 28
7/3/11 at 6:44pm
It is so hard to lose someone so close, but keep knowing that he's not hurting anymore. If you need to talk, I'm here.
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post #10 of 28
7/3/11 at 6:55pm
I'm so sorry to read that your friend died.
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post #11 of 28
7/4/11 at 3:42am
Tiff, I'm truly sorry. He sounds like such a special person and I know you loved him dearly.
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post #12 of 28
7/4/11 at 3:50am
I'm so sorry to hear this
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post #13 of 28
7/4/11 at 5:53am
I am so sorry sweetheart. Thinking of all of his family & friends.
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post #14 of 28
7/4/11 at 6:19am
I'm so very sorry for the loss of your dear friend, Tommy. (((hugs)))
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post #15 of 28
7/4/11 at 9:20am
Oh Tiff.....

Many vibes to all who loved him.

Rest in peace, Tommy, you will be very missed.
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post #16 of 28
7/4/11 at 10:45am
Sending condolences to you, I'm very sorry.
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post #17 of 28
7/4/11 at 12:22pm
His suffering is over, though that's only a small consolation. Hold on to the good memories of him, and share them with his family and other friends.
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post #18 of 28
7/4/11 at 12:39pm
My friend, I am so sorry. I know you are hurting terribly. I pray that in time your memories will be sweet. As for regrets, I think we all have them when we know there are no more chances for us to spend time with our loved ones as they are now gone. Don't beat yourself up. Tommy knew your love for him. You were a dear friend and I am sure he felt your love and appreciated your friendship. Hugs.
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post #19 of 28
7/4/11 at 1:54pm
RIP to him my friend...
A hug to you, & my prayers for the rest of his soul...
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post #20 of 28
7/4/11 at 3:00pm
Even when it's expected, it's still always a shock. I'm so very sorry. RIP Tommy
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post #21 of 28
7/4/11 at 4:47pm
Tiff, I can't tell you how deeply sorry I am for you tonight hearing this news. I am just glad you were able to visit him last week, to see him one more time. I am also thankful he didn't suffer and linger on and on. You know, we all do this to ourselves, the "what if's" or the "I should haves" and beat ourself up over thinking about what we could have done. Tommy knew what a dear great friend you were to him. I am sure he knew this. I am sorry you are so very sad. Many, many vibes and prayers I am sending you tonight, my friend . Tommy was a great friend. Rest Peacefully, Tommy , you will be missed.

of strength to you and Randall
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post #22 of 28
7/4/11 at 6:46pm
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so difficult to watch someone we watch pass away and I do hope your pain lessens quickly.
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post #23 of 28
7/5/11 at 4:41am
I'm so sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care.
(I tried to post this yesterday, but it didn't work, so I apologize for taking so long to offer my condonlences.)
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post #24 of 28
7/5/11 at 4:47am
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Originally Posted by KittKatt View Post
I am just sitting here bawling my eyes out. I can't believe that he's gone. I knew when I saw him that he wasn't gonna be here much longer, but I hadn't expected that it would be this soon. I was planning on seeing him at least one more time, in spite of the pain it caused me to see him that way. But now hes' gone and I can't. I started thinking about all the times we spent together, like our special trip down to Galveston that we all took together, and how much fun we had. I'm wishing I would have spent more time with him before he became sick: now it's too late. I'm really gonna regret not spending that time with him now...

I'm sorry for babbling, y'all. This has affected me more than i thought it would. He was so dear to me.

I understand your pain. My Mom died exactly 1 month ago today, and I feel guilty for the very same reasons. I knew she'd die from her cancer, but I thought we'd have about another year or so with her, not 3 weeks. I ddin't get the phone call that she was in the hospital--my cell phone ddidn't alert me as it should have--and I got the horrible call at 6 AM that said she was dying, and I had to get to the hospital ASAP, as she had less than an hour to live--if I wanted to say good-bye. She died while we were on the way to the hospital.

Don't focus on your regrets--what's done is done--but think of the good times. That's how your friend would want you to think. After all, even though his body is no longer with you, you will still have each other forever. I don't believe that physical death ends a person's life. He's still with you. Please take comfort in that.
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post #25 of 28
7/5/11 at 5:41pm
I am so very sorry . He will be always with you in your heart. In time, the pain does ease, but I know how hard it is now. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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post #26 of 28
7/5/11 at 6:18pm
I'm very sorry
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post #27 of 28
7/5/11 at 10:27pm
I'm so sorry... I hope Tommy can become a happy memory for you soon.
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post #28 of 28
7/7/11 at 1:52pm
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Hey y'all,

I just wanted to let y'all know how much I appreciate your kind words & condolences. It really means a lot to me.

Needless to say, the past few days have been pretty tough. Right now I'm kinda just numb - or maybe I'm just plum worn out from all the crying I've been doing over losing Tommy. I'm glad that he's no longer suffering, but I still can't believe that he's really gone and I'll never see him again. I think that what's made this more heartbreaking is knowing that Tommy could still be here, if he would have gotten himself to the doctor sooner than he did. He knew there was something wrong, but put off going to see the doctor due to his worries over finances. If he would have gone sooner, they might have been able to treat the cancer before it got as bad as it did. But by the time he went to see a doc, the cancer was already in stage 4 and it was too late to do anything about it. Knowing that just breaks my heart, cuz he might still be with us if he would have done something sooner than he eventually did. It all just seems so unfair...

I'm gonna miss you, Tommy. You were a truly special person, and one-of-a-kind. I'm sure you have a special place right next to God.

Thanks again, y'all. Your thoughtfulness & support means a lot to me.
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