It's My Mom's Birthday Today

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My Mom died in 1976 when I was 15 years old. Today is her birthday and it would mark her 85th year.

On days like today I miss her so much.


So seeing that she is not here for me to celebrate her special day with, since she died, I have always marked her birthday by going out and having a maple walnut ice cream cone. Maple walnut was her most favourite flavour.

So that is my plan for this afternoon: To go and have an ice cream cone in honour of my Mom


It isn't much, but it makes me feel close to her.


Happy Birthday Mom! I miss you!
 

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What a beautiful way of remembering your mother.
 

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That is such a sweet tribute to your Mom! I'm sure she would appreciate that!

My Grandpa's birthday is the 6th and he would have been 89. It's also my daughter's half birthday. She was born on my other Grandpa's birthday and his half birthday. I always thought that was special. I've been trying to think of a way to honor him that day. I don't live near my family to go visit his grave or anything like that. I've got to think of something fitting.
 

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I hope this is a peaceful day for you. When we lose our moms we miss them until the day we die. If you shed tears today I hope they are from happy memories.
 

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I saw the title of the thread and remembered that Maple Walnut was her favorite flavor, and that you celebrate her birthday by having a cone!
I still think it's such a sweet, caring thing to do.


I'm so sorry you had to finish growing up without your mom.
 

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I'm so sorry your mom died, when you were only 15
 

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I think your Mom would be proud of you, and would love the way you celebrate her birthday. Sending you some hugs...


I'll be facing this for the very first time myself in August. I don't know how I'll cope with it.
 
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I had a great day!

My friend was about 1 hour later picking me up than we had planned due to childcare issues. But we went to a market square and had ice cream. It was very sweet. While we were waiting for our cones, I mentioned to my friend that it was my Mom's birthday and ever since she died, this has been my way of remembering her special day.

We got our cones and sat down and "clinked" our cones in a toast to my Mom. A guy that was standing behind us waiting to be served must have listened in on our conversation, because he came over to our table and held up his ice cream cup and said "To your Mom!" What a sweet thing to do.

Then we went for dinner, then to Walmart because we had time before the movie. We bought snacks and drinks and stuffed our purses, lol

Then we went and saw Source Code at a cheap movie cinema ($4.75 per ticket).

After the movie we went to McDonalds for a snack and sat and talked and laughed for about 2 hours.

It's now almost 3am and I just got home!

Next week on Sunday we are going to a Salsa Celebration with dancing and other entertainment and food. Should be fun. I'll definitely need sunblock that day because where it's taking place there is little to no shade outside.
 

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I know what you mean. My Mom died many years ago also and I think of her a lot during the year but especially on her birthday. At least we have the wonderful memories and photo's and of course they are always in our hearts.
 

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15 is way too young to lose your mom.
I don't know much about your life but I'm thinking you took over the role as mom to your brother, not an easy thing for a child to do. No wonder you are tough as nails, outspoken, knowledgable, and not afraid to take charge of situations. From your posts, one can tell that life has not spared you the challenges, but we can't control what comes our way, only how we deal with it; my hat is off to you for how you have dealt with it all.

I'm so happy you had a wonderful time with your friend!


Happy Belated Birthday to your Mom!
 
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Originally Posted by SwampWitch

15 is way too young to lose your mom.
I don't know much about your life but I'm thinking you took over the role as mom to your brother, not an easy thing for a child to do. No wonder you are tough as nails, outspoken, knowledgable, and not afraid to take charge of situations. From your posts, one can tell that life has not spared you the challenges, but we can't control what comes our way, only how we deal with it; my hat is off to you for how you have dealt with it all.

I'm so happy you had a wonderful time with your friend!


Happy Belated Birthday to your Mom!
Actually, my brother is 5.5 years older than I am, so the burden fell onto him.

My Mom and Dad were 24 years apart in age. They separated but never divorced, when I was around 9 years old. My Mom died at age 52 and my Dad 9 months later at age 76.

I always lived with my Mom, but Dad and I could see each other as often as we wanted to, there was no schedule or limit. My parents made sure that we always had access to them whenever we wanted. Which couldn't have been easy for either of them.

After my Mom died, since my Dad was on a meagre pension, I lived with my brother and his family. I can't say it was a good life with them, because it was anything but, but that's a story for another day.

Life hasn't been easy or a bowl of cherries for me, but if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't change a thing, not even the timing of my parents' deaths. I figure all that has happened to me has made me a stronger and better person and I'm pretty proud of who I am today.
 

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I missed seeing this post yesterday, but I just want you to know you're on my heart and I'm praying for you.
Your mom sounds like she was a beautiful woman
 
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