OMG i hate my ex.....Longish.

rescue-mom

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I normally do not talk bad about him but need to vent.
We have 3 wonderful children together 12,11,10 years old and our marrige last 3 months(he got very abusive once we said i do).
He married again about 7 years ago.I do not have custody due to my medical problems(I hated not being able to hold my children whith fear i would spasm and drop them,plus alot of hospital time).
I was recently informed by his wife that my 2 youngest have been diagnosed with FASD (fetal alcohol spectrum disorder), I never drank while pregnant and still do not,Well if i ever drank besides wine at christmas (not while pregnant) how is this diagnosed?
She will not give me anymore info than that they were diagnosed.....I have witness statements saying i do not drink and never have plus the doctor that i seen while preganant and delivered my 2 youngest (the 2 they claim)plus his father and step mothers statements.
I can not afford a lawyer to fight this.

My main priority is my kids and i will give up my wedding if i need too for this, but our total wedding costs are $400 not even close enough for a lawyer.
 

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Wow, I don't know what else to say.
Actually, I do have more to say. Why was it up to the step-Mom to hand out this information; seems to me that should have come from their Dad.
Who did this supposed testing?
And not trying to be nosy, sweetie, but what do you need a lawyer for?
Would their Dad be eligible for some kind of aid if the kids had this diagnosis?
I'm really not sure what to tell you, but if you need to vent you go right ahead. Something about this sounds fishy.
 

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Nuh uh...might give me away!
Are they threatening to prosecute you? I'm not understanding why you need a lawyer. If you are being charged with a criminal act, does Canada provide counsel? Or are they threatening to sue you?

Also, from what I can find out about FASD is that it's not a diagnosis, but rather a term used to encompass a huge range of diagnoses (such as actual fetal alcohol syndrome).
 

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I'm sorry you are going through this. It sounds to me like he is doing this because of your pending marriage.

Everyone is entitled to legal representation, which is why there is something called "legal aid", where the lawyer works for very little money or for free, depending on the situation of the client.

Contact your local Bar Association and talk to them about getting "Legal Aid" to help you with your situation.

EDIT: Here is the link to the Legal Aid Alberta site

http://www.legalaid.ab.ca/Pages/default.aspx

And here is the link of phone numbers for you to call

http://www.legalaid.ab.ca/contact/Pages/default.aspx

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In BC to get a diagnosis of FASD, there has to be proof they were exposed to alcohol in utereo. That information is usually provided by biological parents, Or health care professionals involved with the parents.
 
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I want to prepare to fight this legally if i have too, cause now that they are saying this i am being denied access to my children.
They will not tell me anything more than that they were diagnosed.My ex husband was a truck driver and was gone most of my pregnancy and her first year.Then after that he got local work and was home nightly during my other 2 pregnancies and both their births.
I deal with the step mom more because she is very insecure it seems and has this thing with my ex talking to me,So being the man he is he never answers my calls so the only way to have any contact is through her.
 

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Originally Posted by rescue-mom

I want to prepare to fight this legally if i have too, cause now that they are saying this i am being denied access to my children.
They will not tell me anything more than that they were diagnosed.My ex husband was a truck driver and was gone most of my pregnancy and her first year.Then after that he got local work and was home nightly during my other 2 pregnancies and both their births.
I deal with the step mom more because she is very insecure it seems and has this thing with my ex talking to me,So being the man he is he never answers my calls so the only way to have any contact is through her.
Do it legally and correctly. My ex and I are good friends and often have long talks until recently when his new lady got upset with me. Now he is not allowed to call me and only does so when she is not around because she is very insecure as well. He's whipped but men can be like that.
 
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