My Mom died this morning

I'm so sorry. I lost my dad to lymphoma about 2 1/2 years ago. Similar situation in that 2 weeks before he died he was feeling better than he had in a long time with a good prognosis. Luckily, my parents kept all of us in the loop on his health so I didn't have to be blindsided like you were.

The best you can do for your mom is to take good care of yourself and keep her memory alive.

Sending and some .

I am so, so sorry for your loss. Know that we are all thinking of you and praying for you in our own way!

My deepest condolences to you and your family. I lost my mother very suddenly and it is mind numbing. I will be thinking of you.

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss.

Oh my God.... I am so sorry for your loss....
RIP to your mommy

Oh, honey, I'm so very sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your lost. I lost my mom to cancer a couple years ago. The pain does numb, but I don't think it ever totally goes away. At least it does get easier. for you to get through this.

My condolences to you and your family.

I'm sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sorry that it was such a shock to you too, it's so cruel that you weren't kept in the loop about her deterioration.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Thank you, everyone, for your kind words. It's been a rough day. It started out with that terrible, 6AM phone call--"Your Mom is dying; if you want to say goodbye, you must come to the hospital now; she will not last an hour..."

Death brings out the kindness and nastiness in people, I've just learned: everyone here, and my friends, have been so kind; but I had 2 incidents today on the phone that made my blood boil. Three hours after Mom died, I got a phone call. Normally, I screen them (phone sellers abound here), but I was expecting personal calls, so I just answered it. It was a woman, who I thought was from the hospital or funeral home or something, so, when she asked how I was doing, I mentioned that my Mom died 3 hours before. The woman was actually collecting for a charity:"Oh, I am sorry to hear that. Well, anyway, I just want to tell you that we're having a collection event on June...blah blah blah." I said, "My Mom just DIED 3 hours ago! I can't deal with this now!!!" And she was still blabbering on when I hung up on her.

The second rotten jerk was, believe it or not, the funeral home. My brother called to tell me that I needed to call them to give permission for Mom to be cremated tomorrow. "Hi, I'm Marge, and my Mom died this morning, and your funeral home is handling the arrangments, and.." (I was interrupted here.) "Your name?" "Your phone number?", as if I was ordering a pizza over the phone--no compassion, nothing. She just snapped questions at me, then put me onto the funeral director--who had a pleasant tone, but no, "I'm sorry for your loss"--nothing. I swear, the guy who delivered our pizza tonight actually registered more of a sympathetic response than these morons! What part of "My Mom died today" don't people understand?

The above people make me even more glad that I have all of my friends on the Cat Site. Thanks again for being there.

I'm so sorry that the day was made even harder by a couple of jerks. That was so totally out of line.

Double hugs for you today, tomorrow, and for as long as you need.

Cally

I'm so sorry to hear the sad news of your mom's passing. Lung cancer just sucks. My dad died 2 years ago from it, and I won't get into the story of all that happened, but it was long and horrible.

I hope you get more kindness than coldness/nastiness in the days to come, and don't hesitate to ask for support and virtual hugs here.

I'm so sorry

I'm sorry to hear this

I'm so sorry... I can't even imagine the pain of your loss, especially so unexpected, and aggravated by a lack of peace in the family anyway, it sounds like (that is something I can understand).

We are all thinking of you. May you in time find comfort from the memories you have of your mother.

Originally Posted by MargeCat

Death brings out the kindness and nastiness in people, I've just learned.
Thanks again for being there.

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This will happen a lot, at least in my experience. Things like "it will get better" made me mad. It won't get better, I lost my best friend, the person who loved me the most, my biggest fan, the best person I ever knew, it doesn't magically "get better".
I am sorry this happened, for your loss, and for all the people who don't understand, they are lucky they don't understand the depth of pain. I figure they mean well and don't mean to be mean, insult you, or hurt your feelings when you are already down.

Very sorry to hear this. Hang in there