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Can someone help?! Idk what to do anymore!

post #1 of 7
5/17/11 at 10:46am
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Hi.. Ok getting straight to the point because I need some help. I have an older female (2yrs) and I have 9mo male. They have been living together now for 6 months just fine, my female cat even adopted him.. letting him nurse on her. So about a week ago my partner and I woke up too loud screaming, and objects flying. Much to our surprise our older cat '' nayla'' was on top of our curtain rode in the living room and our younger cat '' cody'' was on to of that tree trying to get to her. That morning I took him in to get fixed, and there still not getting along. Its been 6 days and were going crazy because we have to keep them seperated. I've started to re introduce them to each othe slowly I'll crack the door let them see each other hiss, swat,do what ther need to do to get it out of their system. We also let them in our bed room together but one of us has to stay between them. Let me also leave you with this, the only one that's aggressive is nayla she hiss' and growls. Poor cody on the other hand, is not understanding the whole situation. He wants to play, doesn't understand why shes being this way..and neither do we. Someone please help! I feel so bad we have to keep switching them, then the other one cries when there by themselves. Ugh.
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post #2 of 7
5/17/11 at 12:38pm
He likely smells foreign to her. He was in a vet hospital and picked up all kinds of strange smells from cats to medicine to different people scents. She doesn't recognize him.

I've never had this problem, so I can't speak from experience. However I've seen suggestions such as using something called "feliway" and putting vanilla extract on the base of their tails so that they both smell the same....vanilla.

She could also still be scared of him from before he was neutered. He was likely aggressive towards her as it seems from your post. So she will need time to get over that. A slow reintroduction seems to be the way to go.

Also, what I did when introducing my cats I took 2 towels. Rubbed one all over one cat, and the other over the other cat and put each towel in with the cats so that they could get used to each others' scent. Basically cat 1 got cat 2's towel.

Also, don't show favourtism. Try to give each the same amount of attention.

Hope that gives you someplace to start.
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post #3 of 7
5/17/11 at 3:10pm
The Vanillia idea is great, Or you could get "cat wipes" or a foaming cat shampoo that doesnt require the ever dreadful water! LOL This way they will both smell the same again. I have a male that absolutley hates one of my females and they had just started to settle down when I got her spayed.....Then the trouble started all over again! I used the foaming shampoo on both of them. They still have issues sometimes. He'll be a jerk to her for absolutley no reason and out of nowhere start hissing and swatting at her. I've found its usually best for them to hash it out on their own b/c the more I get involved the more he feeds on my anxiety. I fear he also does it to get my attention b/c he makes it a point to do it in my presence and never when Im not in the room. You can also make it a point to give them treats right next to each other to reward them by being in the same space. I also play "string" with them to encourage togetherness. Your furbabies will eventually hash out their differences right now their no doubt figuring out who the Alpha is!
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post #4 of 7
5/17/11 at 3:28pm
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Thank you guys! I really appreciate all the advice. I'm going to try everything necessary to rekindle there friendship. I would like to just let them hash it out...but nayla gets really loud and angry. I'm afraid shes going to hurt him. Hes still a baby. But I think she might be feeling a little left out because we've been keeping her out of the room more..if we leave cody out he cries. Ughhhh this is difficult. I'm going to try the feliway idea too...i hope that helps. Thanks everyone.
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post #5 of 7
5/17/11 at 11:31pm
I have a similar situation and probably start another thread on it. Your description of one cat picking on another to gain your attention is something I wondered about as well regarding my aggressive cat. I am still somewhat bewildered that cat jealousy can be triggered by our presence.
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post #6 of 7
5/18/11 at 3:28am
Don't worry! Many threads on this as it's very common. See my reply herein this post
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post #7 of 7
5/18/11 at 5:04am
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Just a quick update..so I got really tired of tip-toeing around them making sure they were seperated..so I opened all the doors put there food bowls back together. And just acted like everything was fine. It helped..there are now able to be ib the same room..they also slept in close perimeters on our bed. However, Nayla continues to hiss and growl. So first thing tmw I'm going to buy the feliway...hopefully it helps. I just don't understand this behavior. Cody has been very submissive and laid back with her til I think he just got fed up and stood up for him self and they had a little stair down. Agghh geeez .. I hope she gets over it soon because I'm betting tired of this and I'm sure cody wants his play mate back.
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