So, Kyle and I got engaged a few months ago, and he said he was giving me his grandmother's ring. I said I'd think about it, etc etc and I didn't want the ring just yet....
Well, after I thought about it and I said yes, he asked his grandmother who had promised him the ring, and she started being weird about the whole thing- first she said she would get it appraised and insured, which I was like okay whatever...
Then, she asked us to go to Kyle's sisters' play, who is an actress, and we couldn't make it. Since then she especially called Kyle to tell him to forget about the ring, and she has been slowly warming up to us again, but there has been no mention of her ring...
What makes me mad is the fact that she is just playing games with us, and she wants to control us. She wants it to be where if she says we have to go somewhere, we drop everything and we go.
Anyway, Kyle bought me a ring since then, but he got the wrong size and I haven't sized it yet, so she doesn't know it's an engagement ring because I wear it on my middle finger where it fits. It's really been a 'secret' between us lol, so she will most likely decide to give me her ring sometime soon as she warms up to us some more. She will be really hurt if we deny her ring, because I know it will be special to her if her favorite grandson uses her engagement ring. But at the same time, I feel like the ring symbolizes Kyle's promise to me, not her promise to me
this is what has been upsetting me, the fact that she butts into this whole thing. Rather than saying, "here, Kyle take the ring, it's yours to give her" and staying out of it, she is being weird, trying to be the one who goes to appraise, insure and size it My mom jokingly said she is afraid I'll take her ring and take off with it....and then she indirectly puts conditions on it, as in she is saying if you do what I tell you you can have the ring but otherwise you can't...
Anyway, I'm trying hard to say no to her ring, because it's so beautiful and extremely expensive, I never would have dreamed of wearing a ring with that kind of price tag
But really I refuse to be bribed with material things and controlled...
What do you think, what would you do???
Well, after I thought about it and I said yes, he asked his grandmother who had promised him the ring, and she started being weird about the whole thing- first she said she would get it appraised and insured, which I was like okay whatever...
Then, she asked us to go to Kyle's sisters' play, who is an actress, and we couldn't make it. Since then she especially called Kyle to tell him to forget about the ring, and she has been slowly warming up to us again, but there has been no mention of her ring...
What makes me mad is the fact that she is just playing games with us, and she wants to control us. She wants it to be where if she says we have to go somewhere, we drop everything and we go.
Anyway, Kyle bought me a ring since then, but he got the wrong size and I haven't sized it yet, so she doesn't know it's an engagement ring because I wear it on my middle finger where it fits. It's really been a 'secret' between us lol, so she will most likely decide to give me her ring sometime soon as she warms up to us some more. She will be really hurt if we deny her ring, because I know it will be special to her if her favorite grandson uses her engagement ring. But at the same time, I feel like the ring symbolizes Kyle's promise to me, not her promise to me
this is what has been upsetting me, the fact that she butts into this whole thing. Rather than saying, "here, Kyle take the ring, it's yours to give her" and staying out of it, she is being weird, trying to be the one who goes to appraise, insure and size it My mom jokingly said she is afraid I'll take her ring and take off with it....and then she indirectly puts conditions on it, as in she is saying if you do what I tell you you can have the ring but otherwise you can't...Anyway, I'm trying hard to say no to her ring, because it's so beautiful and extremely expensive, I never would have dreamed of wearing a ring with that kind of price tag
But really I refuse to be bribed with material things and controlled...What do you think, what would you do???
