Please help!!

Hi everyone!

My name is Sarah and I have two precious kitties! I have a black and white (Lucy) domestic short hair and a white and gray (Luke) domestic shorthair. They are 1 and 1 and a half. I am looking for a home for my babies I love them to death however, I am moving in with my fiance who is severely allergic and I will not move in with him unless I have found them good homes. Anyone who may be able to help would be greatly appreciated. I live in NJ but am willing to travel for a good home. They are both great pets, one may take a little time to adjust to a new environment more than the other however overall they are great little companions. My lease is up in August but I must give a decision by July and I will not move out unless I can find my babies good homes Please help!!

Hi, Sarah! Many of us here are allergic to cats, but happily live with them anyway. There are quite a few effective measures you can take to lower the amount of cat dander in your home, and thus avoid allergic reactions, so it's very possible you and your fiance AND your kitties could live happily together.

Sometimes people don't want cats around and use the "allergic" card... not saying that's your situation, but if your fiance knows how much you love your cats then he should want to try to make it work. Good luck!

Thanks! I appreciate the advice! Unfortunately my fiance is severely allergic, he can't sleep at my house at all because his throat swells up when he is in a room that may contain cat dander for too long . I have had cats all of my life and have never met anymore more allergic .

Have allergy shots been tried? And keeping the cats out of the bedroom(or maybe to just one room)

I have many cats and severe allergies(asthma-need inhalers at least daily).

What part or county in nj ar you?

Not much time considering they are adults-if it came to it can you renew another year to buy your babies a chance at life?

Obviously you are looking for advice on where you can place your cats rather than how you can keep them.

Have you asked your vet if he knows anyone? What about friends or family - do they know anyone? I'd hesitate to advertise unless you are willing to spend the time to screen potential adopters. With any luck there may be a member here from your area that can help you.

If I can't find a home with someone I can trust then I will absolutely renew another year because I love my cats & I rescued them for a reason. I've been asking close friends and family. My mother would be able to take one because in her home she has a 4 pet minimum and she has three other pets and I know either of my cats would be okay there but I have not talked to the vet. I'll definitely give the vet a call tomorrow. Thanks!

& I'm in Middlesex County to answer your question

Originally Posted by lucynlola

If I can't find a home with someone I can trust then I will absolutely renew another year because I love my cats & I rescued them for a reason.

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Can I ask a question? Please don't take it the wrong way, because it's not being asked in a malicious way. Just genuine curiosity.

You genuinely love your cats, and would obviously delay your move to make sure they get a wonderful home. How did you become so involved with someone so allergic to cats? Surely you must have known about his allergies, and had an idea of where the relationship was going and what it would mean to you and your cats?

For me, personally, I'd never allow myself to become so involved with someone who couldn't or wouldn't be around my cats for whatever the reason. It's the first question I get out there before I pursue a relationship further. I'm a package deal and where I go so do my cats. And if the person can't or isn't able to accommodate that, then I know we are not meant to be together because I can't ever imagine living in a home where I can't have cats. I know I wouldn't be happy.

I know no one asked for my two cents on this but it seems to me that the OP has made it clear that her fiance is extremely allergic and she needs help rehoming the cats. I know we all want to see cats stay in their homes because we strongly believe it's in their best interest and if you've ever worked in animal rescue you know how hard it is to place adult animals in new homes. That being said, it is possible and sometimes with excellent results.

Lucy, I've often seen the friend/family approach working the best when adult animals need a new home. I'd continue pursuing that. Also, ask local animal rescues if they would let you take the cats to one of their adoption days. Please remember that people in animal rescue have heard every reason in the book for why someone wants to find a new home for their pet and they may not be receptive. It can be a very thankless task, working in animal rescue. If they're kind enough to help you out, please make as generous a donation to their group as you can. If someone chooses your two kitties over theirs, that's two mouths they have to feed for that much longer.

Good luck. It sounds like you're in a very difficult position and I hope you find a home you can feel good about.

Originally Posted by howtoholdacat

I know no one asked for my two cents on this but it seems to me that the OP has made it clear that her fiance is extremely allergic and she needs help rehoming the cats. I know we all want to see cats stay in their homes because we strongly believe it's in their best interest and if you've ever worked in animal rescue you know how hard it is to place adult animals in new homes.

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I have no issue with her rehoming her cats.

My only suggestion is that if she advertises, that she makes sure that she charges a nominal adoption fee. Charging a fee means that it is less likely that a research lab will be asking about the cats, and more likely that only serious adopters would be calling.

The "adoption fee" can be hidden using such terms as "includes litter, litter box, toys, cat tree, and food" or whatever else you may have that you are sending with the cats.

Also including a letter "written by each cat" to indicate what they like and don't like. For example, how each likes to be petted. Does it like to sleep in bed? Where in bed? Pillow? Foot? Does it have any favourite toys? Favourite food? Any special quirks like it likes to be held a certain way (for example, Spencer doesn't like to be held anyway except on his back like an infant in your arms.

Again, my question above was only out of curiosity, not maliciousness.

Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

Can I ask a question? Please don't take it the wrong way, because it's not being asked in a malicious way. Just genuine curiosity.

You genuinely love your cats, and would obviously delay your move to make sure they get a wonderful home. How did you become so involved with someone so allergic to cats? Surely you must have known about his allergies, and had an idea of where the relationship was going and what it would mean to you and your cats?

For me, personally, I'd never allow myself to become so involved with someone who couldn't or wouldn't be around my cats for whatever the reason. It's the first question I get out there before I pursue a relationship further. I'm a package deal and where I go so do my cats. And if the person can't or isn't able to accommodate that, then I know we are not meant to be together because I can't ever imagine living in a home where I can't have cats. I know I wouldn't be happy.

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In all fairness to the OP I truly understand her dilemma. My niece met a man who has terrible allergies to cats and she had to rehome her cat. Just because someone is extremely allergic to animals does not make them a bad person nor does it mean you should never get involved with them. That surely is a personal choice. The man my niece is with is a wonderful person in many ways. It is not his fault he has these allergies. If one has met someone and has the chance to have a lifetime of happiness with that person, then I see no problem with them being responsible enough to find a good home for their cat. That does not make them a bad person either IMO.

Originally Posted by Yosemite

..... Just because someone is extremely allergic to animals does not make them a bad person nor does it mean you should never get involved with them..... It is not his fault he has these allergies.

If one has met someone and has the chance to have a lifetime of happiness with that person, then I see no problem with them being responsible enough to find a good home for their cat. That does not make them a bad person either IMO.

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I never said it did. I just asked one cat lover to another, a simple question because I was curious. Please, let's not turn this into something more than what it was meant to be... just a curious question.

Hello . I truly feel for you on this matter. I do know there are people out there who, no matter what they try, cannot positively ever be around cats. My SIL is that way and she is a cat lover, had cats as a youngster. She is now deathly allergic to cats and it pains her heart that she can never have another cat. I bet if you keep at it with family, friends, vets and just talking with people at pet stores, you might be able to find a home for them together. It would be great if your mom could take both cats so they could stay together. Much luck to you on this

Thanks for everyone's help I believe after reaching out to my family two of my family members who are cat lovers are both interested in taking one or both of my babies. & I did not think of turning down a man who treats me wonderfully for 6 years because he is allergic to my pets. I thought that allergy shots or medication would make things easier, unfortunately they have not. I rescued both cats when I found them severely emaciated in an alley near my job, so I did not know that I would have them but they quickly became part of my little family. At this time my (now-fiance) boyfriend was already around, however I saw these animals and they looked like they were suffering. So regardless of my significant other I thought it would be better to take them to a vet, get them healthy again, and give them a healthy home.

That is fabulous news and I am happy for you, your cats and your future with your fiance!!! You have given those cats much love by taking them in and now you will at least still be able to see them Much luck

That's awesome! I hope the family works out fantastically for your kitties so you can visit them. Congratulations on your engagement. I really enjoyed mine! Marriage is good too!