Hi guys, just joined this evening in the hope that someone can shed light on a little problem I have been experiencing with my cat!
Ok, so our cat is a one-year-old male, we adopted him from the shelter when he was around ten/12 weeks old. He was born there so he was always been very used to human contact. He has always been incredibly affectionate, loves attention, very friendly and curious with new people and visitors etc.! Basically, he has been a perfect cat.
However, one little odd problem. I have a fluffy bathrobe that I wear that my cat has an unusual attachment to. When he was a kitten, he got into the habit of suckling on it, as though he was suckling his mother. We thought maybe he found it comforting. However, as he has gotten older, it has turned into a completely sexual thing. Not to be too graphic, but basically he makes a beeline for the bathrobe whenever he sees it, begin suckling on the fabric, becoming physically aroused and mimicking thrusting motions, etc.
Whenever I try to move away, or move the bathrobe away, he gets VERY angry. Manic expression, meowing loudly and comes towards me as though he wants to attack me. Generally, I have to leave the room when this happens and wait until he calms down as he gets very threatening.
This evening, it all came to a point. He came into the bedroom where the bathrobe was lying on the floor, got on top of it and began to suckle and get excited. I picked up the bathrobe and just put it in my wardrobe (in retrospect, maybe a bad idea?). However, he then got very aggressive and began moving towards me and meowing as before, literally backing me into a corner. My family had two female cats for over 12 years and I have never experienced this kind of behaviour before, so I was actually quite frightened. Eventually, I shooed him out the window, but left it open thinking he would calm down outside for a while and come back later his usual self.
Around fifteen mintues later, he came back inside, looking for attention. he lay on the bed next to me and I began stroking him and he was purring happily. However, as soon as I STOPPED stroking him, he began to meow loudly and returned to his aggressive state (like before when I had interrupted him with the bathrobe) and tried to attack me. His pupils were very dilated and he began coming towards me, trying to claw his way up my leg. To be honest, I was really frightened and really couldn't do anything - my boyfriend managed to grab the cat and put him outside in the end.
When he is in this attacking mode he is really persistent - batting him away or making loud noises does not help. When he is in this mindset he seems totally focussed on attacking me, it really is strange.
I am quite upset by this situation and what happened this evening, especially considering he is such a lovely cat normally. I don't know what to do because I honestly find it quite scary when he gets so aggressive!
I understand cats can get aggressive when overstimulated but I don't know if that is the case here, particularly because on two occasions (including this evening) he has gotten very aggressive as soon as I have STOPPED petting him?
What am I doing wrong? Is the bathrobe fixation normal? Is there any way to stop him getting so aggressive? I am really worried he might get progressively more violent/irritable as he gets older!
Any help would be thoroughly appreciated!
Ok, so our cat is a one-year-old male, we adopted him from the shelter when he was around ten/12 weeks old. He was born there so he was always been very used to human contact. He has always been incredibly affectionate, loves attention, very friendly and curious with new people and visitors etc.! Basically, he has been a perfect cat.
However, one little odd problem. I have a fluffy bathrobe that I wear that my cat has an unusual attachment to. When he was a kitten, he got into the habit of suckling on it, as though he was suckling his mother. We thought maybe he found it comforting. However, as he has gotten older, it has turned into a completely sexual thing. Not to be too graphic, but basically he makes a beeline for the bathrobe whenever he sees it, begin suckling on the fabric, becoming physically aroused and mimicking thrusting motions, etc.
Whenever I try to move away, or move the bathrobe away, he gets VERY angry. Manic expression, meowing loudly and comes towards me as though he wants to attack me. Generally, I have to leave the room when this happens and wait until he calms down as he gets very threatening.
This evening, it all came to a point. He came into the bedroom where the bathrobe was lying on the floor, got on top of it and began to suckle and get excited. I picked up the bathrobe and just put it in my wardrobe (in retrospect, maybe a bad idea?). However, he then got very aggressive and began moving towards me and meowing as before, literally backing me into a corner. My family had two female cats for over 12 years and I have never experienced this kind of behaviour before, so I was actually quite frightened. Eventually, I shooed him out the window, but left it open thinking he would calm down outside for a while and come back later his usual self.
Around fifteen mintues later, he came back inside, looking for attention. he lay on the bed next to me and I began stroking him and he was purring happily. However, as soon as I STOPPED stroking him, he began to meow loudly and returned to his aggressive state (like before when I had interrupted him with the bathrobe) and tried to attack me. His pupils were very dilated and he began coming towards me, trying to claw his way up my leg. To be honest, I was really frightened and really couldn't do anything - my boyfriend managed to grab the cat and put him outside in the end.
When he is in this attacking mode he is really persistent - batting him away or making loud noises does not help. When he is in this mindset he seems totally focussed on attacking me, it really is strange.
I am quite upset by this situation and what happened this evening, especially considering he is such a lovely cat normally. I don't know what to do because I honestly find it quite scary when he gets so aggressive!
I understand cats can get aggressive when overstimulated but I don't know if that is the case here, particularly because on two occasions (including this evening) he has gotten very aggressive as soon as I have STOPPED petting him?What am I doing wrong? Is the bathrobe fixation normal? Is there any way to stop him getting so aggressive? I am really worried he might get progressively more violent/irritable as he gets older!
Any help would be thoroughly appreciated!
Sorry I was so short previously, but it really is unfair to judge his behavior at this point. Everything you have described is exactly what a male kitten becoming of age would do, without the spraying which at this point you are very lucky for this to not have happened yet.
. contact the shelter where you adopted him, they should have given you the vet info. that does the S/N on their adopted out cats. Not sure why the shelter has not followed through to making sure you had gotten the cat neutered 
