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my husband may be choosing btw 2 job offers!

post #1 of 8
4/19/11 at 10:23am
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After a year and a half of being unemployed my husband has 2 opportunities that look very promising. Yay!
One is here in NYC and the other is in Boca Raton FL. If he gets both offers it'll be a tough decision. We've always talked about moving South (like SC). Love warm, sunny weather and lower cost of living. The idea of Boca is appealing b/c of the weather, a house with a pool and palm trees, the beach etc.
Problem is all my family is in NYC.
I want to have a baby next year. Is it a huge mistake to move far from my family when planning for a first baby?
Obviously the easy choice is to stay where we are, near my family and my support system and just deal with the winter.
Or we can see FL as a fun adventure for a newly married couple starting a new life and give us what we want as far as climate.
My job is flexible (I'm a nurse) but obviously it's easier to just stay at my current job.
Anyway, just wanted unbiased opinions.
It may be a moot point if he only gets 1 (or neither!) job.
It's all very stressful and an emotional roller coaster.
I just want to know!!!
So we can start planning (I'm a big planner...)
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post #2 of 8
4/19/11 at 10:52am
Lots of vibes!

If it were me moving, I'd be moving to NYC. For me weather is a huge factor. I can handle snow storms, but hurricanes? No thanks!! Also for you, since you are planning to have a family, having family/friends nearby that can help you out from time to time is a good idea. But it is not a requirement to having a baby.
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post #3 of 8
4/19/11 at 1:17pm
I can't imagine having a baby without having a family support system around me. Babies are challenging enough in their own right, without making things even more difficult. YMMV, of course!

Hopefully at least one of the offers will come through for him. Good luck!

Dave
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post #4 of 8
4/19/11 at 1:36pm
I'm going to go the other way. Living your life for others (family) can be a big mistake in the long run. Do what you feel is best for the long-term benefit of you and your immediate family.

With real estate prices what they are now, you can steal a house in Florida and the day will come when the prices go back up there.

And I hate snow...
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post #5 of 8
4/19/11 at 1:36pm
Lots of vibes!
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post #6 of 8
4/29/11 at 1:19pm
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Thanks for all the vibes and advice!
We decided the FL job sounds like a better opportunity and the job that he may have a better shot of getting.
Last week they had him fax in a release for credit and background check.
Unfortunately NO OFFER YET!
So frustrating!!!!
He's even called and e-mailed in the past week to check in on the process and see if there's anything else he needs to do, and the guy just never responded. Ugh. So rude and frustrating!
So now we don't know if this means things are just delayed or the guy's just busy or distracted or if they decided not to hire him and just never plan on telling him.
Anyway, we could use lots of vibes for a job offer of some sort sometime soon!!
Thank you!!!
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post #7 of 8
4/29/11 at 8:54pm
Good luck for your DH!..............
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post #8 of 8
4/30/11 at 12:31am
Congrats on the double job offers possibilities!
I think you are a great planner and while you can plan a baby, that baby may or may not cooperate with your plans on when he or she will come. There are too many variables.
Sounds like big decisions are ahead. I have moved far away from family and it was very tough even without a new baby. I had to return. But there were some variables that made it especially hard, that hopefully you don't have to deal with (serious illness).
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