Its nearly time..

I posted a while ago about dh's grandad. He has had lung cancer now for 16 months, he decided against treatment as he was diagnosed just after his wife died. He has been very frail now for a few weeks,he was adamant he wanted to stay at home so he has been having care pretty much 24/7.
Unfortunately the last 2 days he has seriously deteriorated and he has now had to be moved to a nursing home, the doctor has said he will be lucky if he makes it to the weekend, he is so poorly. His pain is bein managed well but he does not know where he is and is barely conscious. Its so sad but he has had a long battle. I thought we would lose him when I last posted as he contracted pneumonia but amazinlgy he responded to antibiotics and pulled through.This time though the cancer has took hold and there is nothin anyone can do,just keep him comfortable.
I really hope when he passes he will meet up with dh's nanna again as he has never come to terms with losing her.xxx

Oh hun

I really hope its a peaceful passing for you dh's grandfather

Originally Posted by -_aj_-

Oh hun

I really hope its a peaceful passing for you dh's grandfather

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Thankyou, I know you've been through it and its not nice but he is in a lot of pain and its not fair anymore.x

I hope he passes quickly and peacefully, I'm sure his wife will be waiting for him

for you and DH and the rest of the family It's hard to see them so sick

Originally Posted by Ruthyb

Thankyou, I know you've been through it and its not nice but he is in a lot of pain and its not fair anymore.x

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yeah its a relief when it happens because there is no more pain for them as sad as it is to say that

Oh hun, I'm so sorry. he'll find his peace quickly. And you know dh's Nanna is waiting for him.

I'm so sorry. I hope his suffering ends quickly & peacefully.

I'm so sorry this is happening. Lung cancer is horrible, my dad died from it almost 2 yers ago. It was just awful toward the end. I hope when the time comes, that he passes peacefully. You and the rest of the family can remember all the good times with him, and know that he is able to rest finally.

I´m so sorry for this hard time in your family my friend....
for he passed tranquil....

Sorry to hear this

What a tough time it must be for you and your family hun. I am so sorry you are all going through this...

Dh's mum said today that he doesn't know where he is at all, he is so confused and keeps slipping in and out of consciousness. They have put him on morphine patches and the doctor came to see him today, he has apparently told the nurses at the home to give him the medication that will help him along to the end. In a way I hope he passes soon and peacefully, its terrible it only seems it was five minutes ago that we were at his nannas funeral, hopefully they will be together again soon.
At the minute dh has chosen not to visit him as it hit him really hard with his nanna and he is finding it hard to cope, we all respect him for that, everyone deals with grief differently.x

Oh sweetie. It's probably best he remember his Granddad as he was.

I am so sorry you are going through this so soon after losing DH's nanna. I hope his passing is peaceful and you can celebrate his life and love without seeing him suffer any more.

dh has decided he wants to see him so we are going tomorrow, I am scared, haven't seen him for 16 months and he will look so different. I want to see him though as I love him. I hope everything will go ok.x

We didn't go, we couldn't mil phoned and said he looks really bad and is not in a very good way. My dh just couldn't face it after losing his nanna and seeing her like that. I feel guilty but apparently he doesn't know anything that's going on around him anyway. I would rather remember him the way he was.xx

My heart wrenched when I saw you were going to go visit. I know you and DH feel guilty, sweetie, but ESPECIALLY if you grandad doesn't know what's going on around him, I'm sure he'd want you and DH to remember him as he was.

He passed away at 4am, dh's mum rang us to tell us this morning, she wasn't with him but she was there until very late last night, I don't think she could face being with him after losing her mum aswell.
I feel a bit odd, kind of like I am glad he is at peace hopefully now but also it's so sad. I assume the funeral will be next week sometime, he did not want a big service, so I think it will just be something short but then we will have a nice wake afterwards.God bless him.R.I.P.xx

My heart goes out to you, your DH and your family
It's kind of bittersweet, it's so hard to lose them but you're glad they're not suffering anymore.

I hope he is back with his wife and they're resting in peace

May he rest in peace, reunited with his beloved wife.