Question of the Day: Thurs. March 10

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Gmorning folks


Todays question is about family.

Do you have family around? How often do you visit? Do you call them?
 

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Both DH and I have family in our area. I didn't marry the boy next door; I married the boy about four doors away!

Dad passed away a couple months ago, but my mother is still alive. We chat several times a week on the phone and I visit with her about once every other week. I usually cook something at home and then take it to Mom's and have dinner with her. That way she has plenty of leftovers, too, and doesn't have to worry about cooking for a day or two.

I have a younger sister and a younger brother and we have all gotten close as we've gotten older. Things that we fought about as kids and when we were younger aren't important anymore. What's important is that we are siblings and that we do love each other. Took us awhile to figure that out, esp my sister and me. And now, my sister and I chat several times a week, too. And we get together for shopping days where we go out antiquing, sometimes with our DHs, sometimes just the two of us.

My brother and I have always been close and we'll do anything for each other. He just had knee replacement surgery and we've been keeping in close contact. Last Saturday DH and I went to see my brother and SIL and we took them out to dinner.
 

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Craig's parents live an hr or so away and we see them once every few mths. They'll come visit for 2-3 hrs and we very rarely go there.

My Mom and her husband live 3 hrs away and we see them about twice a year, my Dad and his wife live 4 hrs away and we see them 3-4 times a year and I have a brother who has 4 kids that we see like once a year who also lives 4 hrs away. But I talk to my Dad and Mom everyday and mt brother every week. We seem so close but yet so far away at the same time.
 

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I wouldn't know what I would do if I weren't close to my family. I had one of those TV familes you see ... take about your day at the dinner table, spending quality time together, board game nights, etc. When my sister married she moved about 1.5 hours away. After my mom had her 1st round of cancer, she and my dad retired early and moved to be near my sister (as at the time only my sister had kids). We get out every month or so to see them there and the come once a month or so to see us.

DH's family isn't as close as mine. His dad lives 5 minutes away (his mom died almost 4 years agao). However his dad is one of the most miserable people I have ever met, so basically the DH takes him grocery shopping on Sundays and that is about it. Occaisionally we go out to dinner, usually when the DH's sister is in town. She lives close to 3 hours away. We go there maybe 2 times a year.
 

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All of my family is close. I have an aunt and uncle who live next door, another aunt and uncle 5 minutes down the road, Mom & little bro are 10 minutes down the road, other Brother is on the other side of the city and Grandparents are a 20 minute drive away.
We all see each other fairly often.
 

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My family I talk/see is hour away...I only talk/see my mom dad sister and brother.

My husbands family is hour away too(not same area) but I see them rearely as he was supposed to do an arranged marriage and theres a bit of hatred for me still on his moms part. his brother and dad are cool enough his mom and sister are drama queens.

I prefer not to be involved with to many ppl-I got my cats/dog and husband is enough. Family is just more drama in my eyes...


husband and I are both the middle child maybe thats something to do with our theorys...tho familys nice cause they all have cable lmao!!!!!!!!!!!1
 

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I live with my Mom and sister, so I talk to them everyday.
. I have a brother who lives in Lexington, Ky and we talk to him frequently on the phone and sometimes he comes to visit.
 

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My family is all over the country!! It is so hard to see everyone as much as I would like since I don't like traveling too much. One of my brother's lives in Chicago, so I see him alot
. My DH's sister lives near us so we see her. His father lives in Sedona, AZ so we love to visit there. Very beautiful there.

I am pretty close to my sister who lives in Seattle, I am in Chicago so we are pretty far. I am excited because I just planned a trip to see her in April. We are trying to also plan a family reunion over the summer up in Door County where my parents live. It is very difficult to get dates that work for everyone in the family. We are still working on this
 

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We both have immediate family close by---my Mom is 5 blocks away in one direction, MIL is 6 blocks in the other direction; I have 2 older brothers within 1 1/2 miles, DH's bro is 2 miles away. I have 1 uncle left who lives about 2 miles away, DH has 2 aunts and 2 uncles that all live within a few miles, too.
 

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My brother and his wife live about an hour away, but we're not close and we can't stand my SIL, so we rarely see them. We e-mail here and there.

My mom and dad, and my sister and her hubby live in Alabama. Gary can't really travel, so sadly we don't see them much. I talk to my parents about once a week. My sister and I e-mail mostly.

We've never been a particularly close family, but as we get older we all seem to want to be in touch more than we used to be.

The last time we were all together was at my parents' 50th wedding anniversary. We met up in 2003 in Virginia (at the time they lived in Georgia). I wish I could remember the name of the place (I should ask my folks), because not only was it beautiful, but they TNRd kitties there, and had a large colony of kitties that just made themselves at home and would come into your cabin if invited.
Most were polydactls.
 

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My family live about 2000 kms away so I don't see them often but do call each other about once a month.

When my husband asked for a separation last year, I retired and moved to his hometown to be near his family. They wanted me to be here near them so that if I needed anything they would be there for me. It's a very small town so we see or talk to each other constantly. One of my SIL's I speak with every day, my FIL a couple times a week and the others the same.

I'd be lost without them in my life.
 

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My family is all in Quebec and Ontario, so we see each other very seldom, and communicate on Facebook and Skype. We never did live in each others' pockets, but are there for each other when it's important. DH's family are much closer geographically, and we see them sometimes a couple of times a month, and are on phone, email, Facebook all the time.
 

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Thankfully, I do have family close by. I try and call/text all of my family members often (I talk to my cousin in California daily); facebook is also fantastic for keeping up with everyone! I very fortunate to have a big family!!
I see my granny and uncle about once every week or so. My sister Debbie lives with them but she's constantly running around, so I maybe see her and her kids once a month/two if that.

I see my dad almost daily now (It still amazes me that we have such a good relationship now! He was pretty much non-existent for most of my life, so it's a blessing to have him around.) I see my mom and aunt about 1-2 times a month (they both stay pretty busy.)
I see my sister Kimmy and her kids usually 1-2x every week, if not more (I'm the closest to them!). I see my sister Monica and her family usually ever two months or so since they live a little further away. That's not nearly all of my family members, just the ones close by. I also consider Jack's family to be a bit of a second family to me; I normally see them a few times every month/two
 

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Yep, my mom and brother are here in Ottawa. I see them maybe once a month.

Josh's mom, dad and grandma are here too and we see them probably once a week or so.
 

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to be brutally honest i have the unfortunate pleasure of seen my mother everyday i have to live with her and because of the way she brought me up dont feel the need to go see my family shes drove everyone away imo, i love my two brothers to bits would do anything for them
 

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We have a son and daughter. We talk often on the phone and see them. Hubby has a sister and I have a sister. We don't really spend any serious time with either of them. I have another sister who lives out of state. We talk on the phone sometimes. She never comes home. I have several cousins. One cousin grew up next door. He and I talk on the phone alot. We really don't have any family that we get to spend much time with. i wish it was different.
 

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My mother's side of the family all live in a different state. Used to go there on the holidays when I was a kid. My father's side of the family live 10 minutes away. I was close to my great grandmother here, but she died in 2006. I had 1 aunt on my mother's side that I was close to, but she died in 2006 as well. My father's sister I'll talk to on the phone, but don't really see her, except she's now she's come over a few times to see how the kittens have grown. I have a few cousins that I stay in contact with. Unfortunately I still live with my parents, so I see them all the time.
 

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Within a 25 mile radius there are tons. In general we aren't close/chatty but that's not a reflection on me - It's just how we are now that we're old. And busy. At gatherings we're chatty - guess because there's lots to catch up on
 

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DH's 3 sisters, my father, and my brother all live within 60 miles of us, but in all different directions. I see my SIL's once every 2 or 3 months, my brother every 3 or 4 months or so, and my dad once or twice a year. My mom died a long time ago and dad has been married twice since her and although we aren't estranged we don't have a lot in common.

My sister lives in Pennsylvania (with most of my extended family) and I haven't seen her in 5 or 6 years. She has massive substance abuse issues. My brother in law lives in Florida and we see him every other year or so.
 
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