I'm sure a lot of you know about the drama that's been going on in my home since my 21 y.o daughter basically ran away last July. DH & I drove past her on the street the other day, and I told him, "she's going to come talk to you tonight at work." Sure enough, she showed up---walked in and said, "hey, wassup?" like everything was just peachy. I guess she and her Dad got into it a little (you cannot talk to her because she is never in the wrong and won't take responsibility for anything). He told her he wanted nothing to do with her until she made up with me. She tried arguing with him, telling him that she had apologized to me. I don't know where I was when this supposed apology occurred, because I've never heard it. The last thing he said to her was, "Call your Mom". She did, left a message asking if we could talk face to face. She's coming over late this afternoon, and I'm absolutely dreading it.
I've discussed it with Dave, naturally, and my best friend. They think it's a good idea for her to come to my house instead of meeting in a public place. Their reasoning is that I can explode if I need to, get everything off my chest, then tell her she needs to leave before I get too angry. I thought a public place might keep me grounded, but the more I think about it the more I have to agree with them. I'm afraid this is not going to be pretty.
I thought I was over the anger but this has made me realize that I"m not. I know she's going to show up and it's all going to be about her---"this is what I've been doing the last 7 months....."----and I truly don't care. Her life is none of my business anymore; she made that perfectly clear when she ran away. Unfortunately, I'm the most emotional person you will ever meet (I cry at EVERYTHING). I have visions of myself becoming so angry that I won't even be able to speak, all I'll be able to do is cry.
I know this isn't a huge life-or-death situation, that there are so many more important issues going on in people's lives, but if you could just send a teeny bit of vibes my way today, I'd deeply appreciate it.
I've discussed it with Dave, naturally, and my best friend. They think it's a good idea for her to come to my house instead of meeting in a public place. Their reasoning is that I can explode if I need to, get everything off my chest, then tell her she needs to leave before I get too angry. I thought a public place might keep me grounded, but the more I think about it the more I have to agree with them. I'm afraid this is not going to be pretty.
I thought I was over the anger but this has made me realize that I"m not. I know she's going to show up and it's all going to be about her---"this is what I've been doing the last 7 months....."----and I truly don't care. Her life is none of my business anymore; she made that perfectly clear when she ran away. Unfortunately, I'm the most emotional person you will ever meet (I cry at EVERYTHING). I have visions of myself becoming so angry that I won't even be able to speak, all I'll be able to do is cry.
I know this isn't a huge life-or-death situation, that there are so many more important issues going on in people's lives, but if you could just send a teeny bit of vibes my way today, I'd deeply appreciate it.