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Im sorry to bother you all, I came across this site and I guess I just needed a place to unload. Im a 28 year old Australian male so I dont feel comfortable talking about this to my friends or family as they dont realise how much an affect little Alby had on me. People dont realise how much I liked that cat and I cant believe I am crying why I write this.

Today I was told by my mum that the family cat Alby died. He was roughly 15 years old and had a very good life.

I still remember the day we got him as a little kitten, we have had a strong bond ever since.

When we were younger he would always follow me to shops far away, I guess to keep an eye on me or maybe he was just curious. It turned a few heads watching a teenage boy followed by a cat a few step behind.

He was incredibly affectionate, and I dont think my lap could last 30 seconds without him jumping on me and wanting a snuggle.

I taught him to retrieve bouncy balls which he loved and he enjoyed it when I dangled my shoelaces or leftover spaghetti in front of him. He also loved the game where I pretended to stalk him on the property, he would run around and jump on me from behind then would run off again - he could do this all day.

When he was quite young he got stuck on the roof, all my parents and siblings were trying to coax him down. I opened up my arms and yelled 'come on Alby' without a hesitation he jumped off a 4 metre roof right into my arms (and face haha). To this day I cannot believe that complete blind trust he had in me.

My parents have a harmless dog that Alby was frightened of and so Alby would never go in the back verandah where the dog's bed was, but whenever I went there he would go. No-one could understand how Alby would suddenly become so brave when I was around. My grandma says its because he wanted to protect me around the dog.

I moved out of home about 5 years ago, but I always visited Alby. He knew the sound of my car and he would run up the driveway and jump on my bonnet before I had even stopped (cheeky bugger). He was great, he used to talk, any words you said to him he would always reply with a meow, you could have 10 minute conversations with him.

He was an outside cat so when I stayed at my parents house he would walk around the outside of the house ,find the bedroom Im in and sleep on its window sill so he could be near me.

Just over christmas when I was visiting I slept in a tent, scratch, scratch,I would hear as soon as I go inside it. I let him in and he would snuggle up to me. He is a big softie like that.


He was a really good cat and I miss him. He had been feeling a bit sick lately and had recently gone walkabout which was odd as he never left the areas around the house, a few days later my mum found his body a far distance away on the farm. It was overlooking a running creek, he had made a bed amongst the wildflowers and passed on. Its a beautiful spot, many years ago I used to always carry him there so he could hang-out with me in the hideout I had made out of sticks and leaves.

Im really sad he died alone, Im distraught at the idea he went to our spot to die. I wish I could of been there to give him one last hug.

I miss you little mate
 

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Oh that is a sweet tribute to your buddy. I have tears also.

Alby went there to die because he felt those good feelings you and he shared all those years ago.

He sure was a fun kitty! And, my goodness, how he loved you. Fifteen years is a good, long life for a cat. He must have had good care to reach this milestone.

God bless that wonderful little soul, He is in very good company at the Rainbow Bridge.

I hope very soon, you can look back on Alby with a smile at all the things you shared, and not a tear.

God bless.
 

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Until someone has had a bond with a special cat, he usually can't understand the grief we feels when we lose our companion. He was a very special cat and I'm sorry he is now gone. Rest in peace, Alby.
 

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No one here would find your bond with Alby to be anything but normal. We've all had "heart cats" that were as important to us as any human.

It looks like Alby chose a place that was dear to him, perhaps reminded him of you.

RIP, Alby.
 

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Steven, I am truly sorry for your loss of Alby. You don't have to feel uncomfortable here because we have all been were you are. We understand, we have all cried buckets. Please know that your precious cat remembered you up until the end, even though you were not there. The fact that Alby went to your special place to make her last bed shows that she loved you as much as you love her. Maybe you were even her last thought. You truly had a special bond with your cat. I pray that in time your memories will be sweet and bring you peace and comfort, not tears. But for now cry when you need to. It helps. People are wrong when they think men shouldn't show their emotions. To me it just shows the depth of the kind of love they are capable of. Remember we are all here for you.
 

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I'm very sorry for your loss. It's so obvious that you and Alby had a very special relationship, so it's natural that you're feeling such grief at his passing.
, Alby.
 

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I'm so sorry your Alby died. I'm glad you 2 had such a great time together, don't forget that.
 

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I'm very sorry for your loss, and I'm glad you found this site. It can help very much with healing to get all those thoughts and memories written down, I know.
 

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Originally Posted by Steven

Im distraught at the idea he went to our spot to die.
You should not feel at all distraught, that is such an honor to you that Alby chose that spot to pass on.
It's clear you had a very special bond with him, and he had a good long life. I chuckled at the story about him getting stuck on the roof and would only come down for you.
Unfortunately as humans we can almost guarantee that we will have to see our pets off to the RB, and it is very difficult, but that's the moment you have to put yourself in Alby's position: he had YOU. He had a long lifetime full of love and play and happiness, and that is the best thing you could do for the little guy.
 

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Thank you for sharing here your story of your very special friend, Alby. It is clear that he loved you very much, as you did him. I think that a person who is loved so much by a cat is an unusual and powerful spirit. Cats are not fools regarding judging character.

He went to that special place because you were in that place for him. It sounds like he died peacefully, and that's all we can ask for. He had a good long life for a cat. He knew he was loved. He will never leave you, really.

In time I hope you only remember all the joy he gave you, and forget the grief of his loss.

I'm sorry.

Robin
 

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Steven I am sorry for your loss. Please feel free to come back and talk to us any time you want too.

I can see the love you shared with Alby in your post. It is very difficult to lose a close friend who was part of your life for so long. I lost my friend Claude back in August 2010 at the age of 15 and I too he too had been in my life since he was a kitten. Claude was in my life since he was born. Hopefully in time you will be able to look back on your memories of Alby without always being in tears. Alby will always have a special place in your heart just like Claude does in mine. There are still days when I end up in tears when I look at pictures but the pain and tears do lessen over time.
 

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I'm sharing your tears over Alby. The love and trust he had for you was amazing! Once a soul has been loved by a cat that soul is never the same. Cats touch our hearts so deeply and completely. Alby was your soul mate and the memories you made with him on this earth didn't pass away with him on that day. He will always be with you. Always,. And we truly believe here that we'll all be reunited with them when our time is up. This love never dies. And Alby is waiting for you and loving you from a beautiful place. I do hope you come back to the site and talk with us.
The fact that a cat would jump from a roof into your arms says so much ABOUT you as a person. RIP Alby
 
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Thank you so so much for your kind words and support. It made me very emotional reading your beautiful words. Im very thankful. Im embarassed now that I was so open to complete strangers, but I guess being upset does that. And Im glad I came across this really friendly site.

Im also happy to share my loss not just for my own sake, but for Alby's. I want people to know about him, about how special he was. I dont want him forgotten. I know I wont forget him.
 

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We're not strangers Steven--just friends that you hadn't met until now. This is one of many things that Alby gave you--a place to go to talk about him with people that understand love and grief. As long as you're here you never need to hesitate talking about and remembering your Alby. There's never any need to explain it to us as you might to friends and family because we all understand this love.
 

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Yeah! to all Bella and me said.

If you have any pictures of Alby that you can post, we'd love to see them.


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Originally Posted by Steven

Thank you so so much for your kind words and support. It made me very emotional reading your beautiful words. Im very thankful. Im embarassed now that I was so open to complete strangers, but I guess being upset does that. And Im glad I came across this really friendly site.

Im also happy to share my loss not just for my own sake, but for Alby's. I want people to know about him, about how special he was. I dont want him forgotten. I know I wont forget him.
There's no need to be embarrassed because you opened your heart to "strangers". You apparently have no support system or someone who understands the feelings you have for Alby, and there's nothing wrong with sharing your grief or wanting to honor Alby's memory. We've all been where you are and understand completely. Please don't hesitate in coming here and sharing your feelings.
 
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