Hurt feelings.. gotta love FB (long)

Sometimes non-pet people just don't understand us crazy cat ladies

Don't take it to heart though, we know you are wonderful

Are you sure she wasn't joking? Some of my FB friends say similiar things about my snakes or kitties, only they say I love my critters more since I post more pics of my critters than my kids

I really try to focus on the lack of emotion on Facebook, or any text for that matter. Its very hard to tell if someone is serious or not.

If she was serious, I would be upset too and I'm sorry.....

Ah, that's okay...don't take it to heart. Some people truly don't get it.

Besides...my ex husband un-friended me on facebook today because I chose to remind him that he has a child (our son) after he posted something about not wanting kids. GRRRR. FB is definitely not always a good thing.

oh ugggggggggggg. I'm sorry. She would be on my "to be removed" list from friends if she's a mean person like that and deliberately insulting to you.

For the record, I don't think you're being overly sensitive, I'd be upset too. Mean ppl suck.

Oh honey, I am so sorry I know it hurts... It is true, some people just don't get it.... and our babies mean so much to us, how can we take that lightly right? I know the times I've been there I wasn't able to...
I would, however block her so she has no longer access to your page and can no longer post insensitive comments... I truly believe that people like that, unless we love them deeply and have something else to add to our lives, are better to be kept away from us for good. There is no sense in wasting time and emotions with them.
You know well I am a true cat lady - I mean, my cats have a web page..... and they talk! They are all over Face book, they have they own email accounts with their own signatures and everything
Wanna talk about the comments I get sometimes from people? For a while, when I was unemployed, my dad got close to refusing sending help over because he said it would go for cat food/vet bills, and not for my personal needs. It took me having a long and serious conversation with him to make it clear that these are MY CHILDREN. It told him that my sister and my brothers have skin children, and I have made a conscious choice to have fur kids instead - but that doesn't make them any less loved or important then his other grandchildren, at least for me. Heck, seriously, if one of them needs a piece of my kidney, guess if I am donating or not? If that was possible to save their lives, I absolutely would. So, I told my dad, better accept it, because if you don't send help, they won't eat, but I won't either.
And that's is how I deal with it.... I don't give explanations... I just tell them as it is... a FACT. They are my children, it is a choice I made, and I am proud of it. Furthermore, if a person doesn't pay my rent or my bills, this person has no right to say a peep about my choices. In my occasion, my dad had, as he was paying my rent

I'm so sorry, I understand why you were hurt To be honest I think that person was out of line, some people are so evil that it makes them happy to hurt someone, and it sounds like that's the case. A lot of people are just so negative that when they see how important something is to you, they will try to do anything possible to put you down and make you unhappy, because they can't stand seeing you happy, and seeing that you have things in your life that make you happy, like you do with your kitties..
It sux to be a victim of someone like that, but all you can do is take the higher ground and ignore the person...
If I were you I would block her from FB, that's just me though...

My sister is that way. And she has a cat. I totally understand about how you feel about it.

I second that. I haven't unfriended my sister... because, well, she is my sister, not matter how much she makes me sick. I have, however, banned her from seeing my wall posts. Yes, you can do that. And I'm all the happier for having her blocked from my wall posts.

Amanda

I also post mostly pics of my cats because I don't have kids and my "hanging out with friends"-pics are available to only those who are in the pics themselves. I would have been upset too if someone would have commented something like that.
I actually got a bit offended when an old friend from school wrote "All of your cats have horrendously big eyes.".. It was the only thing she had commented on my pics. I just replied "the better to see you with..". I don't know why I even found it offensive, it is true after all. Maybe it was the blunt tone it was written with..

Oh, people can be so insensitive- totally unacceptable. Do use security settings to limit this person's access to your FB.
My parents have never had pets or let us have any and they think having pets would mean you have a smelly, messy, dirty house. When we adopted Calvin, my dad (a diplomatic man) emailed and called. My mother was unhappy and told me that I should concentrate on having children (knowing full well that we have so far failed in that regard even with medical intervention). Then they saw pics and showed a lot of interest And talk affectionately about him. We knew that telling them about Hobbes would not go down well - especially to them that would account as being "abnormal" and so we waited about 10 days. My mother was really angry. She feels I am compensating for not having children. And what really hurt me is that she told me that my father has expressed that he will not visit me since I have a cat (that was when they knew only about Calvin and our plans to get a dog in the future) and then mom went on to say that now with 2 cats there is just no way my dad can be cconvinced to visit us (they live in a different country). I was complaining to my sister, and it seems that my dad told her too they he won't visit me. It hurts.

Non-cat people have such a hard time figuring out why we love our babies since cats are "boring, aloof and needy" compared to dogs. These same people don't complain when their kids are boring, aloof (teenagers anyone?) and needy (from T-minus nine months all the way through year eighteen and beyond). I think this person was joking and didn't realize what was said was hurtful. Someone who doesn't deal with cats and their issues doesn't realize how upsetting it is to basically be likened to some of these animal hoarding people we frequently hear about on TCS by using words like obsessed. I would be upset too; Memphis and Tails are by far the most important things (I hate using the word things, but in this context everything else sounded weird) in my life, but I wouldn't say I'm obsessed. I just don't have close humans at this point in my life. Should I forego all companionship lest I appear obsessive?

I really do know how you feel. And I think people can be extremely cruel, that person should never had said anything. I never understood why people just can't skim over things they don't like and keep quiet.

I, myself, can't have children. So, I have cats. Almost everyone on facebook doesn't understand that I can love and worry about felines as much as others do with their children. They are OUR children.

I went as far as to list my cats where you can put family members and made sure to write down (cat) next to their names, and there were instantly posts about how there's "catbook" for that, and it's stupid.

But I say if people can't accept you, cat person and all, they don't deserve to be on your friends list to begin with.

I'm not on FB I don't know anything about FB but is there a way you can block this person from ever commenting again? If there is do it. Doesn't sound like this person is worth knowing.

Aww Lauren dont feel bad! I have 2 full albums just of my cats. People don't understand how wonderful cats truly are! I love them as if they were my children too. Don't let comments like those hurt your feelings!

I too know exactly how you feel sweetie! I have tons and tons of pics of my kids on FB, in fact, the name of the album is "The Kids". I get comments all the time, but MOST people are just joking. Those who aren't are deleted. I don't need people like that in my life, and neither do you.

I reached breaking point today too with the "Oh you have how many cats?" "Just 7" "hahaha just 7 OMG". UM OMG I wanna punch your lights out!!!!!

Sorry! They are my kids and it is so frustrating so I'm another one who knows how you feel

I'm always posting pictures up of the kids on my FB wall, but the minute anyone says anything sarcastic about them they'll be removed and blocked

You can control who gets into your FB friends list. So why is she in it if she has such a negative history with you? Remove her as a friend and be done with it.

You're not over-reacting, and this woman isn't a 'friend'. I agree with the others who have said to block her from your fb page. We were unable to have kids until we adopted our daughter, so for 15 years our cats were our kids ( and they still are). Some people just don't get it.

No I don't think you're over reacting.

Facebook. There are just days that I'd like to delete my entire account. I have seen people hurt other people's feelings on there. Just because something was said out of context. Because you didn't "get" the context since it's written, not said and you can't see the person's facial expressions while they were saying it.

And don't even get me started on the whole "cyberbullying" thing. If I EVER caught one of my teenagers doing the crap that has been on the news- they wouldn't be seeing the light of day for weeks. And the computer would be GONE- the only thing it would be used for would be papers.

I'm sorry someone said that to you. If I got any kind of a snarky remark- that person would be removed from my "friend" list immediately. I've "hidden" a whole bunch of people that I'm just fed up with (work people) so I don't see any of their posts anymore. They still occasionally post on my stuff. I just didn't have the heart to "unfriend" them. That word just sounds so harsh.

And I have a zillion pictures of the cats on my facebook page too. Sometimes I've got more pictures of Holly than I do of my human children- just because she's more willing to be photographed than the kids are.
Cheryl

I post a lot of pictures of my baby cats...we have 7 but 3 of them are under 1yr and are always around/wanting love/doing cute things etc...so since we got each once we have posted a ton of pics of each. I add a lot of the cat pictures to facebook via my phone because i have horrible luck with phones and I find easy ways to break phones, or the screen goes out or something...and I don't want to lose any pictures of my babies as tiny babies because they were all so freaking adorable....
Anyways, one of my old friends who I rarely see/talk to anymore commented to one of my cat pictures, some random snotty comment like "oh look, surprise surprise, more cat pictures". I was offended although it wasn't as rude as the comment you got. I wrote back "LOL if it bothers you, don't look at them!" Because honestly, people use their facebooks in a lot of ways. I don't plan to have my own kids, my cats are my children and if I want to proudly display their pictures, I sure can. I absolutely adore my kitties, they are amazing animals and I love them so incredibly much, I will not let someone try to make me feel bad about it. People can be jerks, try not to let it bother you to much though...they probably just aren't lucky enough to have wonderful kitties in their life like you are!

Listen to her!... is a golden advice!...

BTW find me in FB as CoolCat ... you don´t regret!...

I don't think you're being sensitive at all to react the way you did to her comment. She's clearly a negative person, one of those classic passive-aggressive people who sit around bitching and then claim they were only joking so they don't ever have to own up to what they said.

That's so rude! There are ways to say things without being offensive. Using the word "horrendous" is offensive and couldn't be further from the truth of your stunningly beautiful cats.

I'm sorry she said such a negative thing to you . Some people dont understand, and it's unfair of her/them to assume that you have a lot of friends and family around. People get on my case all the time on FB when I talk about my furbabies. If I say they ARE my kids, people start giving me crud for not wanting babies or saying I'm obsessed with my cats, whatever.

I have a big album of cat pics (would have multiple ones if I posted every pic I take of them!), which usually generate positive comments because I remove all the negative people from my life. I don't have time for those types of people.

I'm sorry to hear about your problem. Personally I would only use Facebook for contacting and staying in contact with immediate family. I don't want my personal information or thoughts out there in cyberspace.

Someone once said that behind every joke is a half truth. (Might not be quoting that exactly right.) But I think it's true that some people just don't get it when it comes to loving our furbabies. So maybe she didn't mean to come across insulting you; but she just doesn't understand your love for your animals.

I think it's against the rules to post links to facebook pages. I think they have to be sent by Private Site Mail to individuals you want to add.