Question of the Day: Tues.Feb.15 2011

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Morning folks.

Today's question is about trust. How trustful are you? Do you give a person the benefit of the doubt or are you naturally a little leary on trusting?

Trust can come in many forms, trusting a friend with a secret or trusting a neighbor to look in on your animals while you are away, do you believe they will not look in on your stuff....

So what do you think about trust??
 

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I have big time trust issues... After being lied to and hurt so many times in the past, and with a pretty detrimental upbringing, it damaged my ability to trust. That being said though, I think Dana is the first person I have ever been able to trust completely. It is really nice to be able to do so.
 

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I trust my very, very close friends. I trust my neighbor with Larry while I'm gone. I trust my close friends with secrets.....I'm really not that secretive anyway. I trust my sweetie, Tony, with info, as he trusts me.

I totally trusted my doctors and nurses with my cancer treatment. I felt it eased the burden, and worry, putting myself in their hands. If that happens, you can just concentrate on the healing part.
 

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I don't trust people very easily. Trust has to be earned. First of all, I have to like the person and I don't really like many people. Really, i have one true buddy that I can tell things to without fear of judgment.
 

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Not too trusting....
. I try to see the good in people first, but am cautiously reserved. Been burned (OUCH) a few times. I keep the ones I totally trust very close, but it is only a few.
 

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I am in the same boat as Kailie. Huge trust issues. At my last job I bet I didn't speak to 5 people in the first two months. Everyone thinks I'm mean. I'm not..I just don't like people much anymore and earning my trust takes a lot of doing. The more I get to know people..the more I like rocks!
 

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I have huge emotional trust issues. I don't fully trust anyone that way. With physical things, it's easier. There are plenty of people I trust to watch my pets, with my money, etc.
 

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I am not one to trust someone I don't know, trusting someone is HUGE to me and very important. Trust is a thing that has to be earned, I don't just automatically trust someone I don't know even if they are nice.. if that makes sense.
 

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I have really good gut instincts and my trust is on a per person/situation. I judge each person/situation individually and decide my level of trust on the vibes I get.
 

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It depends on the person- there are people I trust wholehartedly and others I don't trust. It really depends on what they've shown me so far. I don't tend to trust people who are always making excuses, because it's statistically impossible for something out of the ordinary to happen so many times in a row to them.
Regardless if I trust someone or not, I will not question their truthfullness unless I have proof that they are lying. I'd just keep in mind that they might not be truthful, but I wouldn't say anything about it.
All in all I think I'm pretty trusting though, because in most cases I have no reason not to trust someone.
 

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Originally Posted by snp81

everyone is guilty until proven innocent.


There are very few people I trust; it seems as if whenever I give someone the benefit of the doubt they manage to let me down.
 

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I trust God and I trust my husband. Hubby is truly a man of his word. If he says it, I can believe it for the rest of my life. I have some friends that I trust in some areas, like taking care of my animals. I trust nobody with my secrets except my husband. Everyone else talks too much.
 

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People have to earn my trust, every time. I will distrust until proven otherwise. my husband learned this, the first year we were dating. I assumed that everytime he went back to college (he drove 3 hours each way to visit me every weekend) that he was cheating on me with some tramp, especially when he missed a phone call from me, or forgot to call. I know now he's just a big nerd that forgets things all the time. I can trust him with any secret, and know that he won't blab to anyone. I am not trusting with vets, or doctors. when they give me a medicine for my animals, I do my own research online to make sure it's safe for them before giving it to them. I am don't even trust my own sister to care for my animals properly when I'm gone, because she forgets things too often! I would rather pay my cousin to drive 30 minutes each way to come and take care of them, instead of my sister, whom lives in my house. My animals I trust. Other people's animals, not so much. animals in the shelter? definitely don't trust them, but I still love on them, because I understand that they are scared.
 

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People have to earn my trust, I've seen too many people come and go in my life to put all my eggs in one basket...
 

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I don't really trust people. I've found that even people you think you know because they are your friends or your family members, can very easily betray you.
 

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I don't trust people easily anymore. You have to earn trust with me before it's granted.

I trust my husband (though long ago in our first year dating, he broke that trust by lying to me about visiting his ex after she had a baby, took me 4 days to figure it out, and it did take him time to earn it back).

I also fully trust maybe 1-2 of my friends, and my grandmother, that's about it.
 
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