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A stranger kissed my cat ??

post #1 of 23
1/31/11 at 2:31pm
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I was returning home from studying and my cat was across the street and a stranger was with it, and I noticed he picked it up and kissed it on the forehead .

Should I have reacted ? Said something ? or done nothing.
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post #2 of 23
1/31/11 at 2:39pm
Eh, it wouldn't bother me. But I would keep a hawk eye on that person.
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post #3 of 23
1/31/11 at 2:44pm
Well every morning when I take the kids to school and most days after school we talk to a kitty, it says her name is Tinker on her collar, I pick her up and give her a cuddle. I haven't kissed her but I would never think of stealin her, she is just a beautiful kitty and I look forward to seeing her. x
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post #4 of 23
1/31/11 at 3:26pm
I don't know.. what would you have said?

You may have read any of my threads or seen photos of our neighbor cat Mister, even though he doesn't have a collar or a microchip (i took him to the vet once and checked), we assume he probably has a home because we don't see him at night, and whenever I put out food for him he rarely eats any, but I do see him a lot of days in the mornings or afternoons. He hangs out in the back yard, lounging, chasing birds, using part of the garden as a litterbox (which i hate), and I play with him when I can, pet and scratch him, and just love him, and he headbutts me and loves me back. He and my cats sniff and chat through the screen door too. I would LOVE if someone saw me petting him (though it's only in the backyard..) and said 'Hey, I see you've met my cat, isn't he cool?' Because then I'd know for sure he's someone's.

That said, if I put food out and he scarfed it everytime, and looked beat up and really homeless, then I might just steal him. But since I feel like he's probably got a home, or at least is being looked after, we stay neighbor friends.
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post #5 of 23
1/31/11 at 3:44pm
If it bothers you, next time you can go up to your neighbor and introduce yourself and orally "claim" your cat.

"Hi! It seems like you and my cat get along really well!..."
Something along those lines. Don't be upset or accusatory! It just seems like your neighbor enjoys your cat and your cat didn't mind being picked up by him.

If you're worried about him feeding your cat something that shouldn't be fed... or anything you should talk to him about it.

Does your cat wear a collar?
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post #6 of 23
1/31/11 at 3:48pm
I don't know if I would have said anything; but I would be concerned about someone taking my cat. If your kitty doesn't wear I collar with a tag I could consider getting one; just to make it obvious that he/she (?) belongs to someone. My mother's cats always loose their collars though. :o\\ Mom has found them in the bushes around their house more than once!
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post #7 of 23
1/31/11 at 3:59pm
I'd scream RAPE and blow my whistle feverishly... and then wonder how my cat got outside.

Nah, sounds like a friendly gesture, wouldn't bother me.
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post #8 of 23
1/31/11 at 3:59pm
The key thing I saw in your message was that your cat was "across the street." I'd be more worried about him crossing the street than getting kissed by a stranger.
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post #9 of 23
1/31/11 at 4:02pm
That's why I will not have an outdoor cat, don't trust anyone touching them. After an old lady pulled Midnight out of his carrier at the vets. I don't even trust taking my eyes off of them at the vet!

Since the guy just picked your cat up and kissed him/her, I doubt he hurt him/her. But I'd watch him closely, especially now that he knows where to go to see your cat.
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post #10 of 23
1/31/11 at 4:33pm
When you say stranger, do you mean someone walking down the street, or someone living in the house your cat was in front of? If the person lives there, I would be fine with it since that is the risk you consciously run when allowing your cat to roam. Maybe it's because I grew up in a pretty rural area? Growing up, neighbors' dogs and cats (and horses... and a goat once) would wander into my yard a lot if I was outside playing, and I would always play with them, pet them, etc.

If it's a random person walking down the street, then I would probably watch through some blinds, and maybe say something if I think they're acting suspiciously.

If you're worried, next time go up to the person and be as friendly as possible. Talking to the person at all shows them you have seen them in the act, so you don't need to be confrontational at all with WHAT you say. Just say something like, "Hey, I see you're a cat lover too," or "You must be good with cats for my Mister to be so friendly" (even if it's not true and he's the most docile cat alive, it's an excuse to establish the fact that he's your cat without yelling "Hey, that's MY cat!"). If the person is up to no good they would immediately high-tail it out of there, and if the person is a cat lover, you have just made a new friend with your cat.
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post #11 of 23
1/31/11 at 4:44pm
I cuddle and will give a forehead kiss to Francis, who lives next door. He visits all the time and I've become very attached to him (he didn't always live next door, they took him in after he decided he didn't want to live with his previous owners...I would have taken him in, but couldn't under the circumstances). However, since he has a home next door, he's just my buddy.
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post #12 of 23
1/31/11 at 5:25pm
Perhaps this stranger had a cat similar to yours that had died and your cat reminded this person of their cat? I would have said something but kindly, like "Oh hello. See you've met my cat. Isn't he/she lovely?" That opens the way for conversation and perhaps the stranger was mourning for his cat and would have welcomed a chance to talk about him/her, perhaps even be persuaded to adopt a rescue cat.
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post #13 of 23
1/31/11 at 7:17pm
Um... the person might be a stranger to you but considering that you allow your cat to roam freely around the neighborhood, he might be a familiar face to your cat.
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post #14 of 23
1/31/11 at 7:38pm
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Originally Posted by Cosabella View Post
Um... the person might be a stranger to you but considering that you allow your cat to roam freely around the neighborhood, he might be a familiar face to your cat.


We feed our neighbors' cats, but it took a while before I even started petting them, though they are friendly. I can't imagine someone just kissing a cat they'd never seen before, not knowing how the cat might react. I bet this stranger and your cat know each other.
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post #15 of 23
1/31/11 at 9:10pm
Fuggles, I thought you didn't have a cat? When did you get it? You always posted as though you wanted to get one, or about the neighborhood cats... Did you finally do it? Cool! Don't forget to post pictures and tell us about it, you know we love seeing each others babies!!
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post #16 of 23
1/31/11 at 10:52pm
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Originally Posted by mrblanche View Post
The key thing I saw in your message was that your cat was "across the street." I'd be more worried about him crossing the street than getting kissed by a stranger.


I always give my neighbours cat Hamish a scritch when he follows me to the letterbox at the end of our street. I figure if cats are allowed to roam you can't really pick and choose what anyone does with them.
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post #17 of 23
2/1/11 at 1:57am
If it was a complete stranger, then i would be cautious after what this woman in the UK did

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england...shire-11068063

Yes, it's terrible to label everyone like her, but where my cats are concerned i trust no stranger unless i knew them
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post #18 of 23
2/1/11 at 5:00am
that's why I never let any of my cats go outside. You just don't have any control over what happens to them. I personally wouldn't like it. I never trusted anyone with my cats.
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post #19 of 23
2/1/11 at 10:21am
If you let your cat out without you as an escort, then he is having all sorts of experiences and relationships you don't know about and can't control.

Some of these could turn bad.

But how could you take issue with some person giving your cat affection? You are letting your cat decide who he associates with by letting him out. Let's just hope he's a good judge of character.

Robin
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post #20 of 23
2/1/11 at 3:33pm
Thread Starter 
its a street with no cars or road in it, if you know what i mean
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post #21 of 23
2/2/11 at 6:25am
I think that other people have made good points- if you see the person again you should strike up a conversation! If only to make a friend. :-)

There are a couple of cats around here that I stroke, and one cat near my work who I have cuddles with sometimes on my lunchbreak- he's called Jinks and the cutest little man you could imagine. When I first moved in there was a cat called Handsome who I swore was part Maine Coone, and I often sat with him on my lap in the evening when I went outside to read. I love the way that Outside cats make friends with people, and I think generally they are a good judge of character. There was one guy living a couple of doors down who a couple of times complained that Handsome didn't like him, and I remember thinking GOOD BOY HANDSOME because this guy was a drunk, and a mean drunk at that, and sometimes talked about hurting animals (kicking dogs that made too much noise, for example.)
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post #22 of 23
2/2/11 at 2:53pm
If I was petting a loving cat I saw in the street, and the owner accosted me for this, they would get a big earfull from me about how if they dont want strangers touching their pet, their pet shouldnt be roaming around the neighbourhood free, and how if they were truly concerned about the safety of their pet, it would not be running wild without supervision. IMO, it is incredibly irresponsible for cat owners to let their animals out to roam randomly through the neighbourhood, causing unknown destruction and undesired trespass on their neighbours. It would be ludicrous for a dog owner to do so, and Im sick and tired of the lack of concern from many owners when their cat is godknowswhereacrossstreetsetc when they arent even at home if something does happen.
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post #23 of 23
2/4/11 at 2:12am
I would love to see someone from my neighborhood kiss my cat, because people here hates cat....
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