The male cat constantly goes after my female cat almost all night long. Last night was particularly bad; lots of screaming and hissing, and even though both cats nails are clipped my cat drew blood trying to defend herself (the male has a scratch by his eye). We were up until almost 3 in the morning trying to keep them apart. We tried keeping my cat in our bedroom with us, but his started scratching at the door keeping us up until we had no choice but to open the door again, and when my cat left the room it caused yet another fight.
My cat canâ€™t do anything around the apartment anymore, not even sleep. At one point she was sleeping peacefully on our bed when the male jumped on her triggering another fight. He chews on her neck and back when she tries to sleep, pounces on and kicks her with his back legs when she tries walking anywhere, attacks her when sheâ€™s trying to use HER litter box (he hears her scratching at the litter and runs into the box), tries to attack her while sheâ€™s trying to hide from him behind the stove or kitchen table, itâ€™s just getting to be way too stressful!
Weâ€™ve tried many things to stop the fighting; spraying them with water, separating them, making loud noises, nothing stops it. His cat is from a shelter and when he adopted he said that his cat was kept separate from the others, and that the shelter workers did not know his history, except that itâ€™s possible he was abused. His cat has always been a bit on the aggressive and kind of on the strange side. He likes playing rough with everything, chews through wires and cables, and has a habit of meowing very loudly at closed doors for hours on end (including doors heâ€™s only seen opened once). He's always tried using a spray bottle to stop his cat from scratching, biting etc. but it never seems to have an affect on the cat; it works for a minute, then he's back at it. My cat meanwhile is nothing but a lap cat, just likes affection and likes to be affectionate. Iâ€™ve never seen her fight with another cat before, and I used to live with a room mate who had a kitten. I donâ€™t know if this brief history of both cats helps at all.
Last night my boyfriend started hinting at getting rid of both the cats (heâ€™s talked about getting rid of his before because sometimes he's just too much to handle, but I donâ€™t think he wants to put him back in a shelter out of fear he wonâ€™t be adopted). I know people who would gladly take my cat, but I really donâ€™t want to get rid of her. Sheâ€™s been with me for almost a year, and sheâ€™s a great destresser for me.
Basically, I donâ€™t want to ask him to give his cat away, but I donâ€™t want to give mine away either. We are moving into a new apartment at the end of the month, which Iâ€™m hoping will decrease the fighting as both cats will be in a new territory, but Iâ€™m worried one of them will get really hurt before then. Theyâ€™re usually fine during the day (a couple spats here and there, but nothing major) but at night itâ€™s just ridiculous.
Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated, weâ€™re at the end of our rope here!