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Hi, Ive done some research already but would really appreciate any advice or tips you can give.

This is my situation. I was with my ex for 3 years, during which time we adopted Pip (we were her third adoptive family). We all lived in his house. Pip is very affectionate to all humans and demanding of affection. My parents lived near to us (they have two very shy/soft/withdrawn cats) and we often visited and sometimes we would bring Pip. Pip was very agressive towards the two cats (hissing growling and a bit of chasing) they hid from her.

3 weeks ago me and my partner broke up and I now live with my parents and their cats. My ex said I could have Pip for part of the week but I thought this may be confusing for her so we agreed that Pip would stay with him until I get my own place which will be at the end of this year. But I miss her so much that we agreed that I would have stay with me, my parents and their cats for a weekend in Feb.

Anyway part of the reason we split was because he has someone else and from what he has said he isnt home much nowadays as he is with her and Pip is becomming increasingly demanding and naughty (probably because she is lonely as he is out alot and she isnt getting enough attention).

The crux is I want her to live with us until I can get a house for me and Pip- which will be probably Autumn/winter when I have enough cash. But Im frightened at how she will get on with the other two cats- they are not aggressive at all, they are very shy and soft and I dont think they would attack her but from past experiences she is very aggressive towards them and they hide from her avoiding any conflict.

I have researched how this would work and I can use my bedroom as a holding room for the first week (keeping her litter tray and toys in here) but there is always someone in the house as my dad is retired and is in all day so he could monitor the situation during the day and I would take over at night times and weekends. My plan was to keep Pip in my bedroom during the day for the first week and let her out during evenings when we are all there to supervise and then keep her in my bedroom during nights. But then I'd like to move her litter tray downstairs which would mean the cats potentially interracting at night and day times.

Id apprecite any advice or tips. Has anyone experienced this? How long did it take? If it didnt work out my ex would take her back until I get my own place but Im frightened she may be unhappy and I desparately dont want her to go back to shelter- thats not even an option. It has to work.

Please help.

Thanks for the advice.

Pip is here with me now but just for the weeked this time, Im also having her over for 4 days and 2 days this month and a whole week in March.

She arrived last night and it was very hard, I thought she didnt know who i was, initially there was lots of cuddles but later on she was getting quite hissy with me and jumpy, I suppose this is natural as its a new unfamiliar place.

She stayed in my room last night and most of the day. We've gone downstairs a few times to see the other cats and at first this went better than it ever has they were sitting in the same room with a bit of hissing at first and then just sitting at either end of the room with no fighting or hissing just keeping to their own end of the room. However, today I popped out with my mam for an hour, my dad and brother are in the house and she came downstairs and chased one of the their cats round the house, i think they are in some kind of power struggle, later on i went to get a cup of coffee from the kitchen and she followed me and then ran at the same cat and then they had a stand off until i stepped in and then she followed me back upstairs.

Im keeping her in my room with minimal visits downstairs.

Just wanted to give you an update. We had agreed that my ex would keep the cat until I had my own place but last weekend he told me that he wanted the cat out of his house by the end of March as his new girlfriend is moving in and apparently she has an allergy to "some" cats but only when she touches them apparently.

I was devastated and panic stricken as I was scared Pip couldnt settle here because of the other cats. But then I thought his actions have forced the issue and its all or nothing. After Pips last visit I refused to give her back to him- he is only going to evict her at the end of month any way so why not save her the upset of having to go back to him and then come back to me. He is texting me saying that he wants her back until April but Im not giving her back to him. I cant beleive he would give Pip up for someone who's only been in his life for 5 mins.

Pip's been here since Thursday night. She's been living in my room and i have a lock on the outside and inside of the door now. Ive taken her downstairs a few times and she has dashed out of the room a few times. There have been two occasions where all three cats have been able to sit in the one room but we have had a few chases too.

So Ive gone back to basics and nice and slow too. Im using the sock technique to stroke the other two cats and then Pip separately and she meaws at the sock and I thought she was going to attack my hand but she didnt, I can see this is going to take a while. I ordered some felaway plug ins as well...every little helps.

She does seem happy though and she gets lots of attention and she loves that the heating is always on here.

Fingers crossed for us.