I say go for it.
I had my first session with a communicator a couple months ago about Zoey's biting problem and to just chat with her/Zoey. I dont think she told me anything too fascinating, but she helped me to understand a bit why Zoey was biting and what I could do to help.
Here is the 'transcript' if anyone is curious!
|1. Why does Zoey bite me when she plays? I tell her NO! and it just seems to egg her on even more! How can I stop this, etc.
Mary told me that this is all she knows, from when she was little. She always played like that. Mary told her to be nice to me, that it hurts when she does that. Zoey says she is not trying to hurt me, she loves me. Mary told her that each day she goes without biting me that I will give her a treat. Zoey says she loves those treats. I told Mary that a couple times I will pick her up and put her in the bathroom for time out for about 10 minutes or so when she gets really excited and really trying to bite me. Mary saw that at least on one occasion I picked her up by her neck like a mom cat would do her kittens I did
As far as yelling at her NO and it just seems to egg her on, Mary said that this just excites her more and her adreniline just gets more active .. she gets off on me yelling She told me to gently tell her no, talk to her and show her mental images of her playing with me with her mouth closed and quietly. She says cats can see our mental images like pictures and if I picture her biting me she will think its ok. She says to look for the signs of her getting feisty or ready to bite me and immediately stop petting her or touching her.. then give her the mental images and softly tell her to 'be gentle'. That and to walk away from her when she gets like that or grab one of her toys for her to play with instead.
2. Does she like my boyfriend?
Well, not as much as me.. he's ok. But he seems to take some attention away from her. This may be why she seems to bite me more when he's here.
3. What is her favorite toy? (This was supposed to be kind of a trick question.. heh)
Mary says she loves all her toys but she prefers ones that let her run a distance, or chase, such as the laser. She really loves the feather on a stick and that seems to be her favorite toy. (Pretty accurate I'd say.. that and the laser are her favorites)
4. Why doesnt she let me pick her up? She hates it.. she meows and meows and even tries to bite me
She says the kids used to haul her around alot.. she feels vulnerable when I'm holding her or trying to cuddle with her. Mary says to start slowly and pick her up and put her down maybe 2 feet away. Do this little by little until she learns that I will not hurt her.
5. Does she enjoy chatting with me? We do this meowing chirping thing back and forth until she gets really excited and tries to pounce my face, but she never does, she just jumps at me and gets her nose up to my nose, occasionally gently swatting my face then runs away
Mary says Zoey loves it. Zoey says I try hard to mimick her but I'm not nearly as good as her She says when she jumps up and swats and runs away play time is over.
6. Can she sleep by my face or stomach at night rather than all the way at the end of the bed?
Mary says Zoey is funny about her personal space. She likes to be near me but she's not much of a cuddler. She likes to have her own space. (very true) For now she says to let her have her space... maybe in the future she will get more comfortable and sleep on my head or something
7. Is there anything else Zoey wants to say to me?
Zoey loves living with me.. she loves me and she's very happy to be with me. She does get bored sometimes (when I'm at work) and it would be nice to get her a buddy ya right.. like I can afford another cat
Mary says that Zoey wants to be a good cat.. I have to keep reminding her with mental pictures. Mary said she's an extremely active cat (yes very much so lol). She also told her that I said she was a good cat for using her scratching post.
Sooooooo all in all it was an interesting and learning experience if anything. I know what I have to do regarding the biting and after some time and some work hopefully she will stop eventually. She says putting her in the bathroom for timeouts is good when she gets really bad.. but to not let her get to that point. Always stop touching her when I see she's ready to bite. And boy I can always tell when she's ready to bite.
I've been giving Zoey a mixture of flower essences that Mary made for me in her food for the last couple months. Zoey's biting has decreased by 80% at least. I can now actually pet her and head bonk with her quite often without her goin for my hands
I know that doesnt have anything to do with your peeing problem
but since this is a communicator thread I thought I'd share my experience