Remember about Lucy?

Ugh. Well, I don't think I can wait till next year to tell him the room mate he doesn't have a cat. It is 8 am now, and a few minutes ago Lucy started crying. She does this when she hears people in the living room, she HATES being locked up and wants to be with them.

Today upon being awoken by his crying cat, the roommate got up and grumbled at her like normal. But then, it really sounded like he was hitting her. I could be wrong, but I don't think so. He then opened his door and said, in a very fake whiny, mocking voice, "Here ya go baaaby!"

It bothers me a lot, to say the least. Pat is going to confront him when he gets up over it. It makes me wonder now, if the reason she is so distant and less friendly then the other kitties is because of him treating her this way.

What do you think? Would that treatment make her less social? Or does she just have a different personality? It is really bugging me now that I might have left her in that situation when she didn't have to be in it.

That is a classic way to drive cats away from people. Save her if you can.

That cat sounds like she's being abused! Get her out of there! Pronto!

Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

That cat sounds like she's being abused! Get her out of there! Pronto!

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Ditto...save this poor baby.

Oh no. I know you will do what you can to get that poor little dear out of there.

People like that make me sick!

for that Lucy girl.

Oh God! Can you take her? I mean, she is in the house anyways...
Also, can you kick him out? I would not like my cats anywhere near this individual!

Sadly, for now there is not much we can do other then yell at him. It is his house, and we are staying with him. There aren't really any apartments that we can rent that we could afford that would allow three cats and a dog. So, we are stuck, and we can't kick him out. She is most definitely coming with us next year though. It makes me sad if she is suffering till then.

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Sadly, for now there is not much we can do other then yell at him. It is his house, and we are staying with him. There aren't really any apartments that we can rent that we could afford that would allow three cats and a dog. So, we are stuck, and we can't kick him out. She is most definitely coming with us next year though. It makes me sad if she is suffering till then.

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Can she be put under your ownership until then? can you talk to him, if he doesn't like her, you'd be glad to take her?
I am assuming he doesn't do this with your cats... So if she is yours, he wouldn't right?

Originally Posted by Carolina

Can she be put under your ownership until then? can you talk to him, if he doesn't like her, you'd be glad to take her?
I am assuming he doesn't do this with your cats... So if she is yours, he wouldn't right?

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At the vet's office she is mine. The only way she is his, is that we said he could have her once upon a time when I first got the kittens. DH is going to discuss this with him. We have tried before when he "taught her a lesson" by locking her in his room when she wouldn't "stay" when he told her to. He doesn't understand that cat's don't work like dogs. I am going to give him an ultimatum. Either treat her right or she is no longer his.

We are pretty sure he is autistic to some degree, just based on the way he interacts with people/his television. He is very passive aggressive. He has something against Ringo. If he is sitting on the mouse tank, or in a chair, the roommate will walk by and push him off. I have yelled at him for this. But, he doesn't understand the fact that cats are cats. They do not act out to make you angry, or to bother you. They are just being cats.

Since she is yours, I would not give him an ultimatum - I would immediately take her away. Once is enough, and you don't want her to go through this again to be taken away, IMO...
Just take her... she is yours, he had his chance, keep him away from the kitties....

He's hitting her, and abusing her, you have to get Lucy away from him. You can't just sit there an let this happen to her. You need to do more then just yell at your room mate (obviously that isn't stopping him.) You need to get Lucy out of there, away from him for good.

Originally Posted by My4LLMA

He's hitting her, and abusing her, you have to get Lucy away from him. You can't just sit there an let this happen to her. You need to do more then just yell at your room mate (obviously that isn't stopping him.) You need to get Lucy out of there, away from him for good.

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If it were that easy, it would have happened all ready. I don't know for sure that he hit her anyway. He is a weird guy. It sounded like it, but who knows?

And Carolina, he has paid some for food/litter/ vet bills for her. He gave me cash, or we would take it out of the rent. I don't know how that would effect things if he tried to fight in some way (which I doubt he would). Plus, if I piss him off, we have no where to live.

I have to agree with Carolina.... This is bad.

Just take the little one away. If you want to try to keep it civil you can tell him that he seems to not enjoy her as much as you thought that he would and that you will take her from here. Just smile while you say it and he should take it as a favor not as an attack on his abilities to take care of an animal....

If he insists that it's ok she is his kitty thats when you need to remind him that cats don't behave like dogs at all. They are very independent and like to climb and play. Even if he's not hitting her, cats are very smart and she is picking up his mocking and hateful tones. This will make her very antisocial too because honestly, it's emotional abuse....

It looks like he doesn't even like cats because of how he treat Ringo (pushing him off of a MOUSE cage? A mouse cage to kitty = vidio games to children (and some adults). Of course they are going to interact! lol, thats what thier toys are even modeled after. (Lucky kitties to have live mice to watch )

If you do get custody of her and he still mistreats her you may want to look at rehoming her. I know it's a hard thought, but at least she's not in harms way anymore.

Also, I'm not so sure he's autistic. My brother is autistic and he ADORES animals. Most autistic kids are very loving. All the ones in my brothers groups are... I hate to say it, but the guy just sounds kinda slow and mean...

Sorry that this was so long winded. I really hope that everything works out. Maybe you taking her off of his hands will lighten his stress and make him for kitty friendly....

major vibes to the whole household...

You have to decide for yourself what you can do and what is right for you to do.

This is what I would do. I would be actively, very seriously, be looking for a place for my family to move out and away from this man, very, VERY soon. AND, I would remove Lucy from him, NOW. Then I would contact the authorities, and tell them what you have said here. Where I live, animal abuse is a crime, and is not dealt with lightly.

If I didn't want to deal with the authorities, Lucy would still be gone from the house, by tomorrow. Let him call the police for stealing his cat. And then let him explain what you have seen and heard. I doubt he'd do that

Good luck to you, Lucy, and your animals. I think this man is dangerous. Dangerous to animals, and humans.

Robin

I agree you should get Lucy away from him if you believe she is being abused. But I also understand the difficult situation you are in with not having anywhere to live, been there done that.

Perhaps for now you could offer to let Lucy sleep with you and the other kitties? The two incidents you have described to us have been because she wakes him up too early. If the only time he is really spending time with her is at night when he locks her in his room, perhaps it would reduce his interactions with her and make taking her with you later easier? Just trying to think of ways to help Lucy without rocking the roommate boat too much....

Good luck. Many

Originally Posted by CruiserMaiden

I agree you should get Lucy away from him if you believe she is being abused. But I also understand the difficult situation you are in with not having anywhere to live, been there done that.

Perhaps for now you could offer to let Lucy sleep with you and the other kitties? The two incidents you have described to us have been because she wakes him up too early. If the only time he is really spending time with her is at night when he locks her in his room, perhaps it would reduce his interactions with her and make taking her with you later easier? Just trying to think of ways to help Lucy without rocking the roommate boat too much....

Good luck. Many

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Yeah, I am going to try to start getting her before he goes to bed. I do it whenever possible, and I am sure she likes it. The only reason she wakes him up is because she hears me, Pat, and her brothers in the living room.

Thank you for the help everyone, I am honestly doing what I can for Lucy. If I could rehome her in a GOOD home, I would. Sadly, there are always tons of cats on craigslist. No one wants a kitty that is no longer an adorable kitten, and I don't want that type to have her anyway.

Oh dear, this is so sad, I don't think I would be able to stop myself from punching him to be honest and I don't really agree with violence, something needs to be done and quick, he could really hurt this little girl.x

I beg of you to please do everything in your power to rescue/remove Lucy from this situation. I recently posted a story about something a roommate did to my beautiful little girl many years ago. You can search for it, but I won't recount it here again.

even if it means getting her into a rescue, and you maybe losing the chance to have her - you have to help her if he won't leave her alone. A cat possibly being tormented relentlessly is so unfair to this poor girl, and her scars from it will be permanent.

Abuse doesn't necessarily mean she is being hit, or kicked. Or, even something you can hear. Abuse comes in all forms and this girl certainly sounds like she is having a very rough time in life. Please help her.

I can guarantee you if you find out this girl is being abused in ways you didn't realize further down the line you'll regret it everyday. Isn't there a way you can get out of your lease and find a new roommate? surely if he is hurting Lucy you can threaten him with going to the police or the ASPCA.

If you want to PM me about my old thread - please feel free to do so. If it means I can help a cat out like in a way I couldnt for my Molly I will.

Do you think he would sell Lucy to you? I know it really sounds awful, paying an abuser, but maybe if you explained how much she meant to you, he'd do it.

Originally Posted by nurseangel

Do you think he would sell Lucy to you? I know it really sounds awful, paying an abuser, but maybe if you explained how much she meant to you, he'd do it.

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That was what just popped to my mind. Being that you all live in the same place, just tell him you've really fallen in love with her, and you'd like to buy her back or something.

But I'm with Robin - I'd be searching for a new place to live, not waiting.



...and because it's just such a difficult situation!