Update on my father

Following his fall and fractured hip, my father is still in hosptial, unable to stand on his feet and only sporadically feeding himself. The doctors now agree that he should not go back to the Home where he was before, as they cannot cope with non-walking patients. So my sister has been to collect his clothes and cancelled the contract. But the doctors upset my mother yesterday by saying that they do want him out of hospital as soon as possible and that he is now officially homeless! She was in tears last night with some kind of vision of him being dumped on the street. I took a long time to reassure her that he will be kept in hospital until a suitable nursing home is arranged. I know medical staff are busy and overworked but surely they should learn to choose their words more carefully when speaking to very elderly and worried relatives. My mother is still bright at 96, but she does not take everything in first time, especially in a confusing place like a hospital.

How thoughtless can people be? Hopefully your sister finds the right home for him soon, and there's some improvement in his mobility.

When my mom had Alzheimers, she was admitted to a hosp from home because she had become violent. The gentlest person in the world.....

The hospital said she was going to be discharged, but I was unable to bring her to my home due to the violence and extreme care she needed.

There was no way the hospital would just discharge her without anywhere to go. My goodness. It is up to them to place your dad. Honestly, their "bedside manner" leaves a lot to be desired.

We have been where you are, and I am keeping you in my prayers.

You are in a difficult enough situation without dealing with thoughtless comments from doctors! I know just what you are going through, it's really really tough, make sure to take care of yourself, too.

That was very insensitive of them to say that.

The doctors had no right saying that, and upsetting everyone. They may be doctors, but they can be very careless sometimes.

Talk about thoughtless!!! I hope your sister is able to find a home for your father without too much fuss.

What a horrible thing for that doctor to say. You and your family will be in my prayers.

Oh your poor mum!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And I'm just so sorry about how things have progressed with your father. It just makes the heart hurt all the way around.



And continued !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How frustrating and stressful! Praying for all involved. Hope your dad is better soon.

Sending my prayers to your parents Jenny

What a really tough situation for your family... Continuing to send vibes hun.

Wow, no bedside manner there.

I hope you can find something for your dad.