Disgusted, Shocked, Shaking... - Page 2  

I'm as horrified as everyone else. But not shocked. This kind of thing goes on. It's one reason I'll never let my cats outside. There are sickos among us. Everywhere.

I think not responding will just make her think she didn't reach you. Or that you were so devastated you couldn't respond. I wouldn't give her that satisfaction. This woman is a sadist. She enjoys making others suffer. It is evil and it is sick, sick, sick, but not forgivable (only by God) I say.

I would respond very, very briefly and without emotion in an e-mail. I'd say something like that I could never forgive such cruel sadistic behavior done to my innocent sweet cat who I loved. I'd tell her that she doesn't deserve forgiveness. I'd say that she may never contact me again, and tell her that if she does, I will turn over a transcript of her e-mail to the police and animal protection authorities in the jurisdiction where this happened. You have a written confession of animal cruelty. Around here, in Illinois, people are going to jail for such things. Thank, God! (Though the situations are recent and often worse.)

After the short, calm, but powerful e-mail from me, I'd let it go, unless she has children. Then I would consider it imperative to contact the police where she lives, or the Department of Children and Family Services, or whoever is the authority in charge of child welfare where she is. Because someone who does this to animals will do this to children.

I'm so very sorry this happened to you and your poor Molly. It's just heartbreaking.

Robin

What a repulsive disgusting person she is. Someone should do to her, what she's done to your cat. Or what she's probably done to other cats, and animals. What a pig.

This is why I don't trust anyone around my pets, even when I only had fish. Anyone who comes through the door, is very closely watched.

Hopefully she doesn't have any children, she'd be like those mothers that poison their kids so they can get attention.

Speaking of getting attention. Is it possible she's just looking for attention? and she just said those things to get a response from you? and doing similar to other people she knew, to get attention from them as well?

I'm appalled - my heart just sank to read of this nightmare. I'm crying and wish I had never read about what your baby had to endure.

First: You can not blame yourself - who could ever consider this evil could be done by a "friend".

Second: Did she ask for forgiveness? If so, this "confession" just happened and you're trying to believe you're reading what you're reading. It's too soon to even think about forgiving her even IF she asked for it.

For yourself, though - for your health, you'll need to -eventually- reach deep and forgive her, it may take a few years, or a lifetime - and, I suggest counseling to help you cope.

Third: Could it be possible this is just a story and she's trying to find another way to hurt you?

This animal cruelty is just evil - and we all know that IF she did this, these evil actions go from animals to humans.

Shoot, I think I need counseling after reading what she is confessing to.
You don't need to answer her now, I'd wait a few years or more.

There are no words.

OMG! Poor kitty!!!!

I know one of the 12 steps in the 12 step program to getting and staying clean is to confess and to take ownership of your wrong doings. She's doing that. Which is good.

However, that doesn't mean you need to forgive her. Just thank her for telling you but you are horrified that she would do that to a defenseless animal, and that you will never ever forgive her for what she did to your kitty, and tell her to never contact you again or you will take what she said to the police and charge her with animal abuse. In fact I would be inclined to do just that anyway! What she did is despicable!

Whether she did this due to drugs/alcohol, wouldn't make any difference to me. She abused a poor helpless animal, and people like that have no place in my life, nor should they have a place in yours or anyone else's.

If you want a moderator to lock the thread, just ask them to do so.

Sounds like you did the best thing already as far as responding to her.

I know that some people believe that one has to forgive others who have done us wrong or somehow we are always burdened by this unforgiving of ours. Some people here have posted this. This is a philosophical or religious view that I have never understood and I don't agree with. Actually, I think it is wrong, even immoral, to forgive things that are so terrible. Let God and The Saints do it, or punish it, as they see fit. This is something that cannot be fixed, no matter what the person says or feels now.

A good therapist is a great answer for you to help you with your grief over this. You didn't do anything wrong. I thoroughly believe that cats are spiritual creatures that see and understand far more than we can realize. I believe that they don't ever really leave us when they "pass." And I'm talking about here and now, not at "The Bridge". I believe love is eternal and transcends life. I believe Molly knows, even now, that you didn't know what was happening, and that you weren't responsible. She does not blame you. You loved her, and she knows that, even now.

It may help you to have "a conversation" with Molly, now.

RIP little Molly, beloved kitty.

Peace for you, too, Molly's person.


Robin

I'm pleased you had the final word. If you haven't done it already i would block her e-mail address so she can't contact you again.

As requested, i'll lock this thread now