Hiya im new to this site. i have 3 beautiful cats! a ginger and white tom called Rubix.. a Ginger tom called Garfield... A black female called Dolcee and a little tabby tom called Tikka.
i am after some advice and wasnt sure where to post. we moved house around a year ago, and most my cats settled well. 2 strayed off - one got knocked down and the other is still out there somewhere i hope... keeping some farmers barn mice free. or so i like to think..
around a month ago my female cat Dolcee started staying out longer and longer. sometimes it would be days before i would see her again. she went off one day and i didnt see her for a week. i began to panic and looked around the neighbourhood and asked people, but no one seen her. i decided i would advertise her being missing in the paper. but that morning my neighbour said they thought they saw her down by the school, and later that day i saw her in the back yard but without her collar on. - i have a magnetic catflap so i presumed that was why i hadnt seen her. i thought she had lost her collar and could get in.
anyway long story short a female black cat was found in my village and advertised in the local paper. i rang them and decided to go and see if it was her. thank god it was my cat. an old couple had taken her in and taken her collar off as they dont like collars on cats! they had been letting her come and go for nearly two weeks! i explained that she couldnt get in my house without the collar. i told them they must not feed her or let her in the house again as she will now class them as her owner.. i took her home and she wasnt herself at all. i kept her in for almost 3 weeks. she slowly began to came around and was herself again and desperate to get out.
i let her out and the old couple phoned me again to say she had gone straight back to their house. only the old woman was complaining at me and saying i must be mean to her for her to keep coming to her house. i explained that its their fault because they feed her. i mean really who takes in a cat who has a collar? - they obviously have an owner! i told them theyy had to scare her, i couldnt keep coming to get her as she would keep going there. they assured me they would bang saucepans to scare her away.
a few days passed and the old woman rang me again.. shouting the odds saying my cat had been up her house all day. it was now dark and why wasnt i out looking for her! i explained to the lady that my cats come and go as they please.. they dont have a curfew. she then complained at me saying she doesnt want her. i was said good job cause she is my cat and she isnt going to have her. she refuses to scare her away.
a few weeks have passed and today i had another call from the couple. i sent my husband as i was to angry. they ring me up and complain that my cat is around there. yet they feed her and let her in! my husband went to collect her and she is curled up on the sofa asleep. my cat has got really fat and im now worried about her weight! i cant keep her in all the time. im at the end of my tether.
it frustrates me that they moan cus my cat is around there house. so why feed her? why let her in? my cat cant get home if she is shut in your living room for god sakes!! they want me to stop my cat from going down there.. when they dont understand its there fault for enticing her in.
the couple own a cat themselves and when my husband went around there he said there were 6 bowls of food down and 3 cats meowing at her door to go in. so i guess she does it alot. i just dont know what to do.
i know a cat will chose its home.. i cant stop her from doing this. but they refuse to scare her and keep on enticing her... and yet they moan at me they dont want her..
sorry its so long but does anyone have any advice at all? im bashing my head against a brick wall here.
i am after some advice and wasnt sure where to post. we moved house around a year ago, and most my cats settled well. 2 strayed off - one got knocked down and the other is still out there somewhere i hope... keeping some farmers barn mice free. or so i like to think..
around a month ago my female cat Dolcee started staying out longer and longer. sometimes it would be days before i would see her again. she went off one day and i didnt see her for a week. i began to panic and looked around the neighbourhood and asked people, but no one seen her. i decided i would advertise her being missing in the paper. but that morning my neighbour said they thought they saw her down by the school, and later that day i saw her in the back yard but without her collar on. - i have a magnetic catflap so i presumed that was why i hadnt seen her. i thought she had lost her collar and could get in.
anyway long story short a female black cat was found in my village and advertised in the local paper. i rang them and decided to go and see if it was her. thank god it was my cat. an old couple had taken her in and taken her collar off as they dont like collars on cats! they had been letting her come and go for nearly two weeks! i explained that she couldnt get in my house without the collar. i told them they must not feed her or let her in the house again as she will now class them as her owner.. i took her home and she wasnt herself at all. i kept her in for almost 3 weeks. she slowly began to came around and was herself again and desperate to get out.
i let her out and the old couple phoned me again to say she had gone straight back to their house. only the old woman was complaining at me and saying i must be mean to her for her to keep coming to her house. i explained that its their fault because they feed her. i mean really who takes in a cat who has a collar? - they obviously have an owner! i told them theyy had to scare her, i couldnt keep coming to get her as she would keep going there. they assured me they would bang saucepans to scare her away.
a few days passed and the old woman rang me again.. shouting the odds saying my cat had been up her house all day. it was now dark and why wasnt i out looking for her! i explained to the lady that my cats come and go as they please.. they dont have a curfew. she then complained at me saying she doesnt want her. i was said good job cause she is my cat and she isnt going to have her. she refuses to scare her away.
a few weeks have passed and today i had another call from the couple. i sent my husband as i was to angry. they ring me up and complain that my cat is around there. yet they feed her and let her in! my husband went to collect her and she is curled up on the sofa asleep. my cat has got really fat and im now worried about her weight! i cant keep her in all the time. im at the end of my tether.
it frustrates me that they moan cus my cat is around there house. so why feed her? why let her in? my cat cant get home if she is shut in your living room for god sakes!! they want me to stop my cat from going down there.. when they dont understand its there fault for enticing her in.
the couple own a cat themselves and when my husband went around there he said there were 6 bowls of food down and 3 cats meowing at her door to go in. so i guess she does it alot. i just dont know what to do.
i know a cat will chose its home.. i cant stop her from doing this. but they refuse to scare her and keep on enticing her... and yet they moan at me they dont want her..
sorry its so long but does anyone have any advice at all? im bashing my head against a brick wall here.
Much better option IMO.
It's safer...and they do learn to enjoy their indoor lives. Invest in some windowsill benches or something, and a bird-feeder right outside their favorite window, and it's like TV for cats! Interactive toys will help, too...nothing like a twitching, cheeping toy to make them think they're Mighty Hunters again. 
