Should I take my sister's 12 year old cat?

The day after aki my 2 and half year old cat died she offered me her senior cat. I was offended in multiple ways and shocked as you just dont do that to a cat of that age. Both her and my dad keep bringing it up, now my dad claims he is going take her as my sister's dogs are just too rough with her even though they lived together for over two years now and suddenly now this topic keeps getting brought up.

My stepmother does not like cats, they will be gone for many ten day stretches up north and their last cat acted out being left alone that much and she had it put down.

While I am still grieving and unsure if I should even have a cat again I kinda feel if she is that serious I maybe the best option for this cat. What do you guys think? I just keep hoping my sister would find a way to give her senior cat the proper final years with the only home she knows. I also feel like I have lost confidence myself taking care of a cat. Unless you had a cat with health issues that never resolve their whole life, its hard to explain how guilty you feel that you can never fix it no matter how much money or time you sink into it and I had such a tight bond with my little buddy I almost feel like I will compare every cat I see to him for the rest of my days.

I think our hearts are resilliant. They break, but they mend....over and over and over to the ends of time.

I think you are the person for this cat. Dont shut out the happiness another little one can give you. Many of here on the forum have lost and found. And I have never heard one say they cannot love again.

Sounds to me like this kitty has become an inconvenience and she is trying to give her away.

I agree, a 12 year old cat should not be shuffled around like used baggage. And if your Mom takes her, she will be left alone for 10 days at a time !

If you have the room, I think that you should take her and give her a loving home for the time that she has left. Your heart always has room for one more. This love never gets replaced, it's just added.

Maybe this is your little buddy working from the Rainbow Bridge to give a needy kitty the same love and care he got - I think Natalie's words were beautiful, and wise - this kitty would never replace your baby, but you sound like a person whose heart has enough room for one more. And don't doubt yourself - it's a human thing to do, we all do it - but remember that love is the most important thing in a home.

And, who knows - maybe in offering shelter to this kitty, she'll help heal the empty spot in your heart.

I think it might be best for this cat if you were to take her. It sounds like your sister does want to get rid of her. If your father takes her, sounds like she will be alone for long stretches of time. Whatever you guys decide I hope the decision is made in the cat's best interest.

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I think you are the person for this cat. Dont shut out the happiness another little one can give you. Many of here on the forum have lost and found. And I have never heard one say they cannot love again.

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Originally Posted by farleyv

I think our hearts are resilliant. They break, but they mend....over and over and over to the ends of time.

I think you are the person for this cat. Dont shut out the happiness another little one can give you. Many of here on the forum have lost and found. And I have never heard one say they cannot love again.

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Wise words.

This little one at least appears to be unwanted and thus in need of a loving home, or maybe the dogs really have gotten to be too much on her. I'd say give her a chance and open up your heart to her.

Take the cat. She needs to be in a home with someone who cares about her. The people she is with now obviously don't.

Wow was this a mistake. She is back with my sister. 48hrs of howling, vomiting her dry kibble and complete sadness. Any longer and I feared I was about to watch a second cat die in less then 40 days. As I thought you just dont do this to a 12 year old cat. I had tears in my eyes watching her howling by my patio door and when my sister finally came back the life came back into her.
My sister is just going have realize she only has a few years left with someone completely devoted to her and dependent on her and make time with her away from her two big dogs. Sometimes you really need to think before adding more animals.
Myself this kinda messed me up more as I could have done without the vomiting. 2008 my first cat died after vomiting white foamy stuff, spent years before doing tests but they never found a problem and figured old age at 13. Aki and all his food allergies and issues until he could no longer eat teaspoon of food without gut retching howling and yellow liquids all over. Now less then 24 hours and my sister cat starts vomiting too in my apartment? Hard not take it personally or get paranoid but maybe I just shouldn't be having cats.

I am sorry this did not go well. It must have been very hard to watch her being miserable. One day some little paws will walk into your life that need you desperately. Your babies at the Bridge will guide you. I hope your heart begins to feel less pain soon, and you will remember the good times.

I'm sorry this didn't work out for you, or for your sister's cat. That was a lot of change, and stress for a 12 year old cat.

I'm so sorry hun. I know it hurt and heightened fresh wounds, so to speak, but you did the right thing in trying. I hope your sister gives her the love and attention she deserves.

for you - for all of you.

Wow. You've been through a lot. And for a sensitive, caring soul, like you (it is so obvious), this is all just too painful.

It was very good of you to try to make it work for your sister's cat. You did the right thing. I hope she realizes now that she has a responsibility to this senior cat to give it the comfort and dignity we all hope for in our elderly time.

You need time to heal and to get over your grief. Sometimes it takes a very long time. I lost a cat last May, and I am far from over the grieving. Give yourself time and be kind to yourself. Nothing that happened is your fault. It was bad luck. And maybe, those poor cats you lost needed you to love and care for them through their illnesses. You were their comfort and protector. That you couldn't protect them from death is not what matters. What matters is that you tried to help them as much as possible. Those kitty angels are still with you and love you now and always for loving and caring for them.

In time a cat will come along who is right for you and your aching heart. He or she will help to fill the hole that hurts you so much still. None of them ever take the place of another. The heart is a house with many rooms. But you will love a cat again and find joy in that. Give it time.

Most cats, and I've had quite a few in my life, live long and healthy lives. You've had a string of bad luck. But bad luck doesn't last. Love does.

Robin

I'm so sorry this didn't work out for you. Never lose confidence in your ability to care for kitties, it will always be there when you need it most. I hope you are feeling better about this soon.

Why did my sister's cat who only ate like 20 of her hard kibble sporadically for 30hrs vomit three times though? The stress? I see a pattern here either alot cats vomit easily or I am kinda cursed with it or there is something wrong. I checked my paint its post lead days, my water is special filtered culligan, not even tap water. My carpet I suppose needs a professional cleaning after ten years I just figured it being so thin the vacuum was enough. There is no known hidden environmental situation that could make cats vomit and deathly ill?

I got use to scrubbing down the apartment with a wet rag every 48hrs because the last vet was blaming dust mites for aki's nonstop ear bacterial fungus yeast infections and scratching when the last resort the Z/D diet failed to work. Even though we found him with that stuff outside way before he entered my place and most of his ear scratching, paw licking/biting and stomach crouching was immediately after digestion. Besides the fact of lip swelling cant see how that is environmental that proves food side to me. The dust comes back so fast with all the electronics and how little cross circulation there is in this small apartment but still it's only dust which most cats I imagine are exposed to.

My manager laughed at the idea I could have anything truly dangerous hidden in my apartment like black mold, it would surely have shown itself if it made my first cat sick as far back as 2006 and there has never been water damage here, actually lack of humidity and dryness issue if anything. Plus she said the symptoms are more lung respiratory related and it does not match the only two known cases of mold toxicity in cats.

In her case it may have just been caused by stress. She's an older cat, in an unfamiliar place, with an unfamiliar person. She was probably scared, didn't understand what was going on.

How is she now that she's back home? If she's still sick, maybe there is a health problem going on, and she should be seen by a vet.