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post #1 of 29
12/31/10 at 9:28pm
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Are you a touchy feely type of person or do you not like to be touched? I am an odd ball I only want the people I want to touch me and when I want them to. I love my family but my mom's side of the family we all pile up on top of each other and dad's side is very distant so I guess its why I am like I am. I am even funny about who sits beside me. I have been talking to this guy and he says I need to get out of that but its just how I have always been. My baby cousin is 17 and she still tries to sit in my lap, but my friend's ex boyfriend he would go to sit beside me and I would make him sit somewhere else I am so odd I will stand rather than sit by someone I am uncomfortable with. And if I am comfy with you I can't get enough hugs and such from you. And I am fine with kids, provided they don't look like they been sucking on a sow cause they are so dirty.
So are you touchy feely or not or am I not really an oddball.
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post #2 of 29
12/31/10 at 11:22pm
I'm not at all touchy-feely, but don't have any problem with people sitting next to me. You get used to it using public transport or flying by yourself.
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post #3 of 29
12/31/10 at 11:38pm
I dislike being touched and REALLY hate people being in my bubble (within an arms reach). I have no problem with Kara and Greyson being close to me now but 10 years ago I would be uncomfortable even getting a hug.
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post #4 of 29
12/31/10 at 11:46pm
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Originally Posted by G_Wayne View Post
I dislike being touched and REALLY hate people being in my bubble (within an arms reach). I have no problem with Kara and Greyson being close to me now but 10 years ago I would be uncomfortable even getting a hug.
Now with my family, especially on mom's side we never leave each other with hugging but dad's side never hugs its weird because I am kind of split because of it I am selectively a touchy person.
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post #5 of 29
1/1/11 at 2:36am
far as hugging I only hug husband and my mom if she initiates it. far as touching arm I do that to friends and don't care if they do it back. When I was in middle/high school it drove me nuts the girls "omg i missed you SOOOO much!!!" hugging in halls...seriously you saw her at most friday and its monday. They did a no hugging thing cause it would clog up the ppl in halls as we had 4 minutes to go from class to class
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post #6 of 29
1/1/11 at 2:55am
I didnt used to be a touchy feely person but when I moved to France 22 years ago that started to change. Over here there is a lot of kissing going on so you get used to getting closer to people than you normally would be used to. When I worked at the local factory every day I kissed at least 20people (and that is 4 kisses each in this area of france) so you get used to people coming into your space. The strange thing is I still dont feel comfy kissing most english people as it is not our custom.
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post #7 of 29
1/1/11 at 5:18am
I'm somewhere in-between with the girls at work well some of us its a quick kiss and cuddle to say bye same with some of the regulars but its only people I know well at home not so much we just say bye to each other
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post #8 of 29
1/1/11 at 7:01am
It depends.....as we've gotten older, my family is very huggy. (Which is a good thing.)

I'll hug some of my friends, depending on what's going on and how close we are.

For people I don't know well, I prefer to keep them at least at arm's reach.
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post #9 of 29
1/1/11 at 8:16am
I come from a mostly Italian family (the German side doesn't live nearby), so there was a lot of kisses and hugs. I used to hug all my friends all the time. Now I don't hug as many friends as often as I did back in high school, but I'm very touchy feely when it comes to Rob He comes from a not-as-touchy family, so he was caught off guard with my family in the beginning, but always told me he wanted to be smothered with touchy-feely from me. His family has gotten more "huggy" over the years I've been with him though.
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post #10 of 29
1/1/11 at 9:03am
No, I'm not a very touchy/feely person. I like my own space, and I rarely hug people, even my brother. However, Abby gets hugs and cuddles all of the time!!
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post #11 of 29
1/1/11 at 9:11am
I very much dislike being touched. And if I do get hugged, they have to ask my permission first. I don't mind shaking hands.
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post #12 of 29
1/1/11 at 10:28am
The only person I liked getting hugs from was my great grandmother. I don't really get hugs from other family members, and don't want them. I don't like hugs from friends. I loved every hug Lynxx ever gave me. I'd welcome hugs from Luna and Midnight.
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post #13 of 29
1/1/11 at 12:59pm
I don't like being touched. If someone is huggy, I'll tolerate it a little bit to be polite but I don't like it. It makes me anxious. You know how some people like to hold hands during prayers? The extended contact makes me feel like my head is about to explode, LOL. I don't mind people sitting next to me, as long as there's no actual touching. Of course, the rules don't apply to small children and animals.
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post #14 of 29
1/1/11 at 1:04pm
I'm a hugger, I don't really have personal space issues, but I respect others.

Gary's become a hugger too, and it's really funny when we take companies marketing in NY. We always hug our friends (the people they're meeting) - and interestingly, in the end all it does is impress them at how close our relationships with people are. (Hugs aren't a usual form of greeting on Wall Street ).
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post #15 of 29
1/1/11 at 1:19pm
For those of you that aren't touchy/feeley.... do you mind virtual hugs?
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post #16 of 29
1/1/11 at 1:27pm
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Originally Posted by LDG View Post
I'm a hugger, I don't really have personal space issues, but I respect others.

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I am a hugger too. I respect other people not wanted to be hugged, but If you are one my kids tough luck cause I am and going to hug you anyways. My son hates to be hugged, but he gives me a hug goodnight everynight. he does it for me.
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post #17 of 29
1/1/11 at 1:30pm
I'm really not a touchy-feely person, but as I've grown older have evolved into more of a hugger, especially if it's a matter of comforting somebody, expressing happiness at seeing them, saying good-bye or something to that effect.
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post #18 of 29
1/5/11 at 10:31pm
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I guess I am not the only odd one, what everyone thinks is funny about me is the selective touchy feeliness. I guess you will get used to me or not.
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post #19 of 29
1/6/11 at 8:44am
I'm in theatre - we're all huggers. In our theatre company, we hug each other as soon as we get together, we hug and cheek-kiss goodbye. My family is also very "huggy".

I do have problems, though, with people I don't know very well doing it, and always manage to keep my "personal space". In my part-time job, which is also theatre-related, there are some people in the office I will want to hug, and others....not so much.
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post #20 of 29
1/6/11 at 2:00pm
I'm kind of in between. If I don't know someone I don't really want them hugging me or anything like that, but don't have a problem with someone sitting next to me. I only hug people that I know well.
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post #21 of 29
1/6/11 at 2:12pm
Sadly, I detest being touched because I hate static electricity and I don't like the risk of getting zapped. If static electricity were *not* a part of life, I think I'd be a touchy feely expressive huggy person. At least I know the reason, but it's still *sad*. I think I posted this before and felt odd about admitting it because it's so oddball/embarassing - yet true - and it's still embarassing now to say it again. I expect there will be no static in Heaven. Please, God. Whenever I don't get shocked by my cats (which thankfully is more than 99 percent of the time), I always quietly thank God in my head. Yes, it's that serious with me.
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post #22 of 29
1/6/11 at 2:20pm
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Originally Posted by LDG View Post
.... do you mind virtual hugs?

Love 'em Laurie The more the merrier
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post #23 of 29
1/6/11 at 8:41pm
If it someone I know well and like, they can hang on me like a cheap suit, but if I don't know or like someone, they will not invade my bubble. I especially hate people in the checkout line breathing down my neck, and have stepped on many feet to get them off of me. I would feel comfortable hugging the huggy people here.
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post #24 of 29
1/6/11 at 9:02pm
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Originally Posted by krazy kat2 View Post
......I especially hate people in the checkout line breathing down my neck, and have stepped on many feet to get them off of me. .............
Hmmmmm.....I sort of like this idea. I think I'll try it....I've had people crowding me from behind in a line. "Oh. Sorry. Did I step on your feet?"
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post #25 of 29
1/7/11 at 10:08pm
I'm not a hugger or a toucher (unless you count the touching required to take blood pressure and such.) I don't like to shake hands and wish everybody would just do a fist bump, like Howie Mandel on Deal or No Deal.
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post #26 of 29
1/7/11 at 10:12pm
I like hugs from friends and family but not from people I don't know.. I am not always the one giving hugs unless it is my friends or family... I also don't like my personal space invaded. By animals, sure but people no.
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post #27 of 29
1/7/11 at 10:21pm
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Originally Posted by nurseangel View Post
I'm not a hugger or a toucher (unless you count the touching required to take blood pressure and such.) I don't like to shake hands and wish everybody would just do a fist bump, like Howie Mandel on Deal or No Deal.
Deep down I like to shake hands but I usually hope "Oh goodness, please please PLEASE don't extend your hand." (as my insides tremble) because I don't want to get static-zapped. I should be a case study for this phobia. I think it's called electrophobia. It's quite extreme with me. ... When someone simply nods and smiles and says "It's nice to meet you" I feel an overwhelming sense of relief! But if static wasn't a scientific fact in this world, I would definitely shake hands especially in initial introductions. When someone extends their hand to me in greeting, I shake back but with fear and often I close my eyes tightly, which I'm sure looks bizarro to the other person. ... A fist bump might zap me too so I always prefer nods and smiles over any type of touch.
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post #28 of 29
1/7/11 at 11:18pm
I am deffinitely not touchy-feely! I don't even like being around most people for too long at once! As a teenager I spent a lot of time in my room (I have 4 step-siblings). Even younger my Mom knew it about me. If I had a friend sleep over for more than 1 night or they didn't go home till late the next day after sleeping over, well we would inevitabley get in an argument. That was one way I knew my DH was the guy for me. I could be around him for long periods without arguing. Like when he took me to meet his parents for a week and then we spent the next week meeting my family. I can still spend copious amounts of time with him and not get irritated like I would with someone else.

So I guess with him I am touchy-feely. I do like my space sometimes; but I need that physical connection with him. I also love lovin' on my daughter. But there are times with other people I have to remind myself that they might need a hug! LOL! That sounds awful doesn't it? One of my best friends is VERY physically affectionate. When she's been going through some things and needs a hug it's actually hard for me sometimes because what she needs is opposite of my nature.
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post #29 of 29
1/7/11 at 11:20pm
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Originally Posted by c1atsite View Post
Deep down I like to shake hands but I usually hope "Oh goodness, please please PLEASE don't extend your hand." (as my insides tremble) because I don't want to get static-zapped. I should be a case study for this phobia. I think it's called electrophobia. It's quite extreme with me. ... When someone simply nods and smiles and says "It's nice to meet you" I feel an overwhelming sense of relief! But if static wasn't a scientific fact in this world, I would definitely shake hands especially in initial introductions. When someone extends their hand to me in greeting, I shake back but with fear and often I close my eyes tightly, which I'm sure looks bizarro to the other person. ... A fist bump might zap me too so I always prefer nods and smiles over any type of touch.
Static shocks can really hurt! When I used to teach computers my hands would ache from getting shocked so much. I had to learn to carry a pencil around because it would prevent me from getting shocked so much pointing at peoples monitors. I can see how someone would develop a phobia of it!
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