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How to stop sexual behaviour

post #1 of 21
12/17/10 at 3:32am
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My 6-year old neutered male has been displaying sexual behaviour towards my partner and I (but not to our other cats), and it's now escalated to the point that he's become aggressive towards both us and his fellow felines.

Apart from the obvious unpleasantness, it's beginning to take over my relationship with him.

How can I stop this?
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post #2 of 21
12/17/10 at 5:50am
I would take him to the vet to make sure there is nothing else that is bothering him...
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post #3 of 21
12/17/10 at 6:15am
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fjartiz, thanks for the reply.

He's been doing this all his life, but (bit of a long story..) he went missing for a while, and it seems to be worse since he returned.

I'm still a bit reluctant to take him to the vets for this right now for financial reasons - he has other health issues, and we've just paid out a substantial sum for a cardiogram as his insurance unfortunately ran out during the period he'd been missing...long and complicated story, like I said.

What are the alternatives? I'm sure I'm not the only one to come across this problem.
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post #4 of 21
12/17/10 at 6:16am
What do you mean by partner? Do you mean business partner? You could find another place to have business meetings outside of your home.
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post #5 of 21
12/17/10 at 6:22am
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I mean my life partner, not business partner.
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post #6 of 21
12/17/10 at 7:04am
Well…that was a bit odd.

Is there any way to get his insurance reinstated? Though they'll likely consider everything pre-existing to get out of covering it.
Since this is a long term behavior, are you sure they fully neutered him? It's possible to miss one if it didn't decend.
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post #7 of 21
12/17/10 at 7:37am
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strange_wings, thanks for your input.

I doubt they'd reinstate the insurance for a number of reasons - he was missing for 2 years(!), the policy was in my mother's name, and I don't have the policy details anymore.

May be a silly question, but is it possible to tell whether or not the neutering was performed correctly without seeing a vet? He does occasionally..secrete a fluid.. when he's displaying this behaviour..
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post #8 of 21
12/17/10 at 8:22am
I have a cat with the same problem. I keep a stuffed animal on the sofa next to me and when he starts up, I just redirect him over to the stuffed animal. I think he likes the softness of the stuffed animal because he starts kneading it and is happy with that instead of my arm.
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post #9 of 21
12/17/10 at 8:43am
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Originally Posted by kluchetta View Post
I have a cat with the same problem. I keep a stuffed animal on the sofa next to me and when he starts up, I just redirect him over to the stuffed animal. I think he likes the softness of the stuffed animal because he starts kneading it and is happy with that instead of my arm.
We had the same problem with our male cat and we do the same thing
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post #10 of 21
12/17/10 at 9:22am
Welcome to TheCatSite.
What is your kitty's name?

I am just guessing-
I have no experience with this issue but, could this behavior, that has escalated recently, be a symptom of urinary crystals or a urinary tract infection?
Watch his litter behavior. Does he look uncomfortable when he goes?

I am glad that you found our site
and hope that you find a way to resolve this issue.
Please make yourself at home.
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post #11 of 21
12/17/10 at 9:38am
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Soft toy, eh? Will give that a go next time he starts up - should be good for a laugh if nothing else!

xocats, thank you for the welcome! As far as I'm aware, he's not displaying any signs of being uncomfortable using the litter tray, but I'll definitely keep an eye out, thanks for the heads-up.

Will let you all know if I manage to resolve this, and, in the meantime, further input is appreciated!

Edit: Kitty's name is Dudley
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post #12 of 21
12/17/10 at 9:46am
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Kitty's name is Dudley
Hi Dudley

A quick aside...
you mentioned that you have other kitties...
just to let you know, we have a forum where, if you want, you can introduce yourself and your kitties to our members.
New Cats On The Block
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post #13 of 21
12/17/10 at 11:08am
I found this thread here when I did a google search for neutered male cats humping (what does comcast think of me now?)

http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=77896

It says the humping isn't necessarily sexual, it could be attention-seeking, and the best advice is to give your cat extra attention, especially when he gets in those moods. Try to distract him with attention so he doesn't start hunmping anything.
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post #14 of 21
12/17/10 at 12:16pm
Wellington has always done this - to me and to his constant cat companion, though he ignores the other cats. He has a stuffed rabbit that I can distract him with, or a cushion. I asked my vet about it and he said that the vet would know if he had not found both testicles when neutering - you cannot leave a bit behind like happens occasionally with spaying females. But he had no other advice to offer, unfortunately. I agree, it can be very disconcerting.
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post #15 of 21
12/17/10 at 9:33pm
If his sexual behaviors are getting to a crisis point, I believe there are feminizing hormones the vet can give him. Progesterone, I think? Depo-provera? I understand the hormones are commonly used in Europe to prevent/treat spraying, but I'd imagine they would minimize other sexual behaviors as well.
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post #16 of 21
12/17/10 at 10:52pm
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Originally Posted by Willowy View Post
If his sexual behaviors are getting to a crisis point, I believe there are feminizing hormones the vet can give him. Progesterone, I think? Depo-provera? I understand the hormones are commonly used in Europe to prevent/treat spraying, but I'd imagine they would minimize other sexual behaviors as well.
Wow, that is a good idea! Clyde does it a LOT; it can't be all that comfortable...
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post #17 of 21
12/17/10 at 11:27pm
Perhaps hormone treatment can be the first step to a sex change operation for the kitty. Perhaps Dudley is a female cat trapped in a Tom-cat's body.
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post #18 of 21
12/18/10 at 12:01am
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Originally Posted by Words
Soft toy, eh? Will give that a go next time he starts up
They have those stuffed Elmos that are the right size that giggle and say "that tickles" when touched...
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post #19 of 21
12/18/10 at 1:55am
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Perhaps hormone treatment can be the first step to a sex change operation for the kitty. Perhaps Dudley is a female cat trapped in a Tom-cat's body.
Are you real??
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post #20 of 21
12/18/10 at 5:20am
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Originally Posted by rad65 View Post
I found this thread here when I did a google search for neutered male cats humping (what does comcast think of me now?)

http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=77896

It says the humping isn't necessarily sexual, it could be attention-seeking, and the best advice is to give your cat extra attention, especially when he gets in those moods. Try to distract him with attention so he doesn't start hunmping anything.
Funny you say that, I was thinking the same thing when I had a female cat a few years ago that would do odd things to get attention.
Although the "behaviour specialist" told me to give attention only on your own term, in some sort of routines... and play properly.. not just when it sort "falls" into your own feel like it to =D.. dont mean you not playing.. just saying sometimes life gets into our daily ways and they sometimes look fine.
but have a moment everyday when cuddle and when playing and when you cant, you cant... and when he does the things you dont approve, walk away.
Do not pay attention to what he is doing, if he doing it to you.. stand up and walk away... if he stops... give him a treat, and play with him with one of his own toys.
=D that is what I would do =D.
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post #21 of 21
12/18/10 at 10:16am
Accept your cat's sexual behavior and don't judge your cat because of his sexual preferences. He is just being himself. Accept the kitty for who he is.
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