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I think my cat is way to dependent on me

post #1 of 6
11/25/10 at 4:46pm
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I have a 15 week old male white russian blue cross he is obsessed with me. Here is a list of things he does:

If I move he is right beside me
If I'm standing up he is on his hind legs reaching his front paws up crying until I pick him up
He screams not cries it is the most horrific noise you can hear if I go to bed and close the door
If I am sitting down he is either on my lap or on my shoulder licking me and it is constant
If i put him down he cries and jumps right back up on me and of course starts to lick me and hold my face in his paws and rests his forehead on my chin.
He bites and claws the dog if he comes near me
He hisses at my kids when they come near me
If my kids try to hug me he cries and squeezes in between us and pushes the kids away

I think he thinks he owns me lol
It is absolutely adorable but aren't cats suppose to be independent
what do you think is he obsessed or what?
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post #2 of 6
11/25/10 at 7:37pm
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Originally Posted by lilbear78 View Post
I have a 15 week old male white russian blue cross he is obsessed with me. Here is a list of things he does:


He bites and claws the dog if he comes near me
He hisses at my kids when they come near me
If my kids try to hug me he cries and squeezes in between us and pushes the kids away
Those are really the only three things I would personally worry about. Grant you I am not in your shoes, but I am a licensed vet tech as well as having worked around the USA in no kill rescues. So to me those other behaviors your kitty exibits that worry you makes your kitty sounds great to me .


Now how long have the cat and dog "known each other"? How does the dog treat/behave around the cat? If you would be kind enough to answer those questions then I can hopefully guide you into better cat dog relations.

You say when your children come near you the cat hisses. Does the kitten seem to be back away from the kids hissing, if so that indicates your kitten is scared of your children. I would say if this is the case have your children give the kitten treats. If this does not seem to be the scenario could you explain what you mean by your kitten see's your children and hisses?

As far as your kids hugging you and the cats reaction just simple keep hugging your kids. The kitten will eventually get over it. If your worried about "upsetting" the kitten I would say hug your kids and kitten at the same time.

Lastly was this kitten bottle fed?

Hope I have been somewhat helpful and if you need any clarification please let me know.
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post #3 of 6
11/26/10 at 8:11am
Have you tried the Feliway diffuser? It's a calming product. Here's what it looks like:
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post #4 of 6
11/26/10 at 5:46pm
Other than what he's doing to your kids, I wish my cats acted like that towards me!
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post #5 of 6
11/29/10 at 8:44am
I have to admit that I kind of love it that my boys are pretty dependent on me and show it a lot too. But wait - there is a downside to it too! Like said it's not nice if it goes too possessive, and I do not allow it to go aggressive even when I do understand that tiny one can't help feeling greedy and jealous now and then.

And one terrible thing is that when you have to leave them behind, it's a heartbreak because they are so attached to you only. A lot of anxiety and depression follows. I just came back from vacation. It takes conscious effort not to worry about the furbabies when away, and then it takes a gooood while to recover when I am back. My most sensitive boy is still glued to my teet and it's a week from when I came back!

My advice - encourage your baby not to be so dependent even though it's endearing, it'll make it easier for him and you. And I agree, do not allow aggression towards others who want to share your affections. There's limits to healthy loving even from cutiepies!
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post #6 of 6
11/30/10 at 6:28pm
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Quick update to answer some of the questions...The dog and draco get along awesome as long as draco isn't near me or sitting on my lap. They play together eat next to each other and sleep curled up on the couch together. Also the Kitten loves the kids unless he is sitting on me and the kids try to come near me. When he hisses or claws somebody or the dog when he is sitting on me I now put him down and walk away from him. He is starting to learn that, that behavior is inappropriate. Still extremely loving and follows me but I love that this is the first time I've had a cat that loves to be held and I'm enjoying every moment of it Thank you for all the suggestions and will keep working on Draco
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